Southern Hospitality 2014 is underway

October 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


From Lifeline’s website:

Our goal in this endeavor is to shower these children with love, introduce them to the culture of the southern United States, and provide them with some unique experiences. This event is also an important element in our on-going development of our orphanage partnerships in China.


Through our partnership orphanages we are able to serve the children of China, both adoptable and unadoptable, orphanage staff, directors, and government officials. We are grateful to be able to participate in an opportunity such as this one. Check in on this unforgettable and life-changing experience for these precious children! Get to know the children of Kunming City!

For more information, visit Lifeline’s blog here.

a family for Jude

October 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

A while back we shared about a little girl named Lee Lee who needed a forever family. And today we have another little one who needs a forever family of his own.

This is Jude.

We met him this summer when we visited the orphanage where he lives. He is almost 8 years old.

It is a loving orphanage where he gets good, consistent care, but it’s not a family. He wants a family so he can thrive and be all he can be.


We highly suspect he needs glasses as he would hold things really close to his eyes. He seemed very studious to us and liked to pick up bugs and hold them very close so he could inspect them.


There were other boys there that ran around and would play soccer with us, but Jude stayed back. Not sure if he didn’t participate because he cannot see very well or if he just didn’t want to.


He is a very sweet boy and has the cutest little side smile!

We cannot wait to see this one in a family.

Please contact Lori for more information on this precious boy!

– guest post by Lori McMurphy

Down Syndrome Awareness Month

October 21, 2014 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

October is Down syndrome Awareness Month. An entire month to celebrate those who were gifted with an extra gene. Which is kinda cool, if you think about it…like a national birthday party for your DNA. It’s hard to get better than that!

I frequently describe Down syndrome as an ‘extra chromosome of love’. It is the most perfect explanation I have for how God lovingly knit my boy and his chromosome buddies together. I imagine Our Heavenly Father sat down with the angles and said:

“Now, I’m going to create a TRUE masterpiece. I will mold these special humans together perfectly with an extra chromosome of My love. The world will say these wonderful children are broken & disabled, but they will reflect My image purely. They will move a little slower, taking time to enjoy My creation and the people I have placed in it. They will live & move & BE in My presence effortlessly. Despite physical difficulties like hearing loss and speech delays, they will hear My voice easily and learn to speak gently and with grace. Their understanding of Me will not be limited by man’s theology or legalism, it will be doubtless as it should be. Man will labele them simple, but they will love deeply and unconditionally….like Me. When the world says my splendid creation shouldn’t be born, I will declare My perfect peace, My complete joy, My total love over them again, and again, and again”.

Now THAT is something to be aware of! My child isn’t perfect, he is still human and a toddler at that, which makes him a tad bipolar. But when I glimpse of how the Lord works through my little boy’s extra genes, I am acutely aware of the damage of sin genetically inborn in me. Man’s pride has created a world that celebrates physical and intellectual “perfection”, absolutely setting aside God’s defining perfection — love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, kindness, faithfulness. If you add serious dance moves to that list, you have a near perfect description of those with Down syndrome!


So happy Down syndrome Awareness Month. I hope you get to love on those around you rocking an extra chromosome. (I REALLY hope they get to love on you too! My boy gives the best hugs!!) Take a moment to see the Lord’s heart at work. Ask yourself how you can be more like the One who perfectly created us all. And then ask the Lord how you can help bless those with an extra chromosome of love and their families. I betchya they’d LOVE to welcome you in!

Here are a few organizations and ministries you can consider supporting:

National Down Syndrome Society
Bethany Christian Services’s Bamboo Project
National Down Syndrome Adoption Network
GiGi’s Playhouse
Down Syndrome Community


The Ayers Family Writes Their Own Story

October 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours 5 Comments


As people grow up, get married, and launch into a life together, there’s a funny series of conversations that often encircles these rights of passage. Even as a teenager, I remember the chatter. “How many kids do you think you’ll have?” And after weddings, I’ve heard, “When do you think you’ll starting trying?” Right after …Read More

Find my Family: Sam

October 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Sam is fun, engaging, and is now eleven years old. His age and the fact that he is a boy are likely his biggest special needs. He has seen many friends be adopted, yet he still waits. How hard that must be for this sweet eleven year old, to dream of a family yet never …Read More

Re-Aging and Un-Twinning: Sam and the Time Machine

October 19, 2014 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments


Or, how my son got younger since we adopted him. We recently celebrated Round 2 of my son Sam’s fourth birthday party. On the surface, this may not seem unusual. A lot of people might have two different birthday parties – one at school and one at home, one with family and one with friends, …Read More

waiting child highlight: boys with hemophilia

October 18, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

If you know someone considering a boy, share with them these precious faces. Each of these boys has hemophilia, which is so manageable in the United States. Right now, these boys’ access to treatment varies, depending on their location. But, once they age out, they will have little to no access to treatment at all. …Read More

what we’re reading links : 10.17.2014

October 17, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


From the last few weeks (okay, it might be more like months… but it was summer, y’all), some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child. As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d …Read More

Taking Care of Business – part 2

October 17, 2014 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

In my previous poop and potty post I shared with you about our son who was born with spina bifida and as a result he is incontinent. After watching him sit on the waiting child list the Lord made it clear that he was our son and that we could do this special need. And …Read More

find my family: Channing

October 16, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Channing is now over 5 years old. He is extremely cute, and his big eyes are bright and sparkling, as if they could speak. Under his delicate nose, his sweet mouth has grown into quite the talker. Everyone really likes him. However, Channing tends to speak a little childishly when he talks. All of his …Read More