what we're reading: 5.8.2014

May 8, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it…

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Rob from tea in fairyland reflects on life and parenting after four months with his girls in Fridays With Father.

In Jasmine Flower, Lisa of Seriously Blessed shares about her daughter Jasmine’s positive attitude, medical challenges and memories of her life in China prior to adoption.

Momma at Joy Embraced asked are personal questions acceptable? in regards to transracial adoptive families.

Over at Parenting With Connection, moderators provide nine ideas in response to the reader question what activities can I do with my child that also promote connection?

John Simmons offers a Very Simple Explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder to his then-teenage daughter, diagnosed with RAD and possessing an IQ in the high sixties.

Jim of Lanterns, Ladybugs and a Whole Lotta Love shares his conflicted thoughts about his child’s first parents in The Ghost at the Feast.

At Home Is Where the Heart Is, Andrea gives a comprehensive update on three of her children in No More Owies.

On its blog, Love Without Boundaries shares helpful information about the First Steps of the Adoption Process: What Happens in China.

Shannon at Here We Grow Again writes touchingly about her son’s first birthday home… at the age of eight.

Abigail Chuan-Ling Tuan MacLean guest-posts at Wordy Nerdy about her experiences as a biracial American in A Scrambled Egg — Not All Yellow, Not All White, Mixed.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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NBC Nightly News interviewed Professor Cole Galloway who, frustrated with inaccessible and expensive wheelchairs, created the Go Baby Go program which provides… Custom Cars With a Purpose.

Jeff Katz, executive director of Listening to Parents (a national organization that seeks to eliminate barriers to foster care adoption), ponders the question Why is it easier to adopt a child from overseas than from another state? in a Washington Post opinion piece.

Love Without Boundaries recaps the doctors final rounds for this year’s trip and shares a heart-felt thank you letter from Maureen Brogan, Director of Medical Exchanges, on Cleft Exchange Saturday.

#weneeddiversebooks goes viral. Created by several authors, including Asian-American author Ellen Oh, this campaign took social media by storm on Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr.

Max Pemberton, MD tells readers of The Spectator, As a doctor, I’d rather have HIV than diabetes.

Yahoo! News reports on The Lizzie Project, a kickstarter campaign created to fund an untitled Lizzie Velasquez documentary, in New Documentary from Woman With Rare Syndrome Aims to Curb Online Bullying.

An update on Mia, the daughter of Duck Dynasty stars Jase and Missy, who recently underwent her fifth surgery related to cleft lip-cleft palate.

May is Asian-American Heritage Month. Lots of good resources on this site.

Jeff Yang shares Why the ‘Fresh Off the Boat’ TV Series Could Change the Game in the Arts & Entertainment section of The Wall Street Journal.

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In China now to bring home their child…

Hearts Set on Pilgrimage
September Sweeties
Becoming Home

Just Home from China…

Love is the Answer
Miracles and Mudpies
Our Sunshine Days
To Tallulah

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. Thank you to Sandy Puc for sharing her beautiful photo, and thank you to those who helped compile this week’s post.


non-special needs. but not.

March 19, 2012 by nohandsbutours 4 Comments

We adopted our second daughter from China during the summer of 2011.

We adopted through a Christian agency.

And we adopted through the non-special-needs program.

Heh. Y’all weren’t expecting me to say that, were you? Yep, we are one of those “crazy” families who waited five plus years to adopt a so-called healthy child. Only we weren’t expecting healthy. For years during our wait – that excruciating five year wait – I felt deep in my soul that our second child would arrive home with a medical special need of some kind. When we received her referral paperwork on April Fool’s Day of last year, I thought perhaps our new daughter would arrive home with asthma. Only two sentences covered her medical history, but there was a wealth of hidden meaning in that all-too-brief summary. I knew something was wrong; I thought it was asthma. Turns out I was wrong.

I’ll be honest, when we adopted the first time – in 2005 also through China’s non-special-needs program – we did expect to parent a child in relatively good health, albeit mildly underweight, malnourished and a tad developmentally delayed. The Tongginator exploded into our lives developmentally less than half her age, extremely underweight, given a “probable preemie” label as well as a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder. We also fought off a failure to thrive diagnosis and spent years (years!) battling major attachment issues.

So when I say we expected issues when we adopted a second time, y’all know I mean it.

What I didn’t expect to deal with were multiple unknowns.

