December 23, 2013
adoption realities, Kelly
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Christmas 2009. Four Christmases ago. I was a wreck. We were so close to finding our new daughter. I just knew it would be a few weeks after Christmas; I hoped it would be a few weeks after Christmas. I was filled with expectation that Christmas. And, that meant that though I didn’t know who …Read More
October 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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A family for only a few months, I took my toddler daughter with me to visit a friend, an older women, a faithful woman I loved and respected. While Lydia was mesmerized with the dust in the air visible in the sun light, my friend shielded her mouth and whispered: Are you going to tell …Read More
September 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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I love shiny. Shiny is pretty. I love shiny…. She’s the finder of pennies. Everywhere she goes, she manages to find a penny. Today’s found treasure led to a song. Your turn to sing a song, Mommy. You make up a song. Not feeling particularly like a Maria this morning, Oh, I don’t know what …Read More
August 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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There are backpacks lined up in my dining room today. When backpacks are hanging on chair backs with zippers bulging with supplies and tissue boxes, even they look excited about a new year. Lydia doesn’t start kindergarten until next year. But, she’s joining me two mornings a week at a women’s Bible study. And, based …Read More
June 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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My sweet, You are such a big girl now. 4 years old. Wow. You remind me all the time of what a big girl you are. And, I know I always agree with you. But, now that you’re 4 years old? You are really big. When I put you to bed last night, I talked …Read More
May 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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He had to take her to the emergency room. We had been waiting in line at the fair for our tickets. I had told her to stay still too many times. Up and down, jump, up and down, jump. And, every time, the rickety metal steps leading up to the ticket trailer would rattle and …Read More
April 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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“Tell your mom I need to talk to her before you leave.” Please tell me I’m not the only mom who receives that message from her child and sinks a little. Come on. I figure either (a) someone wants me to do something (which I likely won’t want to do) or (b) my kid did …Read More
March 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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I was tracking with her. Lydia runs away. She can’t stay still. She’s not listening. I nodded my head, identifying with her sympathetically, “Yeah, I know what you are seeing because we see that at home too.” “Well, it’s not okay here.” (Apparently, time outs are though.) Okay, no longer tracking. It was dismissal, moms …Read More
February 25, 2013
adoption realities, Chinese Culture, Kelly
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Forever changed by the experience of being adopted and adopting, Kelly Raudenbush is a stay-at-home mom to 4 children and a professional juggler, juggling her calling as wife and mother with her secondary callings (editing professionally and serving adoptive families through The Sparrow Fund). You can learn more about their adoption story, how they’ve been …Read More
September 25, 2012
adoption realities, Nancy, protecting their story, questions from strangers
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I see you. And my children see you watching them. And even though you have a smile on your face, you are still drawing attention to us. I totally get it. You see, I used to be just like you! I’d see a family that looked a bit… hmmmmm… what’s the right way to put …Read More
July 25, 2012
adopting again, adoption realities, Nancy, Realities
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Dear Nancy (in 2007) I know you’ve just started to seriously consider adopting a child. I know that the thought of adopting has been on your mind not just years, but since you were a little girl and heard about the abandoned baby girls in China and saw videos of the Romanian orphanages. So I …Read More
March 26, 2012
adoption realities, Journey to Mazie, Nancy
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In the middle of the night, between the screeching and the pinching and the hitting… …the sweetest moments happen. Since coming home, Mazie and I have been awake 4-6 hours every night with only 1 exception. In the middle of the night while we sit on the couch, without knowing it, my head falls backwards, …Read More
March 7, 2012
adoption realities, Journey to Mazie, Nancy
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If the posts recently have been hard to read, you may want to skip this one. I put it out there for those who might be in our shoes next. Our girl is grieving so hard. I mean very hard. So much harder than Tess or Jude ever did. Harder than the other babies in …Read More
March 3, 2012
adoption realities, Kam
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Our Joel never mourned his losses in the same way a lot of children do. He came to us the day we met him, having just turned three years old, all smiles and hopped right into his daddy’s lap. When we left with him, he had a quite serious look on his face. Fear, I’m …Read More
February 16, 2012
adoption realities, Journey to Mazie, Nancy
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This might come off sounding awful, but here it goes. When my new daughter comes into my arms, {17 days from today!} I think it’s ok if she cries. Screaming, wailing, flailing… it’s all ok with me. And here’s the awful part, part of me is hoping there will be “a reaction” or some kind. …Read More
February 9, 2012
adoption realities, Gwen
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I am going to try and help you under something that may SEEM a bit odd, but I am finding it occurs more and more these days and before you get knocked over w/ the EMOTION of it perhaps I can make you aware of it, so that is can be ignored … One of …Read More
August 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida
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Ping: Dad! Dad! DAD! Me: What’s up baby? Ping: Can you take my picture?!Me: Of course! Let me get the camera. Ping: YAY!… a few seconds later … Me: Okay baby, smile for Daddy! Ping: What? No. I no smile. Me: But you gotta smile for the picture. You gotta look cute.Ping: I want you to take a picture of my …Read More
July 11, 2011
adoption realities, heart defect, Kristi
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I’ll never forget meeting our Daniel for the very first time. We had met both Caleb and Darcy around the same age and while Ian and I were thrilled, it could be said that neither of them were… I was prepared for a similar reaction from our youngest. As we approached the courtyard, the red …Read More
June 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida
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Hello, my name is The Yeti…… and I am a Coward. Ping enjoying a horse ride, even with Spina Bifida Now, I’m not ALWAYS a coward. There are many many things in life which I face bravely. I can wrestle with bears wrapped in bacon… but for the life of me, children scare me. Now …Read More
April 11, 2011
adoption realities, Kristi
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It has been almost a month since my grandfather died. Long past the the initial shock, and the trip “home” to Ohio for the funeral, the tears have continued to come, usually at unexpected times. Most recently it was over selecting a bunch of asparagus at the grocery. Standing there in the produce section I …Read More
January 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs
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Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida. Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities. There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More
December 27, 2010
adoption realities, Wife of the Prez
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Abandoned. Webster’s defines abandoned as “given up, forsaken.” And Webster’s defines forsaken as “to renounce or turn away from entirely.” The questions have begun crashing in for our little girl. My Mom asked me if I thought her overhearing our talks with her older brother about his China Mommy had brought this about more quickly …Read More
November 21, 2010
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian
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Doctor: Congratulations! You’ve got a son!Me: Wow! A son!Wife: Oh look at him! He is beautiful! Me: He sure is! Handsome! Rugged! He is going to be a star Athlete!Wife: He can be anything he wants to be…Me: So long as he is Athletic! And rough and rugged like his Dad!Wife: Ummmm… I don’t think …Read More
October 21, 2010
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, pre-adoption, referral
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Wife: So, what are you looking forward to most when we get our new baby? Me: Uh… I donno. Wife: Okay, um, what colour do you think we should paint in their room? Me: Uh… I donno. Wife: Okay… what do you think about the new chainsaw? Me: OH! The new Huskvarana 21″ with dual …Read More
August 30, 2010
adoption realities, heart defect, Wife of the Prez
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This post is a bit of a detour for me from my original plan for my #2 Adoption Reality. I feel the need to share this though, and to add a disclaimer that these Adoption Realities I’m sharing are MY realities. They may not be the same for all of us, but for me this …Read More
August 8, 2010
adoption realities, Wife of the Prez
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Bear with me for a few lines while I share with you about this post and hopefully a few more to follow. I mentioned in my last post on this blog that I was taking a break from posting at my personal blog … and I still am. For now. I received so many beautiful …Read More
