Sink or Swim

January 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs, waiting children 0 Comments

Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida.  Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities.  There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More

The A Word in Adoption

December 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Wife of the Prez 0 Comments

Abandoned. Webster’s defines abandoned as “given up, forsaken.” And Webster’s defines forsaken as “to renounce or turn away from entirely.” The questions have begun crashing in for our little girl. My Mom asked me if I thought her overhearing our talks with her older brother about his China Mommy had brought this about more quickly …Read More

Parental Disappointment

November 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian 0 Comments

Doctor:  Congratulations!  You’ve got a son!Me:  Wow!  A son!Wife:  Oh look at him!  He is beautiful! Me:  He sure is!  Handsome!  Rugged!  He is going to be a star Athlete!Wife:  He can be anything he wants to be…Me:  So long as he is Athletic!  And rough and rugged like his Dad!Wife:  Ummmm… I don’t think …Read More

I prefer "Emotionally Challenged"

October 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, pre-adoption 0 Comments

Wife:  So, what are you looking forward to most when we get our new baby?Me:  Uh…  I donno.Wife:  Okay, um, what colour do you think we should paint in their room?Me:  Uh… I donno.Wife:  Okay… what do you think about the new chainsaw?Me:  OH!  The new Huskvarana 21″ with dual clutching system?  With the bigger …Read More

Adoption Reality #2: Special Needs Do NOT Define Children

August 30, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, heart defect, Wife of the Prez 0 Comments

This post is a bit of a detour for me from my original plan for my #2 Adoption Reality. I feel the need to share this though, and to add a disclaimer that these Adoption Realities I’m sharing are MY realities. They may not be the same for all of us, but for me this …Read More

Adoption Reality #1: When Your Vision Is NOT Your Reality

August 8, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Wife of the Prez 9 Comments

Bear with me for a few lines while I share with you about this post and hopefully a few more to follow. I mentioned in my last post on this blog that I was taking a break from posting at my personal blog … and I still am. For now. I received so many beautiful …Read More