Our youngest daughter, dubbed Squirt, is 20 months old now and looks to be the picture of health. She’s a whopping 25 pounds, wearing clothes our Tongginator didn’t don under after her third birthday. Squirt’s hair continues to grow and thicken, and her skin looks beautifully clear. Occupational, educational and physical therapists work with her weekly to help her grow in development. She spoke her first word at 17 months and took her first steps at 18 months of age. Since then, she’s skyrocketed ahead, although we still struggle with oral-motor issues.

All in all, she looks and acts like a “typical” toddler adopted through China’s non-special needs program.

And yet…

Since we arrived home in June, she’s undergone medical testing for both hip dysplasia and renal reflux. She’s been on antibiotics five times in the past ten months, with dosages lasting anywhere from 10 to 14 days. Doctors almost admitted her to the hospital in August due to near septicemia as a result of a severe urinary tract infection that developed in less than four days. She was hospitalized in December after experiencing two as yet unexplained generalized tonic-clonic seizures. She continues to struggle with multiple digestive issues, most recently blood in her stool just five days ago. She’s got low blood sugar, but is not technically hypoglycemic. She’s lactose-intolerant and at the moment we’re avoiding all legumes because of some non-typical reactions.

After countless tests, doctors don’t know what to make of Squirt except to tell us “don’t let her get sick.” At this point, they aren’t sure if she’s slow to recover from early malnutrition or if she has some type of endocrine or autoimmune disease. Although her levels all fall within normal range now, it’s also possible she was exposed to heavy metals or other toxins in utero. Or it could be that she simply has severe food intolerances (thankfully they probably aren’t true allergies since she’s yet to experience anaphylaxis). We just don’t know. The diagnoses they are considering often take months, if not years, to confirm.

These unknowns… and the “don’t let her get sick” mantra… affect more than you can imagine. I used to chuckle at the mommas who used baby shopping cart covers; now I’ve joined their ranks. At all times I carry with me a copy of a lab order in case Squirt seizes– the neurologist and endocrinologist both want certain tests performed if it happens again. I read ingredient labels with the concentration typically reserved for legal contracts and financial documents. We don’t attend MOPS or any other playgroup, and we look longingly as we pass by the mall tot lot, if we even walk into the mall, which is rare.

But the biggest challenge is the worry. I battle against it, constantly giving my concerns over to God so that I can respond rather than react. I can’t protect Squirt against everything, so it’s a balancing act between justifiable caution and just plain living our lives. Last week a nurse at our pediatric practice told me I’ve got a reputation for handling all of this very well. If only they knew what a mess I feel on the inside some days! I talk with a nurse at least once a week. We’re at the doctor’s office several times a month. Our pediatrician has even made house calls!

Despite all of this, Squirt looks healthy.

And maybe she is… as long as she doesn’t get sick.



Whatever Wednesday

February 17, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Dear Teacher
— adoptive momma (India) Margie C at Adoption.com… a heart-felt letter to her child’s teacher about common school issues associated with older child adoption

Much Better Day Today — adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures From Afar… her daughter’s last day in the hospital

Bryson Back in Cast — adoptive momma (China) Sally at My Life My Desire… another cast for her son, who has arthrogryposis

Sunday Snapshot: A Day of Rest, Relaxation and Release — adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… her daughter says goodbye to her brace, while an orphan care organization in China gets ready to receive it

Wherein I Decide I’m Getting Pretty Good at This — adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… navigating comments and questions that reference her daughter’s albinism

Speech Progress!!! — adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Love and Laughter Enrich the Soul… on her daughter’s amazing progress with speech

Staking my claim — adoptive momma (China) Leslee at Love For Lilly… on her daughter’s progress and development this past year

LOOK who is… — adoptive momma (China) Kim at Celebrating Everyday Life… her son accomplishes a major milestone

Unexpected News from the Doctor — adoptive momma (China) Kim at Addison Hope: Worth the Wait… on her daughter’s upcoming anti-viral injections

Cleft Palate Surgery
— adoptive momma (China) Courtney at Digging to China… on her son’s recent cleft palate surgery

Whatever Wednesday

February 2, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

“S”now Day! — adoptive momma (China) Rachele at With One Step… a mom searches for fun speech therapy ideas that don’t feel like therapy

Can You Hear Me Now?
— adoptive momma (China) Joanna at Waiting for Two… on her daughter’s microtia

What Now? — adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… on her daughter’s (and others’) prosthetic limbs

Shapes — adoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… on her daughter’s most recent accomplishment – learning shapes!

