aging out child: Tula
September 30, 2014
Advocacy, aging-out child, Family Found, older child adoption
Thirteen years. Most of us remember where we were 13 years ago this month. And although some of those memories are still very vivid in our minds, in reality we see 2001 is pretty far in our rear-view mirror. Thirteen years was a long time ago. Now add another 6 months to that. Thirteen years …Read More
Hydrocephalus and Baby Hope
September 29, 2014
Advocacy, hydrocephalus
In the world of adoption advocacy, I’ve kind of become the mom that everyone asks about hydrocephalus. When a parent is reviewing a file of a hydro baby and has questions or is looking for a medical team to take a look, I always seem to get tagged in their advocacy post. “Kelli has a …Read More
find my family: Timmy
September 28, 2014
Family Found
Update: My Family has found me! This little guy is Timmy. He was born July of 2009. He has been in an orphanage since he was 5 months old. This young man is developing well. He is a great sleeper and eater. He is talkative and loves to sing and play games. He enjoys playing …Read More
Overexposed
September 27, 2014
adoption realities, Hannah, orphanage realities
I’ve been in America since May, which means that I haven’t been to an orphanage since April, which means that it’s been many months since I last took pictures of orphans. Because of this I’ve had some extra time (ha! Is there any such thing?) to go through old pictures. Y’all, I’ve taken a lot …Read More
Adopting a Toddler with Hemophilia
September 26, 2014
Family Stories, hemophilia
Our household looks a lot like the average family; a coupe of kids, a beloved pet and constant chaos. We ever so skillfully (insert sarcasm) navigate pre-school, after school activities and a whole lot of fun. By all accounts our life is pretty “normal”. A new addition to our normal has been the management …Read More
God’s Calling (And He’s Using a Megaphone)
September 24, 2014
adoption realities, Rebecca
We adoptive parents are a feisty, powerful bunch. We are in pursuit…on mission…active…hoping…
dossier building…finger-printing…connecting….fundraising…hurdle jumping…praying…planning…
counting-down…conferencing…reading…packing…travelling…bonding…adjusting…teaching…nursing… care giving…loving. But are we listening for God’s voice? Many claim that adoption starts with a calling. God speaks and we respond. And for a glorious moment, our ears are perfectly tuned to His voice. Sometimes though, somewhere along the …Read More
She Smiles
September 22, 2014
cl/cp, Craniofacial, guest post, referral
Late one Monday night, I incessantly hit ‘refresh’ on my computer screen hoping for an email. Longing for THE email. The minutes felt like hours and then suddenly something popped up. The subject simply had a name – my daughter’s name. A flood of emotions overtook my husband Chris and I as we opened that …Read More
Mothering Together
September 21, 2014
adopting as a single mom, Desiree, working mom
When I learned my boy was in foster care, I found myself praying for the woman who was caring for my child. She was doing her job and I was appreciated her. When I heard that she co-slept with my boy keeping him safe by her side at night and that Isaac’s favorite activity was …Read More
Together
September 20, 2014
adult adoptee
My adoption story is a common adoption story. It began in South Korea. Through a sequence of unknown events and decisions, I spent time in both an orphanage and foster home before I was adopted at the age of five months. I was welcomed into a family in Michigan with two parents who longed to …Read More
International China Concern
September 19, 2014
International China Concern
In 1993, a newborn baby girl was brought to a Chinese orphanage. She lived less than 24 hours. She died without a name. Without a family. But her short life touched one man, and he started International China Concern (ICC). That man, David Gotts, thought there had to be another way, a better way, for …Read More
I’m Pretty Sure My China Mommy Cried
September 19, 2014
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Mike
As an adoptive parent, I sometimes forget that my adopted children had a life before me… that their life did not start when we met in a Chinese Civil Affairs building. The following essay was written last year by my 9 year old daughter, Mia, as part of a class assignment on “A Place I …Read More
aging out child: Jonathon
September 18, 2014
Advocacy, aging-out child, Family Found, older child adoption
Jonathon ages out next February and is listed with Wide Horizons. “Jonathan is a sweet and smart boy who is hoping everyday for a family in the United States. Sadly, this wonderful kid only has 6 months to find a family! Under Chinese adoption law Jonathan must be adopted before he turns 14 years old. …Read More
The Fruits of Attachment Labor
September 17, 2014
Attachment, Nicole
While we were waiting to bring Sunshine home back in 2010 and 2011, I learned as much as I could about fostering attachment. I tried to memorize all of the attachment advice. Build trust by meeting needs quickly, check. Be the only ones to meet all of her needs, check. Love unconditionally, check. Don’t let …Read More
special need highlight: adopting a child with ichthyosis
September 16, 2014
Family Stories, ichthyiosis, Skin Conditions
Every adoption story is unique but if there’s one common thread, it has to be all the waiting that is involved. Waiting for the home study to be completed, waiting for the dossier to be sent, and waiting to travel. But waiting to find out who your son or daughter is may be the hardest …Read More
No Boys?
September 15, 2014
gender as a special need, heart defect, Jean, older child adoption
That’s what we were saying back in 2006. We had 4 biological sons and felt like that was a good number. We had one daughter and felt like the Lord had perfectly planned it… we needed more girls! I had always dreamed of a sister for Katie. Of course not one that was 20 years …Read More
Brave New World
September 13, 2014
Kelly
She’s living her childhood dream. I can still hear her squeaky little 3-year-old voice saying, “I do! I do! I do!” It’s been her mantra really over the years. And, now, it’s her turn. She’s finally part of the club whose membership card is a backpack. She’s a school girl. While her brothers and sister …Read More
find my family: Aaron
September 10, 2014
Family Found
Update: My family has PA! Aaron was born in April of 2013 and found a few days later. Aaron’s special need is listed as post-operative congenital esophageal atresia revascularization and post-operative transverse colostomy. His adoption file was completed in June 2014 when he was 13 months old. They report he is living with a foster …Read More
Special Need Highlight: Adopting a Child with Complex Cloaca
September 8, 2014
ambiguous genitalia, anorectal malformation, bowel management, cloaca, Family Stories, Urogenital System
I have to be completely honest from the start. We did not choose this special need. We had never even heard of it! And if we had known what it might entail, I can tell you plainly, we would have chickened out. But God knew that and kept us in the dark so He could …Read More
Ready or Not…Kindergarten, Here I Come
September 5, 2014
heart defect, older child adoption, Tara
I’m no novice when it comes to parenting. And I’m definitely not a novice when it comes to sending my kids off to Kindergarten. But this year, there was something different about the three times I’d done it previously. This time it was my China babies. Nothing could have fully prepared me for the first …Read More
In the Miry Clay: Trust Based Parenting
September 3, 2014
Attachment, cl/cp, Jennifer, TBRI DVD Series, Trust Based Parenting
I was thinking about parents in the adoption trenches today, those stuck down deep in the mud – you know who you are and this one’s for you. I have had a little time in the trenches, not nearly as much as some of you, but I know that when you are in the muddy …Read More
Two Septembers
September 2, 2014
heart defect, Kam
He sauntered into the room While our hearts were beating fast, The papers had been signed No longer an orphan, a son at last. A grin stretched wide Across his adorable face, Straight to his daddy’s lap A picture of grace. We played, we laughed We shed a few tears, But he? He just giggled …Read More