I know this is not rocket science, but this morning a thought crossed my mind about the way an adopted child becomes FAMILY.
It seems like one day you wake up and realize how far your child has come. I realize how much more a part of the family he/she is than the day, week, month or year before.
Each adopted child has their own time frame and experiences in this process. But there is one common factor I see in them all.
Books on attachment are extremely resourceful. Advice from other B.T.D.T. adoptive parents can be like fresh water in a desert land.
But in many cases, time is a vital player in the game. And it’s the one thing that requires a lot of patience, because there’s no sure fire way to say how much time will pass before a real bond occurs.
I’m not saying one should just sit around and wait, doing nothing to help the attachment process. Not at all!
Not rocket science, right? Not by a long shot. But maybe it might encourage someone out there who is in the thick of it.