The Twinkle in Her Eye — foster parent in China Hannah at the New Day Foster Home blog… sharing the blossoming of one of their beloved residents

On My Own — executive director of Love Without Boundaries Amy Eldridge at the LWB Blog… a must-read on older child adoption

No me want to talk about myself! — adoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… on how the parents of children from hard places often use anger as a cover-up, too

Whatever Wednesday

January 19, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

a noggin is a tricky thing
and an update for youmomma Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… navigating her son’s hydrocephalus

Winter Wonderland and Shrinersadoptive momma (China) at Treasures From Afar… her daughter’s first fitting for her new artificial leg

Coincidence… or Notadoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… discovering that her older, biological daughter has amblyopia, right before adopting a child with cerebral palsy, who also possibly has vision challenges

25 Things That Make Special Needs Parenting Easiermomma Ellen at To the Max… things that brighten the day of any parent

Her Heartadoptive momma (China) Holly at Purpose-Driven Family… learning more about their daughter’s heart condition, which they originally thought had already resolved

Anything But Typicaladoptive dad Michael Monroe (Mexico and Guatemala) at Adoptive Dads… on the blessings of parenting his atypical son

I Can’t Heal Her Heart adoptive momma One Thankful Mom at A Bushel and a Peck… on turning over her daughter’s emotional wounds to The Great Healer

Whatever Wednesday

January 12, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First Prosthetic Fitting
adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… photo blog of her daughter’s first prosthetic fitting

Traveling With a Special Needs Childfather Lee at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… tips and tricks for families traveling by air with a child who has medical special needs

Some things our little guy is learning foster parent in China Walking To China… sharing a few milestones of their foster son, who has downs syndrome

When it gets hardadoptive momma (China) Blessed Mom of Four and More at Five Became Six… some hard news after a day of medical tests

Surgery #2adoptive momma (China) Stacy at Red Thread to Cadence… her daughter’s cleft lip repair surgery

Down Syndrome Statistics Turned Upside-DownMaggie, mom to identical twins each with an extra 21st chromosome, at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… taking a careful, positive look at down syndrome statistics

Making Art at Home: My Favorite Art Supplies for Toddlersformer art teacher MaryLea at Pink and Green Mama… great art activities for preschoolers and young elementary school students, especially those with sensory issues [HAT TIP to Snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap]

Please Pray!adoptive momma (China) Kim at Addison Hope: Worth the Wait… a plea for prayers for their travelmates, whose daughter just experienced complications during open heart surgery

Looking Up
adoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… a request for advice about obturators to help with speech issues

Whatever Wednesday

January 5, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

But Would People Adopt If They Knew The Worst?adoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… on why she shares “worst-case scenarios” with potential adoptive parents

A Reason to Celebrate!!!
adoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… no! more! catheter!

A Very Special Doctor!adoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… expressing gratitude for Doctor Steve

Post-Christmas Update on Katie Crameradoptive momma (Guatemala) LisaS at Adoption Under One Roof… an update on Katie Cramer, a Chinese-adoptee diagnosed with leukemia

My Learning Curve: The Rocking Chair Challenge
adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at One Thankful Mom… on an attachment therapy she recently introduced

A Little Bit of Downs (X Post)
adoptive momma (China) Sally – That Girl! at My Life My Desire… on sharing with her mom that her future daughter has an extra chromosome

What You SHOULD Say To A Special Needs Familymom MarJH at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… helpful things to say to a family that is blessed to parent a child with special needs

Sledding Fun
adoptive momma (Guatemala and China) Karin at Our Treasures From Afar… just a fun day on a snowy hill

A Long and Much Overdue Susu Updateadoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… on speech therapy, attachment and healing emotional hurts

In Need of Encouraging Wordsadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… on older child adoption and language acquisition

The power of progress, no matter how “small”mom Ellen at To The Max… on her son’s “small” progress in developing better fine motor skills

Whatever Wednesday

December 22, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

God’s provisionadoptive momma (China) Kimberley at The Byrd’s Nest… a remarkable moment where a mom is able to find her daughter the help she needs, far from the support of home

December Speech Updateadoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… an update on her daughter’s progress after receiving cochlear implants

Another Seizureadoptive momma (China) Sharon at In The Light of Eternity… describing her son’s recent seizure while they were traveling

