He said IT

April 3, 2012 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, Sonia 10 Comments

He said it. Granted, he said it in rage. he said it anger. But regardless of why he still said it…. You are not my mama. Looked me right in the eye and screamed it into my face You are NOT my mama. Been home a little over a year and that is what came …Read More

Measuring Progress

March 17, 2012 by nohandsbutours Kelley, older child adoption 7 Comments

In just a few weeks, we will celebrate two years since our 3-year-old daughter’s Gotcha Day. In almost every way, it feels like Grace has been in our family since the very beginning of her life. She is not only fluent in English but has an advanced vocabulary (which she shows off in her Southern …Read More

Adopting the Older Child: Questions Answered

February 29, 2012 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, Wife of the Prez 2 Comments

In the past 20 months since bringing home an older child, I have often been asked questions and a compilation of those along with my answers are below. I do answer emails sometimes, but when I don’t it is often lack of time. With this post, I hope to be able to answer some of …Read More

trust and pretty shoes

February 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, Attachment, older child adoption 1 Comments

Trust is a funny thing.  You kind of don’t notice it, until it is gone… or was never there. I think the sword and shield is the universal symbol for “I don’t trust you yet!” Me:  Okay Ping, we have to run into my work for a second, then we will go home. Ping:  Okay. …Read More

Sleepless in Beijing

November 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida 0 Comments

So the wife is currently in China, and I’m still here in Canada.The Wife, BigD (our 2nd eldest son) and our new son Lukai are about 5 days away from coming home.There have been a great many thing which I’ve learned over the last few weeks.  Some of them related to adoption, most related to …Read More

Oh no, they are just like me!

May 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption 0 Comments

Waiting at midnight for StarCraft II to be released… Son #2 (D):  Daddy!  DAD!!!Me:  What?  Is something wrong?D:  No.  I just need to know how to say something.Me:  Oh, sure.  What are you trying to say?D:  Your mother has a smooth forehead.Me:  Your mother has a what?D:  It’s Klingon!Me:  Yes, I know that.  It’s also …Read More

Dear Cheeky, I Love You

March 31, 2011 by nohandsbutours albinism, older child adoption 0 Comments

Nine birthdays minus seven birthdays equals two birthdays. And Cheeky counts them. Last year. This year. Just as she counted her gifts this morning and noted that she had two more than she did on her eighth birthday. Does that mean we love her more now than we did then? Probably didn’t even cross her …Read More

How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Chaos

February 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida 0 Comments

Wife:  I have to head back to Winnipeg for a couple of weeks.Me:  Sure, no problem.  Here, let me help you pack the bags for the kids.Wife:  Oh no, the kids are staying here.Me:  hahahaa… oh, for a second there, I thought you said the kids were staying here.Wife:  They are.Me:  hahaha… oh, that’s funny. …Read More

Sink or Swim

January 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs, waiting children 0 Comments

Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida.  Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities.  There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More

Catch a Grenade For You

December 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption 0 Comments

Daughter #1 (G):  Daddy, why did that man say Grenade?Me:  Huh?  What?G:  In the song Daddy.  Listen.  He says Grenade.Me:  Okay… let me turn it up… I’d catch a grenade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)Throw my hand on a blade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)I’d jump in front of a train for ya (yeah, yeah …Read More

Collision of Two Cultures

November 7, 2010 by nohandsbutours guest post, older child adoption 0 Comments

One year ago two worlds collided in Eastern China as a 13-year-old boy met his American parents for the first time. What was to follow would be a dance of sorts, some missed footing, some stepping on toes, loss of rhythm… and finally, a year later, a harmonious blend of steps we call life. To …Read More

a thank you

July 31, 2010 by nohandsbutours older child adoption 4 Comments

I was so blessed by this news of a child coming HOME from China, I wanted to share with everyone here. Last fall, Shelly learned about a little girl in need of a family on No Hands But Ours. And now, Shelly is that little girl’s mama! Now that little girl has an entire family …Read More

Do You Really Love Me?

June 6, 2010 by nohandsbutours guest post, older child adoption 5 Comments

Today’s guest post is contributed by Connie, mom to eight children… two recently adopted (at the same time!) from China through the SN program, Kooper 14, and Kinley 2. Connie has shared their adoption story on our Family Stories page, and blogs about life as a mom of many at One More Ladybug. There is …Read More

There IS Loss

April 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, pre-adoption, Wife of the Prez 4 Comments

A recent post by TongguMomma has really had me thinking A.L.O.T. Right after I read her post, which I keep going back to just to read the comments, I received a very unexpected piece of mail. As in, snail mail, all the way from the East. Long story short, we had ordered a care package …Read More

The Photo

April 25, 2010 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, telling their life story 7 Comments

There is a picture on my computer. In it, a man holds two little girls. His head is bowed, his right hand lifted toward the sky, his left arm wrapped firmly around his charges. The girls are squirming bundles of energy. A matched pair, they look to be identical twins. The photo can’t hide their …Read More

Older Children Available on Shared List: Take a Peek!

