Required ESL Screening: Mom Really Might Know Best

July 7, 2013 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 2 Comments

My youngest just graduated from kindergarten. Come September, he’ll ride a bus, he’ll carry a lunchbox, he’ll have a pencil case. And so in preparation for all of that, we took him to the “big kid” school to register. I was given the usual forms–proof of immunization, emergency contact list, permission to access the internet, …Read More

What I Thought I Knew about Hep B

May 7, 2013 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 3 Comments

If you’d asked me seven years ago, right before we adopted our beautiful daughter, if I knew anything about Hep B, I’d have said sure. It’s a virus. It has something to do with the liver. What else do you need to know? As it turned out, our daughter’s case taught us that there was …Read More

I Was Almost on NPR

March 7, 2013 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 5 Comments

It was 2 weeks ago and I’d just dropped my son off for afternoon kindergarten. On the radio, a woman with some title that I fail to remember was saying how important it is for children adopted from other countries to have ties to that culture, how crucial it is that their parents make every …Read More

Hepatitis B: It’s an Easy Special Need…Except When It’s Not

February 7, 2013 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 8 Comments

If you ever check out special needs adoption forums, one of the most commonly asked questions, certainly in the top 5, goes something like this: Which special needs are EASY? It’s an honest question and one that parents who’ve experienced raising children with different special needs have tried to answer. I’ve jumped in many times …Read More

Family Medical History: How Much Do You Want to Know?

December 7, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 1 Comments

I have a great-grandmother, Verna, who lived to 103 years old. She tended her garden and lived in her own home until the very end, passing peacefully in her sleep. Verna is a shining star on my family medical history. My own father had debilitating arthritis as a child, as did a great uncle. Autoimmune …Read More

Language: Could he have kept the Mandarin?

November 7, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 16 Comments

We met our son just a few month’s shy of his fourth birthday. He spoke clearly (clearly enough for us to understand many of his basic phrases), he had no speech impediments and was a good communicator. Our guide in his province said, “He speaks well and knows very much.” At home in the United …Read More

Out of the Sketch Pads of Babes

October 8, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 1 Comments

This is the night we’ve waited for! KICK! Always a treat we have in store KICK! We love each other more and more… KICK With every family night…. I’ll spare you the rest. My teenagers would turn 10 shades of red if you happened to look into our windows on a Sunday night and see …Read More

The sincerest form of flattery……Or will the real XiXi please step forward?

August 7, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 9 Comments

When we adopted our nearly 4-year-old son, it felt completely natural and right for him to copy the sibling closest to him in age, his 6 year-old sister. He needed a tour guide to escort him through his new life and she was mostly happy to fill that role. What I didn’t realize was that …Read More

A Mother is Only as Happy as……

July 7, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 1 Comments

Her saddest child. I don’t know who said it, but dang it if it isn’t true. When all 5 of my children are happy (not necessarily ecstatic about life, but you know, content and satisfied), it’s fairly easy for me to follow suit. Life is good. But when one of those 5 precious souls is …Read More

Hep B Parents: 10 Reasons You Should Get Yourself to Philly

March 28, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 5 Comments

Hepatitis B Foundation 2012 “B” Informed Parent Conference An Outreach Program for Parents of Children Chronically Infected with HBV Saturday, May 19th 9:00-4:30 Holiday Inn Express Midtown 1305 Walnut Street Philadelphia, PA 1. The “B Informed” Conference for parents of children with Hepatitis B happens just once a year. You do not want to miss …Read More

Hepatitis B: Debunking the Myths

March 8, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 4 Comments

ADOPTING A CHILD WITH HEP B WILL PUT MY FAMILY AT RISK: A few years ago, a woman looking to adopt a special needs child sent me several emails, asking questions about Hepatitis B. After a fairly long, friendly exchange, her last email included the following line, “I guess I’m just not comfortable bringing in …Read More