Our Miracle Dancesadoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… a touching update centered around her daughter’s ballet class

The stuff I don’t take for granted momma Ellen at To The Max… appreciating the “little” things, like fingers that work

Keeping Calm on Christmasadoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… tips to help sensory kids (and their parents!) cope with the holidays

Whatever Wednesday

December 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

HONESTLY 1 Year Lateradoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker’s Sweets… describing their first year together with their daughter Ava

One Year Ago Today: Our Son’s Heart Surgeryadoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room 4 At Least 1 More… a mom describes how she felt when learning of her future son’s open heart surgery in China

Blood Workadoptive momma (China) Kim at Our Journey to Addison Hope… a daughter needs a little TLC after blood work

Sunday Snapshot {the f word}adoptive momma (China) Nancy at Ordinary Miracles & The Crazy 8… on feeding difficulties

Attachment: So Much More Than Meets the Eye adoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… a few notes after hearing Russ Bone speak at an “Attaching in Adoption” seminar in Colorado

Open Wide — father Lee at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needson dental care and visits with a child who has been diagnosed with special needs

Tips for Reducing Christmas Break Anxietyguest blogger Chynna Laird at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… holiday break tips for those who parent children with sensory processing disorder

Whatever Wednesday

December 9, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Thanksgiving Reflectionsadoptive momma (China) Rachelle at With One Step… feeling immeasurably grateful for a new skill that was not possible just months ago

Our Wild, Wild Ride!!!
and EEG Princessadoptive momma (China) Shannon at With Arms Wide Open… on a recent sleep deprivation EEG

Update on Chinese Adoptee with Acute Leukemia adoptive and foster momma (domestic) Julia Fuller at Adoption Under One Roof… an update on Katie Cramer, diagnosed with acute leukemia

Ready for Thanksgiving Breakjie jie/ elder sister (China) Emily at Now There Are Nine… updates on Gracie and Charlie, two children adopted at older ages

Adaptive Tennisadoptive momma (China) kitchu at More Than This… on a recent tennis lesson

Those Eyesadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a mom shares her pre-adoption fears about her daughter’s eyes, and the realities they faced after adoption

The Look on Her Face
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… on their journey through older child adoption

Addressing the “Look”
momma Maggie at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on looks one receives in public

Therapy Tools (Part One): Speechmomma Jill at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… detailing the specifics of her child’s speech therapy

Best toys for kids with special needs: holiday gift editionmomma Ellen at To The Max… listing toys that aid children in developing gross motor, fine motor, sensory, speech and cognitive skills

You can do it!!!
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… a special birthday moment for a girl born with cleft lip/ cleft palate

VPI Follow-Up Last Week, Surgery Tomorrowadoptive momma (China and Ethiopia) CW at I Will Pull This Blog Over!… on cleft follow-up visits and a lip revision surgery

Whatever Wednesday (on Thursday)

November 18, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Special Needs…
adoptive momma (China) Joanna B. at Waiting for Two… on special needs beyond medical ones that can be fixed

She Did GREAT! And a very special thank you
adoptive momma (China) Jenn at Love Like Crazy… detailed photo essay of her daughter’s recent surgery

Stuff Worth Knowing About, 11/13 Editionmom Ellen at To The Max… great links to peruse, especially for parents raising children with special needs

Bye Bye Ear Tubes adoptive momma (China) Donna at Double Happiness… saying goodbye to ear tubes several years after palate surgery

National Adoption Month: Will adoptive momma (China) Gail at Aging With Grace and Strong Will… on these past two-and-a-half years parenting her son, adopted through the special needs program, but whose primary special need is not the one they were expecting

Time Discovers Truthmomma Suzanne at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on learning patience as the mom of a child with special needs

Hand Surgery for Davidadoptive momma (China) Karen at Always in My Heart… hand surgery to stabilize her son’s thumb

On Becoming Rubyadoptive momma (China) Amy at For Such a Time As This… an important moment while looking at photographs with her daughter

Whatever Wednesday

November 10, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Daniel and Chantelle are The Answera guest post by adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Chantelle at the Be The Answer blog… on their journey from fear to adopting a child who is HIV positive

A New Beginning… with a path to some answersadoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Wide Open… explaining her daughter’s specific heart condition, tetralogy of fallot

‘Tis the Season!adoptive momma (domestic) Heather at the group adoption blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on navigating the holiday germ season

