Loving Luke

June 19, 2010 by nohandsbutours Nicole 6 Comments

I entitled this post Loving Luke because before Luke came home from China in May 2007…. he didn’t know love. He never knew love. Love doesn’t even capture all of what he was missing. He wasn’t fed, he wasn’t held, he wasn’t touched, he was totally and completely neglected. NEGLECT: to be remiss in the …Read More

Birthday Realities

February 19, 2010 by nohandsbutours Nicole 1 Comments

*** I originally posted this on my blog in Oct 2009. Our son Luke came home from China in May 2007. *** Monday was Luke’s 4th birthday. I had planned a light airy post about Luke’s party and how far he has come since arriving home. However, that was not what the Lord laid on …Read More

A special need defined: Giant Congenital Nevus

January 19, 2010 by nohandsbutours Congenital nevus, Giant Congenital Nevus, Nicole 4 Comments

*I wrote this post back in March 2009 shortly after we were matched with our new daughter Ava. Ava’s special need is Giant Congenital Nevus. I have added some additional detail now that she is home.** I have had several people email me requesting that I post some information about Ava’s special need. A commenter …Read More

In The Midst of Chaos

December 21, 2009 by nohandsbutours Hypoplasia of the Corpus Callosum, Nicole 9 Comments

**I wrote this blog post prior to leaving for China to get our new daughter Ava. This topic weighed heavily on my heart. I hope that it speaks immediately to whoever needs it.** Recently there has been a lot of talk about the d-word. The big yucky word that no adoptive parent or professional wants …Read More

Making the right choice…

November 20, 2009 by nohandsbutours Nicole 2 Comments

Our first experience with the special needs adoption matching process was in January 2006. 3 months earlier we had completed the adoption of our daughter Kiah from the China Non Special Needs (NSN) program. The path for that program is relatively simple. Apply to agency, complete homestudy and dossier, send dossier to China, get Log-In-Date …Read More

Can I handle this????

October 15, 2009 by nohandsbutours Amblyopia, developmental delays, Hypoplasia of the Corpus Callosum, Nicole, vision issues 10 Comments

I can still remember the first special needs checklist we ever filled out. It was March 2005. We had just sent our first dossier to China. Our checklist was quite simple. We stated cleft lip and palate, female and As Young As Possible (AYAP). My husband and I signed it and I quickly faxed it …Read More