April 23, 2010 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, waiting children 1 Comments

Are you looking for your child? Have you considered an older child, between the ages of 7 and 13? Here is the direct link to the blog of Pearl River Outreach. They are advocating for some very special children. This POST highlights SEVEN older children available for adoption NOW on the shared list. GO TAKE …Read More

my son

April 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours cl/cp, Craniofacial, Family Stories, guest post, older child adoption 0 Comments

Today’s post is a guest post, written by Amy who is in China now adopting her son, Xinran In just a few short weeks, 19 days to be exact, a 4 year old little boy with dark brown hair and black eyes will stand in front of me. He will call me Mama. I will …Read More

This I Can Give Her

April 6, 2010 by nohandsbutours albinism, foster care, older child adoption, Shirlee 7 Comments

Since my daughter’s birthday, I have been thinking long and hard about what she lost to be part of our family. After blogging about it, I received a number of emails asking if I feel guilty for taking my daughter from a loving foster home. The answer to that is complicated. In a perfect world, …Read More

on the road to healing

April 2, 2010 by nohandsbutours guest post, older child adoption 2 Comments

Today’s guest post is contributed by Connie, mom to eight children… two recently adopted (at the same time!) from China through the SN program, Kooper 14, and Kinley 2. Connie has shared their adoption story on our Family Stories page, and blogs about life as a mom of many at One More Ladybug. No doubt, …Read More

Firsts

March 18, 2010 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, Shirlee 13 Comments

I posted this to my blog two days ago but thought it might be worth posting here, as well. Especially in light of the new shared list. This blog is, of course, dedicated to special needs adoption. For older children who wait, age becomes a very specific special need. I often wonder what it is …Read More

The Scent Of Love

March 8, 2010 by nohandsbutours foster care, older child adoption 6 Comments

When I was little, my mother would sometimes bake cookies before I came home from school. I’d smell the chocolate and sugar and vanilla as I walked into the house, and when I saw my mother standing at the top of the stairs, I felt the love she had put into my afternoon snack. If …Read More

Not So Different

February 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours albinism, older child adoption 15 Comments

At church Wednesday night, there was an argument between several girls and my older daughter. I was home sick with a migraine, and I heard about the problem Saturday morning while driving to a meeting with the pastor’s wife. Hearing about Sassy squabbling with an entire group of girls over rules to a game they’d …Read More

Kooper and Kinley

February 16, 2010 by nohandsbutours cl/cp, Craniofacial, dual adoption, Family Stories, older child adoption 0 Comments

by Connie, mom to Kinley (2) and Kooper (13) adopted from China at the same time In August of 2003 when God instantly gripped the hearts of my husband and I for the orphan, we had no idea where He would lead us. We knew He was calling us to a task much larger than …Read More

The Past, The Present, The Future

January 29, 2010 by nohandsbutours albinism, older child adoption 14 Comments

Any good fiction writer knows that a character without a past is a cardboard cut out. No depth. No spirit. No life. An author can write all the angst and emotion she wants, but if her character comes from nowhere, her character will go nowhere. The same is true of life. Without knowledge of where …Read More

Kara

December 26, 2009 by nohandsbutours older child adoption 0 Comments

By Michelle, mom to Kara from China, adopted as an ‘older child’ December 21st marked six-months since we first met Kara. I struggle to believe it has been six months. On one hand, it seems like she has been a part of our family for far longer than that, but on the other, it seems …Read More

Jubilee

December 20, 2009 by nohandsbutours Linny, older child adoption 6 Comments

By Linny@A Place Called Simplicity I am sitting writing in our dark hotel room in Guangzhou, China. Emma (our 16 yr. old) and I came to finally (!) meet and bring home our Jubilee Promise who we have been in the process of trying to adopt for over 600 days. I was just reading my …Read More

"I Didn't Think They Gave Away Their Boys"

November 27, 2009 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, Wife of the Prez 7 Comments

I’m sorry if that title offended anyone or made your heart jump. To be honest, it offends me and makes my heart POUND. I hear it so often when I share about our waiting son in China, and often this comment is followed up with a question or more of a comment: “Oh, you aren’t …Read More

good stuff

October 24, 2009 by nohandsbutours giveaways, older child adoption, Stefanie 0 Comments

Amie and I are buds. We’ve partnered up on a few things, God-led things. One is No Hands But Ours, and the other is Wild Olive. Since she and I both have a passion for both, we came up with a way to combine the two… For the next five weeks, we’ll be giving away …Read More

A Helping Hand

September 26, 2009 by nohandsbutours A Helping Hand, CCAA, older child adoption, Stefanie 0 Comments

A Helping Hand Adoption Agency has updated their current list of waiting children.Additionally, they are participating in the CCAA’s “Trip of Hope” program. Read more here. For more information, contact:Dana Woods: dana@worldadoptions.org

ASIA's new program

July 10, 2009 by nohandsbutours ASIA, older child adoption 0 Comments

ASIA will be participating in a new program to help bring older children, with minor special needs, home from China. 20-30 children, ages 5-12, will be participating in this program. The adventure begins July 26th!! To follow along visit ASIA’s new blog, ASIA’s Hope Journey.

"Portrait of a Family"

May 24, 2009 by nohandsbutours older child adoption, Stefanie, video 0 Comments

Click here to watch an incredibly sweet video about a family that adopted a boy from China. And not a minute too soon.

Tim

March 16, 2009 by nohandsbutours CCAI, Family Stories, older child adoption 0 Comments

by Darlene, mom to Tim from China adopted as an older child Trust God Completely (Proverbs 3:5,6) Our story began in the fall of 2004. God had started to nudge my heart about adoption through circumstances that took place during this time. It seemed that I wanted to make sure He was leading me in …Read More

Candace

February 25, 2009 by nohandsbutours Craniofacial, Family Stories, hearing impairment, microtia, older child adoption, Sensory, Sensory Issues, Sensory System 0 Comments

by Laine, mom to Candace from China with bilateral microtia/atresia Older Child Adoption (and out of birth order, too!) After experiencing toddler adoption (two at one time!), my husband and I felt the call again from the Lord to adopt… only this time He called us to an eight year old girl who has bi-lateral …Read More