Home from the hospitaladoptive momma (China) Stacy at Our Red Thread to Cadence… an update post-surgery

My Address Book
adoptive momma (Columbia) Megan at Colombian Brewed on changes in her address book after adopting a sibling group of traumatized children [HAT TIP to Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant]

Moms of kids with Special Needs: Myths and Realitiesmomma Ellen at To The Max… a list of myths and realities about parents of children with special needs

Whatever Wednesday

November 3, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

That Sounds Super Fun!!!adoptive momma (Korea) Elizabeth at Romans 8:15… on the tests required to discover whether or not her son is having seizure activity

It ‘just happens’ to be that God gets the glory
adoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… on a recent trip to the hospital for testing

This girl…
adoptive momma (China) Joanna B. at Waiting for Two… an update after exactly two months home

Saying no… is REALLY hardwaiting to adopt (China) Lindsay at Griff & Em Growing… on saying no when a social worker calls with a specific child (or children) in mind

Relocating Kids With Disabilities… What I Have Learned So Faradoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… listing a few of the challenges they’ve encountered since moving to a new state

God delivered a miracle yesterday…
adoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… excellent test results after her daughter’s recent surgery to remove her spleen

Surviving Epilepsymomma Stephanie at Adventures in Babywearing… on her oldest son’s six years seizure-free, after several years of seizures that first appeared at age two

Surgery Dayadoptive momma (China) Stacy at Our Red Thread to Cadence… palate surgery, as well as ear tubes and dental fillings

Is the Third Time a Charm?adoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… wondering if this third surgery to correct her son’s hypospadias will be successful

Whatever Wednesday

October 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.


Wherein I Blow My Top
adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… her reaction after hearing an acquaintance make comments about her daughter trying to find a “doll like me” doll

Adopting a Waiting Child: The Storyadoptive momma (China) I Am at I Am What I Do… a good read for anyone waiting at the moment

Surgery Update
adoptive momma (China) Sharon at In the Light of Eternity… describing her son’s recent p-flap surgery and recovery

Another Surgery in the Books
an adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… an update on her daughter’s seventh surgery

Amsterdam International
momma Dana at Uncommon Sense… written as an intentional forward to the well-known piece “Welcome to Holland,” and for parents in the early stages of processing the fact that their child has special needs

Conflictedadoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… with her husband out of town, she takes a peek at her agency’s special needs list

Medical Journey Update adoptive momma (China) Paulette at Love You Forever… an update on her daughter’s medical condition (related to the digestive system)

A guest post about an orphan in China with Down syndromeguest blogger Walking To China at Gillian Marchenko’s blog Pocket Lint… the story of how she came to foster a child with Down syndrome

Whatever Wednesday

October 20, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Cardiologist Updateadoptive parents (China) Aaron and Erica at Praying for You You… more information about the double switch surgery

Our Emma, An Updateadoptive momma (China) China at There’s No Place Like Home!… an update on their daughter, adopted at an older age, who experienced sensory deprivation in the orphanage

When You Have Had Enough adoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… the cost (both practical and emotional) of adopting children with high needs that are not covered by medical insurance

Hot Tearsadoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Wide Open… on waiting for the cardiologist to call with an update

Post-Opadoptive momma (China) Joanna B at Waiting for Two… her daughter’s condition post-operation

Laser Tomorrow at ACHadoptive momma (China) Cheryl D. at Journey With Reese… another laser treatment for her daughter

Post-Referral Panicwaiting to adopt (China) Jenna at Our Many Colored Days… describing the fears she experienced during the days immediately following their referral acceptance

Waiting Child Adoption Is…adoptive momma (China) I Am at I Am What I Do… a list

Surgery #5adoptive momma (China) Sharon at In The Light of Eternity… describing the dreaded p-flap surgery on the eve of the surgery

Whatever Wednesday

October 13, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Waiting… adoptive momma (China) Joanna B at Waiting for Two… a video of her daughter still in the hospital after surgery

Can Low Performance on an EOG Qualify an Adopted Child for an IEP?adoptive momma (domestic) Faith Allen at the group adoption blog Adoption Under One Roof… navigating the world of school IEPs, also known as an individualized education plan

Cardiology Updateadoptive momma (China ) Snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… why dental trips will be a tad more complicated now