An Anniversary, a Hope, and a Video

January 7, 2012 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 0 Comments

It’s been nearly two years since our youngest daughter had her last shot of PEG Interferon.  Two years since we happily bid farewell to the sharps container and the alcohol wipes.  Two years since we left behind the marathon naps and achy tummy and bloody noses.  And two years since we learned that our daughter …Read More

Back to School–Here and in China

August 7, 2010 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 1 Comments

My littlest one, my almost five year-old Cholita, is ecstatic about a certain date circled in red on our calendar.  It’s not her birthday, it’s not Christmas, it’s the day she’ll head back to school.  She adores all things scholastic–sharpened pencils, little chairs, worksheets, story time, sharing time, recess, and don’t even get me started …Read More

My Baby Tells Her Story

July 7, 2010 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+, video 23 Comments

It’s been less than six months since my daughter finished her year-long treatment with interferon.  The needles, the sharps container, the smell of the alcohol wipes, that whole experience has quickly become a distant memory.  At age four, it’s doubtful that my daughter will remember anything about it into adulthood.  That’s wonderful, but at the …Read More

Parties, Cell Phones, and Mercenaries: A Hep B Primer

March 6, 2010 by nohandsbutours Eileen, HepB+ 1 Comments

Have you read many medical journals? Have you perused through any articles in the Journal of Gastroenterology? Let me tell you, I’m not completely convinced they’re written in English. So when my big kids started asking questions about their sister’s hepatitis, I had to get creative. If you happen to be a pediatric gastroenterologist/hepatologist, just …Read More

Mary's daughter

August 31, 2009 by nohandsbutours Family Stories, HepB+, Infectious, Living Hope 0 Comments

by Mary, mom to a daughter from China with Hepatitis B It all started after watching three beautiful Chinese girls in dance class with my daughter each week. I had time to sit and chat with the mother who adopted these three beautiful girls from China. Each week we talked more about the adoptions. Adoption …Read More

Naomi ChuYu

May 4, 2009 by nohandsbutours cleft gumline, cleft lip, Family Stories, HepB+ 0 Comments

by Amy, mom to Naomi from China with cleft lip and gumline, Hep B and an abundance of joy Our adoption journey started in 2002. My first born son was just 2 years old. We were at an Easter party when a friend stopped by with her brand new daughter from China. She did not …Read More

Lydia Mei

February 8, 2009 by nohandsbutours Craniofacial, Family Stories, hearing impairment, HepB+, Infectious, microtia 0 Comments

By Andrea, mom to Lydia Mei from China with a SN of unilateral microtia/aural atresia We began our adoption journey in hopes of adding children to our home, but ultimately we found a much greater purpose and passion. The road to parenthood by way of China brought us into a deeper understanding of how we …Read More

ShuQin

January 31, 2009 by nohandsbutours Family Stories, HepB+ 0 Comments

By Tamara, mother to ShuQin from China with HepB+ I have three children. My son is a teenager, biological and a great kid who adores his sisters and is their hero. My two girls are adopted from China. They are 8 months apart in age (virtual twins) – the tiny twosome are the same height, …Read More

Fei Yan

December 10, 2008 by nohandsbutours Family Stories, heart defect, HepB+ 0 Comments

By anonymous, mom to Fei Yan from China with a heart defect (VSD) and Hep B+ When we began the adoption process we were pursuing a healthy child. God had other plans and soon opened our hearts to the children on the waiting child list. We filled out a form with our agency in April …Read More

Maya

November 19, 2008 by nohandsbutours Family Stories, HepB+ 0 Comments

by Eileen, mom to Maya from China who is HepB+ May 23, 2006 was a landmark day for our family. The day started with a phone call from our adoption agency. They told us that the night before they had e-mailed us the file of a special needs child and they wondered if we’d had …Read More

Grace

October 20, 2008 by nohandsbutours Family Stories, HepB+, Infectious, Lifeline 0 Comments

by Lisa, mom to Grace from China who is HepB+ My goodness. Where to begin. My husband and I were perfectly content with our life and the way our average sized family filled out our average sized home and average sized vehicle….life was sort of just bouncing along and then, there in my contented state, …Read More