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Lifeline: children from Kunming

October 31, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Please take a moment to view Lifeline’s waiting children that are highlighted below. If you have any questions, or want more information on any of these children or a child you see on Lifeline’s website, please contact them here.


 

Kelly

Kailey – female, age 9 years, cleft palate. Kailey is a sweet little girl who is described as being outgoing, lively and sociable.

Kailey likes doing activities and games with children around her age. Kailey does well with sharing her toys with the other children. Kailey is said to have a strong curiosity and wants to explore things around her. Kailey’s foster parents say that she is polite and helps without asking.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kameron

Kameron – male, age 13 years, post op scar on leg, Kameron is a very handsome young man who is described as being polite. He has an active and engaging personality. Kameron has a strong sense of curiosity and likes exploring to understand more as is said he has a strong thirst for knowledge. He is like most preteens who likes to watch TV.

Kameron likes his foster parents and is sensible and obedient. He likes outdoor activities and gets along well with other children around him as he is sociable. Kameron’s file states that he wants to own parents and find a family forever.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Keith

Keith – male, age 12 years, mild skin condition (fading pigment on both thighs and hip). Keith is a handsome guy. Keith is described as being extroverted, clever, active, outgoing, talkative, is fond of singing, and has a ready smile to share with those around him. Keith can speak some English. Keith shows leadership s skills as he likes learning and has a certain self-motivated and self-confidence about him.

Keith’s likes toys he has never seen before as he is very inquisitive; he will ask teachers questions. Keith gets along well with others and is happy to help the younger children.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kelly

Kelly – female, age 10 years, mild hemiplegia. Sweet Kelly is a girly girl who likes to dress up pretty and wear bright and colorful clothes. Kelly has strong self-esteem and can talk with those she is familiar with. Kelly likes outdoor activities and playing with her peers. She gets along well with the other children. Kelly likes to play with dolls and desires to have a family life.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kelsey

Kelsey – female, age 9 years, mild cerebral palsy. What a great smile Kelsey has! Kelsey likes all kinds of toys. She is described as being outgoing, lively, cheerful and sociable. Kelsey cares for others and items around her. Kelsey has a great curiosity of new things. Kelsey cooperates well with others and her teachers to accomplish tasks and assignments.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kendra

Kendra – female, age 6 years, small eyes, can see with close distance. Dispite her limited distance in vision, Kendra is very attentive to things around her and she has a strong curiosity. Kendra is described by her caretakers as being obedient, cute and sensible. She tries to help whenever she can. Kendra has a strong curiosity for new things around her.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kenny

Kenny – male, age 6 ½ years, deformity of the external part of the left ear and severe hearing impairment; mild heart murmur, and facial palsy. Kenny is a very sweet little boy with a love for life. In spite of his medical conditions he is a very smart and active little boy. Kenny appears to be age appropriate developmentally. He enjoys exploring new things. Kenny also likes to play with the other children and does well with new people.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kevin

Kevin – male, age 6 years, mild heart condition, medical condition affecting his limbs. Kevin is an absolute sweetheart who loves to be cuddled and comforted by others. Kevin’s caretakers describe his personality as outgoing and loves to listen to music. Kevin likes playing with colorful toys that make sounds. Kevin also likes to try foods that he has never eaten before.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kimmie

Kimmie - female, age 12 years, no medical special need listed. What an amazing smile Kimmie has. Kimmie is described as having a very outgoing, active and helpful personality. She enjoys playing with other children her age. Kimmie likes playing with all kinds of toys and is willing to share her things with the other children. Her caretakers say she has a strong thirst for knowledge and is sensible and obedient. Kimmie likes to be around her teachers and caretakers.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Koby

Koby – male, age 5 ½ years, mild hydrocephalus. Koby is described as being an active little boy who is smart and enjoys life. He likes watching TV, especially cartoons and can sing along with the songs on the TV.

