God of My Children

June 27, 2015 by nohandsbutours Medical Momma, Rebecca, surgery 1 Comments

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Ever learn something, quickly forget it, and need to be reminded again? During our daughter’s extensive surgery last November, God tapped into my medical momma’s fearful heart, comforting me with the revelation that I don’t have to be God of my children. It was a breakthrough parenting moment.  Little by little though, I again started mentally and …Read More

God is (Still) Good

May 24, 2015 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 1 Comments

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Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him.  Psalm 34:8 Sometimes I don’t like what God does.  Sometimes I can’t taste the sweetness, because of the hint of bitterness in the heart lesson. I don’t like when He calls me to something and then makes me wait.  …Read More

Let Tomorrow Be Tomorrow

April 23, 2015 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 8 Comments

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The surgeon walked out in his blue scrubs, mask still hanging around his neck, and found us awaiting word that the surgery was over.  The stitching, repairing, and testing was complete, and he offered  reassurance.  But, as we tend to do, we pressed.  What is the prognosis? How long is recovery? How much pain? Worst case scenario? When is …Read More

Yes.

March 24, 2015 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 39 Comments

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We say yes.  We say yes to adoption.  Not because we are ready, gutsy, extra loving, secure, or financially capable. We say yes to adopting children with special needs.  Not because we are strong, capable, patient, knowledgeable, or prepared. We say yes to adopting children with developmental delays. Not because we are competent, gentle, even …Read More

Medical Needs and Marriage: Ten Tips

February 26, 2015 by nohandsbutours February 2015 Feature, marriage, Rebecca 5 Comments

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You adopted a child with medical needs and the game changed. The Coach altered the playbook. The new little life in your family has your whole team scrambling to reorient themselves. You survived the stretching adoption process with its paperwork, lack of control, waiting and financial stress. You made it home, and you’d like to …Read More

Chronic: The Race Set Before Us

January 23, 2015 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, chronic conditions, Rebecca 4 Comments

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I am coming to terms with it.  This is not passing.  It’s not over after a surgery, or two.  Or after a therapy session, or three.  The first year is behind us, but there are more miles in this marathon.  I’m discovering what chronic means.  I’m learning that adopting a child labeled medically complex truly …Read More

Chosen for a Heaven – Sized Gift

December 24, 2014 by nohandsbutours Christmas, Rebecca 0 Comments

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Mary and Joseph’s road to parenthood was out of the ordinary. Their path to family was different from that of their Nazarene neighbors. God’s request of them was heaven sized, yet as simple as parenting a child. They were asked to make space in their lives, in their hearts, and in Mary’ s womb, for …Read More

the little light project – ways to shine your light this Christmas

December 15, 2014 by nohandsbutours Rebecca, Stefanie, the little light project 0 Comments

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A few weeks ago we asked for your help. We launched the little light project, with a desire to illuminate organizations that are working on behalf of the fatherless in China. We were thrilled with the response. So many hard-working, orphan-loving organizations that are – day-in and day-out – loving the least of these. Please …Read More

365 Days “Upon the Waters”

November 24, 2014 by Rebecca adoption realities, adoption situations, Rebecca 2 Comments

One year ago, we were somewhere over the ocean between East and West, with our two newly adopted, Mandarin speaking children. We were a muddled mix of joy, weariness, readiness to be home, heaviness from leaving our children’s birth country, and profound gratitude for our intensely beautiful time in China. Feeling the joy of long …Read More

Unity: Compelled to Orphan Prevention

October 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours orphan prevention, Rebecca 9 Comments

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There is unity among adoptive families, a connection of experience, passion and heart. Becoming a card carrying member of this big, powerhouse club takes tears, bravery, faith, paperwork and prayer. We’ve paid our dues and call ourselves blessed to stand shoulder to shoulder, unified in many ways. Unified in celebrating adoption. Unified in raising funds …Read More

God’s Calling (And He’s Using a Megaphone)

September 24, 2014 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Rebecca 16 Comments

We adoptive parents are a feisty, powerful bunch. We are in pursuit…on mission…active…hoping…
dossier building…finger-printing…connecting….fundraising…hurdle jumping…praying…planning…
counting-down…conferencing…reading…packing…travelling…bonding…adjusting…teaching…nursing… care giving…loving. But are we listening for God’s voice? Many claim that adoption starts with a calling. God speaks and we respond. And for a glorious moment, our ears are perfectly tuned to His voice. Sometimes though, somewhere along the …Read More

Fault Lines

August 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 10 Comments

It takes an earthquake to remind us that we walk on the crust 
of an unfinished earth. ~ Charles Kuralt At some point in my heart, you became just our little girl. You moved from orphan with a file, to a longed for daughter, to newly adopted, to just a loved girl with an incredible, …Read More

A Summer's Day

July 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 3 Comments

Childhood in summer. Unique for each kid, but much the same. It’s giggles, all day PJs, Crocs and popsicles. Children meeting, then heading out into the sunshine hand in hand as easy friends. The sun offers a special freedom. One of our recent summer days had notable stats: 1 water park, 4 mommas, 18 kids, …Read More

whatever it takes

June 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours Rebecca 8 Comments

Before there was a picture, my heart held an image of you. I penned my name on the adoption application, and your life was written into my heart. “Whatever it takes”, took on new meaning. The forms, the hoop jumping, the check writing, the calls, the fingerprints, the background check, the study of our home, …Read More

become a Mentoring Mom

June 2, 2014 by Amy Amy, Mentoring Moms, Rebecca, Stefanie 7 Comments

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I am so. excited. This project has been in the *dream* stage for a long time. But with a website overhaul pending, and realizing our need for more organizational and informational supports to make NHBO all it can be, the time to turn this dream into reality is now. Joining me on this adventure are …Read More

Stepping Up to Adoption/Orphan Ministry

May 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours orphan ministry, Rebecca 1 Comments

Amidst piling documents into our first dossier, we sensed that our adoption journey was to be a wider stretching. Beyond becoming mommy and daddy to three beloved gifts from China, God nudged us further. Our hearts enlarged for more kids than those to be in our family. We stood in our daughter’s social welfare institute …Read More

10 Things Adoptive Parents of Medical Needs Kids Want You to Know

April 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Rebecca 9 Comments

Our plane from China touched down just five months ago. With our two newly adopted kids, both with emotional and physical needs, we stepped out into new lives, all things from before suddenly family history. Life now is both harder and more blessing rich. Six hospital admissions, two surgeries, and a thousand tests and appointments …Read More

the fruit of your labor

April 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours Desiree, Mike, Rebecca, Stefanie 3 Comments

Two months ago, we asked for your help. We were looking for a few new bloggers to help round out the NHBO team. And boy-o-boy, did y’all come through. We received 115 nominations. And we sifted through each one. What fun to visit all those adoption blogs and read the stories of so many precious …Read More

Upheld

March 24, 2014 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Rebecca 12 Comments

We are connected, you and I. Our stories different, our kids’ needs unique, but I’m guessing we’re on a similar trek. Is your family being refined and blessed by a medical needs child? Yep, mine too. Are you worn out, and a bit fragile? Uh, huh. Feeling deep gratitude for the care of friends and …Read More

saying yes to complex conditions

February 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours complex medical, Family Stories, Rebecca, urogenital defects, urologic 7 Comments

Checking off medical conditions that we would accept on our agency’s medical checklist, and not checking those we wouldn’t accept, was among the hardest tasks of our adoption process. Our human side wanted to maintain our comfortable life, and longed for easy. In our hearts though, we knew that God’s plans are always much higher …Read More

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