More than I could bear

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Sometimes I forget that we have a child who is a “heart baby”, a lifelong cardiac patient, a survivor. I see her scars everyday. Scars from a surgery I wasn’t present for, scars from one I was; and, I have come to love what they represent. They are a daily reminder of healing, a unique […]

Surviving Gotcha Day

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A year ago today we had spent only one day with our daughter. After arriving in China, we spent 3 days in Beijing, visited the place she called Home for almost a year and met the women she called “mama”. Then we traveled to XinJiang, her province, tried to sleep on Gotcha Day Eve, and […]

“but it said repaired”

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I vividly remember reading our referral paperwork. I remember first reading the descriptions of her developmental milestones and evaluated her development through mom and teacher goggles… “she follows objects… she is tracking… she is grasping things… she is babbling and forming simple sounds… she turns her head when there is a noise… she can hear […]

TEF, TOF, and VACTERL, oh my

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Don’t you love those acronyms? I have come to really appreciate the time they save, the space they save, and that I can safely dodge oodles of mispronunciation. For example, until 2012 those letter sequences meant nothing to me. If someone would have told me years ago how much I would come to know about […]

the greatest special need of all

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Welcome to Amy, mom to Grace adopted from China 8 months ago, and our newest contributor at No Hands But Ours. Amy blogs at Stops Along the Journey. Special needs. We hear those words so often in so many places; schools, adoption agencies, the work place, fast food restaurants, and facebook. Adoptive parents who choose […]

Eyes on us

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I distinctly remember countless details about November 14th last year. It was a Monday and I was at our school where I work in 2nd grade. {We private school there two days a week and home school the other three days.} The sweet ladies at the front desk asked about our little boy in China […]

The Terminal Child

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I still don’t really know how we got here. I still don’t understand why that label Terminal. Didn’t make me turn away from him. Somehow. Someway. I knew. He.Was.Ours. And the fact that he hadn’t been given much time left on this earth somehow didn’t frighten me. It made me sad, certainly. For him, for […]

Kaylin Mei Lian

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by Anita, momma to Kaylin Mei Lian from China with Tetralogy of Fallot (CHD) As we began the adoption of our daughter, Kaylin, we went into it like many families requesting a non-special needs child as young as possible from China. We had already been blessed with three older, biological children who were healthy, and […]

Josie

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By Kim Kenward, mother to Josie from a China with a Congenital Heart Defect ~ Tetralogy of Fallot Our Journey to Josephine Xue Kenward When we first started out in the adoption process, we didn’t start out pursuing a special needs adoption. On July 31, 2007, we found our daughter on a waiting child list […]