Koby can run and jump and go up and down stairs alone. Koby likes his foster parents and is obedient with them. Koby likes outdoor activities, especially the slide.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kristin

Kristin – female, age 13 years, scar on hand. Kristin is a polite girl who likes her foster family. Kristin likes to watch TV and be with her foster family. Kristin likes outdoor activities and sports. She also gets along well with other children. Kristin likes school and listen well to the teachers instructions and has a strong thirst for learning what she can.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.


 

Kyle

Kyle – male, age 10 years, eye condition called cryptothalmus (missing eyelid) and calego cornea (speck on the cornea that causes dimness or obscurity of sight), normal mental function.

Kyle is an active and sweet little boy who enjoys watching cartoons. He is easily distracted with new things and people. Kyle loves his foster family, especially his foster brother. Kyle can express his feeling through language. Kyle can greet guests well and is very polite with them. Kyle helps with the household chores such as sweeping the floor, throw the garbage and setting the table. He is an obedient little boy. He cares about others around him and would willingly give his seat to an adult. Kyle also likes to play and gets along well with his peers.

Please keep in mind that several families may be reviewing this child’s file at one time. At any given time, this child’s file can go on hold or be taken back to the Shared List by the CCCWA. Please contact your Lifeline case worker or email me at annie.hamlin@lifelinechild.org for more information.

find my family: Luke

October 30, 2014 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Oh my… What a sweet face!! Dear precious Luke is 5 years old and he is listed with Lifeline Adoption. He is Special Focus and his special need is club feet. Just look at this adorable little face, he needs a family to turn that little frown upside down.

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This precious little guy was found at 3 years of age and was said to be upset at first but gradually adapted to “group life.” Luke is stated to be able to stand on his knees, crawl quickly and play on the slide. He is able to go up a platform and up and down stairs. Luke’s file states that he gets along well with other children and can carry on a conversation with his caregivers. He will undoubtedly thrive with the love, attention, and medical care a family could provide.

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Please contact Annie for more information.

I’m Just Sad

October 28, 2014 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

September is always a big month for our family. Both of our sons came home in September {2009, 2012} and our 8 year old, Joel’s, birthday is on the 4th. So we generally just have lots of good talks and eat tons of yummy food in celebration all month.

One evening, after having celebrated Gabe’s forever family day, Joel casually asked me when his was. I explained that his would be very soon. He smiled, gave me a quick hug, and shot off to the living room to build yet another Star Wars ship out of Lego.

I didn’t think much of it.

Joel’s day came and went. It was pretty normal as days around here go. He has never liked a lot of fanfare. He’s not comfortable being the center of attention {though he craves praise and attention individually}. He was pretty melancholy but Joel can be a grumpy Gus anyway. Bedtime came and he put up an argument for why he should be allowed to finish a movie with his dad. He lost though and reluctantly went to brush his teeth.

I went into he and Gabe’s room, like we do every night, to pray and tuck them in. Only Joel’s face was buried in his pillow and he would not look up. I rubbed his back, leaned over and prayed and said goodnight. I figured that he was just mad about the movie. And he was.

But there was more.

Joel is a kid plagued by triggers. Are your kids that way? Several things can just set him off. He has historically had a bit of a temper {mostly when he came home and for the six months after, but is sooooo much better now.} and sometimes events or circumstances just trigger either bad behavior or emotional breakdowns.

I guess that can be said of any of us really.

Sitting on his bed, waiting to see if he would respond to my request for a goodnight kiss, I heard a whimper. So I scooped up my big Thai Tornado and looked at his face. He stared deep into my eyes and tears began to fall from his.

“Baby, what’s wrong? Are you made about the movie? I promise, you can finish it tomorrow, but it’s bedtime, okay?”

He’s sobbing now and having trouble speaking at all.

I put him in my arms, hold him like an infant and rub his face.

“You can tell me, baby. Are you just upset with Daddy?”

Silence.

And then, “Mom, I’m just sad.”

“You are? Why? Is something bothering you?”

He nods, takes a deep breath and manages to say one word.

