His heart


I’ll never forget meeting our Daniel for the very first time.  We had met both Caleb and Darcy around the same age and while Ian and I were thrilled, it could be said that neither of them were…  I was prepared for a similar reaction from our youngest. As we approached the courtyard, the red […]

I am a Coward


Hello, my name is The Yeti…… and I am a Coward. Ping enjoying a horse ride, even with Spina Bifida Now, I’m not ALWAYS a coward.  There are many many things in life which I face bravely.  I can wrestle with bears wrapped in bacon… but for the life of me, children scare me. Now […]

New perspective on loss


It has been almost a month since my grandfather died.  Long past the the initial shock, and the trip “home” to Ohio for the funeral, the tears have continued to come, usually at unexpected times.  Most recently it was over selecting a bunch of asparagus at the grocery.  Standing there in the produce section I […]

Sink or Swim

Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida.  Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities.  There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront […]

The A Word in Adoption


Abandoned. Webster’s defines abandoned as “given up, forsaken.” And Webster’s defines forsaken as “to renounce or turn away from entirely.” The questions have begun crashing in for our little girl. My Mom asked me if I thought her overhearing our talks with her older brother about his China Mommy had brought this about more quickly […]

Parental Disappointment


Doctor:  Congratulations!  You’ve got a son!Me:  Wow!  A son!Wife:  Oh look at him!  He is beautiful! Me:  He sure is!  Handsome!  Rugged!  He is going to be a star Athlete!Wife:  He can be anything he wants to be…Me:  So long as he is Athletic!  And rough and rugged like his Dad!Wife:  Ummmm… I don’t think […]

I prefer "Emotionally Challenged"

Wife:  So, what are you looking forward to most when we get our new baby?Me:  Uh…  I donno.Wife:  Okay, um, what colour do you think we should paint in their room?Me:  Uh… I donno.Wife:  Okay… what do you think about the new chainsaw?Me:  OH!  The new Huskvarana 21″ with dual clutching system?  With the bigger […]

Adoption Reality #2: Special Needs Do NOT Define Children


This post is a bit of a detour for me from my original plan for my #2 Adoption Reality. I feel the need to share this though, and to add a disclaimer that these Adoption Realities I’m sharing are MY realities. They may not be the same for all of us, but for me this […]

Adoption Reality #1: When Your Vision Is NOT Your Reality


Bear with me for a few lines while I share with you about this post and hopefully a few more to follow. I mentioned in my last post on this blog that I was taking a break from posting at my personal blog … and I still am. For now. I received so many beautiful […]