The Saga Ends at the Dentist Tomorrow
adoptive momma (China) CW at I Will Pull This Blog Over!… another dentist story, this time relating to the special need cleft lip/ cleft palate

Why I DON’T want to accept the cerebral palsy
momma Ellen at Love That Max!… on why she feels strongly that she shouldn’t just “accept” her son’s special need

Whatever Wednesday

October 6, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Conversations with Jake: Home Six Monthsadoptive momma (China) Heather at Noodles, Tea and a Didi, Please!… a six-month update, just one week before surgery

The Long and Winding Road: Day 178983307402adoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… navigating sinusitis and ear troubles leads (finally!) to surgery

Georgia’s heart… the whole storyadoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Wide Open… after receiving the all-clear three months ago, a little girl’s heart shows signs of arrhythmia, which is extremely dangerous after having had open heart surgery

Bye Bye Spleen! Surgery Updateadoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… on her daughter’s spleen surgery

Born Beneath the Moonadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… listening in on a conversation between her daughter, who has albinism, and another child at karate class

What we’ve been up to adoptive parents (China) Aaron and Erica at Praying for You You… on the choice to have their daughter undergo a double switch surgery – or not

Spina Bifida Awareness Monthmomma Karen at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… some information and blog links that are spina bifida specific

Raising Emma
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… on these first few months home with their newly adopted daughters, and cognitive delays

Success…adoptive momma (China) Joanna B at Waiting for Two… on her daughter’s heart surgery earlier this week

Whatever Wednesday

September 29, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

The Stigma of Mental Illness and My Son’s Birthmotheradoptive momma (foster adoption) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… on parenting a child with severe special needs, including bipolar disorder

Ignorance at Its Bestadoptive momma (domestic) Deborah at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on responding to stares from others while in public

Life’s Guarantees (Or Lack Thereof)adoption researcher and adoptive momma (Korea) Dawn at Creating a Family… on fears about adoption when it comes to fetal alcohol syndrome and other serious “issues”

Okay, need help here
adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… debating with herself the ethics of advocacy posts after receiving a blog comment

Not to be underestimatedadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Tisha at Deutschland… on the language transition when adopting older children

Smile Pinki: a documentary about cleft lip and palate repairadoptive momma (China) Courtney at Digging to China… a three-minute video clip about Smile Train, an organization that provides free operations for children with cleft lip/ cleft palate

A phone call you don’t want to get (while in the adoption process)
adoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… a phone call from their adoption agency sharing the news that their waiting child is very ill

Whatever Wednesday

September 22, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Surgery?adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… a waiting mom tries to decide whether her waiting child should have surgery in China or wait to have surgery after adoption

Oh the Joyadoptive momma (the Democratic Republic of the Congo) Megan at Millions of Miles… on the daily struggles of parenting a traumatized child

Cuteness from before the P-flapadoptive momma (China and Ethiopia) CW at I Will Pull This Blog Over!… watching an (adorable) video of her daughter before the surgery makes this mom realize how much the P-flap surgery improved her daughter’s speech

From the Grouchy Old Manadoptive daddy (China) Matt at his wife’s blog The Journey Continues… on large families and listening to the Lord’s call when it comes to adoption

Too Many Posts to Write!
adoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… on life these past few months, with updates about several of their children who were adopted through the special needs program

The Reluctant Childadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… questioning how to cope with a reluctant sibling when it comes to adopting again

Lost: Joyadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… on the challenges attachment and bonding for both parent and child

Moon Festival Links

September 17, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

The Mid-Autumn Festival will occur this coming Wednesday, September 22. Check out these links for some ideas as to how to incorporate this Chinese holiday into your family’s traditions.

Autumn Moon Festival is coming! … Malinda also compiled a list of links; I don’t want to repeat too many, so be sure to check out her list as well (lots of great sites for recipes, crafts and such)

Great Children’s Books for the Moon Festival … a list of children’s picture books compiled by Tonggu Momma (oh, wait! that’s me!) about the Mid-Autumn Festival

MooncakesAunt Lolo assures me that this mooncake recipe is the most authentic one she’s found on the web (she should know: her mother-in-law would be sure to tell her if it wasn’t!); if you’re feeling intimidated about cooking this delicacy, you can either check out this tutorial (video!) or try this recipe that Sandra used with her girls, which – while not authentic – is quick, easy and tasty

Celebrating the Moon Festival … I love Kristi’s ideas about how to share the Moon Festival celebration with a kindergarten class, especially the mooncake made from modeling clay craft

Mid-Autumn Moon Festival … why one China-adoptive family chooses to celebrate this holiday, and it’s tie in with adoption

Bubble Tea … bubble tea with tapioca pearls is fast becoming a popular sweet treat during the Moon Festival; this fruit smoothie version is a popular hit with our Tongginator and her gaggle of friends

Also be sure to check out this podcast about the Moon Festival created by Chinese Pod.