“Thailand.”

We talk for a couple of minutes and sweet boy begins to just unload all of these feelings while laying in my arms sobbing.

I ask several questions and let him do the answering. He misses Thailand. He misses his friends. He wonders if they are okay. What they are doing.

Raising his voice, “But I can even remember their names or what they look like, Mom!”

I decide then to bring him to his daddy in the living room. We sit and hold him close, rub his sweet face and just let him talk. We show him his Thailand coffee table book with pictures of his favorite caregiver and his two best friends. We explain that one of them was adopted right after he was by a family in Germany and the other went to France. We assure him that we believe they have families who love them and take care of them just like we do.

And we tell him that it’s okay. Okay to feel confused and upset and sad that he doesn’t remember. Okay that he doesn’t know things that he used to know. We reassure him over and over and over. We take deep breaths and hope that our words seep and settle into his heart.

I’ve read blogs and books and listened to adult adoptees speak at conferences. I’ve tried to glean from them and as best as I can, walk a step or two in their shoes. It’s impossible. I will never know what they know or feel what they feel or experience the loss they have known.

And in moments like these, it’s just gut wrenching. I want to take this from my son. I want to relate to him in a real way. To take on his hurt and trade my beginning for his.

Adoption is beautiful and lovely and redemptive. It’s continuing to place value on those for which Christ values. It’s an answer to prayers and longings both by children and adults.

Adoption is also ugly and scary and tragic. It’s losing and forgoing and forgetting.

Prosperity and calamity are married here. They are intertwined into the story of our Thai Tornado and our Little Prince…and your children too.

Kam

The good news is that, the next morning, our Joel was his happy go lucky self. Most days, most moments of each day, he looks just like this. A huge smile. A loud laugh and a heart that wants to please. But that night, he was just sad.

Maybe your children are sad sometimes too. And I’m learning to trust that that’s okay.



A Dream Come True: Adopting a Child with Down Syndrome

October 27, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

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Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” I always knew I would adopt from China. From a very young age, I remember being drawn to families who had done so, and …Read More

two boys in China

October 25, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

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Two boys in China right now. Separated by many miles and many years. Both of their stories are only known to me in pieces, in a few words shared by the oldest’s teacher and in a few smiles with the sweetest little chicklet teeth from the other. As I lay awake, trying to convince my …Read More

Unity: Compelled to Orphan Prevention

October 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours 7 Comments

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There is unity among adoptive families, a connection of experience, passion and heart. Becoming a card carrying member of this big, powerhouse club takes tears, bravery, faith, paperwork and prayer. We’ve paid our dues and call ourselves blessed to stand shoulder to shoulder, unified in many ways. Unified in celebrating adoption. Unified in raising funds …Read More

Southern Hospitality 2014 is underway

October 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

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  From Lifeline’s website: Our goal in this endeavor is to shower these children with love, introduce them to the culture of the southern United States, and provide them with some unique experiences. This event is also an important element in our on-going development of our orphanage partnerships in China. Through our partnership orphanages we …Read More

a family for Jude

October 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

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A while back we shared about a little girl named Lee Lee who needed a forever family. And today we have another little one who needs a forever family of his own. This is Jude. We met him this summer when we visited the orphanage where he lives. He is almost 8 years old. It …Read More

Down Syndrome Awareness Month

October 21, 2014 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

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October is Down syndrome Awareness Month. An entire month to celebrate those who were gifted with an extra gene. Which is kinda cool, if you think about it…like a national birthday party for your DNA. It’s hard to get better than that! I frequently describe Down syndrome as an ‘extra chromosome of love’. It is …Read More

The Ayers Family Writes Their Own Story

October 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours 7 Comments

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As people grow up, get married, and launch into a life together, there’s a funny series of conversations that often encircles these rights of passage. Even as a teenager, I remember the chatter. “How many kids do you think you’ll have?” And after weddings, I’ve heard, “When do you think you’ll starting trying?” Right after …Read More