Whatever Wednesday

September 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Latest of Li’l Dude’s Heartadoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… on her son’s latest report from the cardiologist

How do you know it’s your child?adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… on “meeting” your child for the first time, before he or she is your child

“Wo Ai Ni (I Love You), Mommy” – My Takeadoptive momma (China) Marla at Life With the 4 J’s… on the documentary, the response from her two girls and the blogosphere at large, and truths about older child adoption

Before and After
foster mom in China Carrie at the Love Grows Here: The New Day Foster Home Blog… a before and after shot of little Caleb, who recently received heart surgery

A Birthday of Her Very Ownadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at A Bushel and a Peck… on her (adopted at an older age) daughter’s eleventh birthday, for the second year in a row

Go SPOONadoptive momma (the Democratic Republic of Congo) Megan at Millions of Miles… on the SPOON Foundation’s adoption nutrition website

Breathemom Rachel at The Benjamin Bunch…. describing her recent ride to the emergency room with her daughter who had a severe asthma attack

Whatever Wednesday

September 8, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Adoption: Our Older Girls (Part 3)adoptive momma (Korea and Ethiopia) Mary at Owlhaven… in sharing one of their adoption stories, Mary shares transition ideas when it comes to older child adoption

Advising New Parents
adoptive momma (domestic) Deborah at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… advice to parents during this flurry of back-to-school activities

We’re Home!!!
adoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… an update on their first day home after heart surgery

MRI Update
adoptive momma (China) Jennifer at My Three Sons and My Little China Girl… the results of her daughter’s MRI, tethered cords and spina bifida

On Hanging On adoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… on recurring sinus infections and CT scans, sedated and otherwise

Whatever Wednesday

September 1, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

I could get used to this healing stuff
adoptive momma (domestically adopted a sibling group who experienced a disruption after being adopted from Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… her daughter, diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder, has a break-through day

She’s got skillz: Part 2adoptive momma (China) the Gang’s Momma at The Gang’s All Here!… on preschool and her daughter’s unilateral hearing

Li’l Dude’s Heart (and Larry’s Heart PTL)adoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez at Room For At Least One More… good news and bad news during their August 3 cardiology appointment

Overjoyed!!!adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… hearing the results from her daughter’s MRI and assessing her development

The Octopusadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker’s Sweets… on waiting for the other shoe to drop when it comes to medical diagnosis

make mine a double
adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… on the joys of collecting a stool sample

Just hanging at Hershey Medadoptive momma (China) rachelle at with one step… a post-op update after her twin boys both received surgeries on their palates

A looooong awaited update on Cassandra
adoptive momma (China) Karen at Always in My Heart… on an infection her daughter caught after having surgery

Vision Therapy… What We Learned Over the Past 4 Months
adoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… on vision therapy – what it is and how it worked

it changes everything, it changes nothingadoptive momma (China) Mama D at the life that is waiting… a mom ponders a new diagnosis for her son

Medical Journey Continuesadoptive momma (China) Paulette at Love You Forever… on her daughter’s urology appointments, medical progress and continued challenges

The trenches. The sacred place. adoptive momma (China) Rachelle at with one step… a mom writes a devotional several days after tonsil surgery

First day of school.adoptive momma (China) Julie at Journey to Malia Jo… a wrong-colored van brings disappointment on the first day of school

Whatever Wednesday

August 25, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Biting the Medication Bullet
momma to a child with special needs Elizabeth at Three Channels… on patience and God and parenting a child with special needs

Sensory Diet for Schooladoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… on her son’s sensory diet during the school year

Skipping a Teachable Momentadoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… on one child’s curiosity again and again – and again – about her son’s limb difference

What Were We Thinking?
adoptive momma (China) Ann at Our Place Called Home… on her daughter’s transfusions and bone marrow transplants and a lack of donors as an adoptee

Special Needs
adoptive dad (China) Adrian at Forever Family… on his daughter’s abilities beyond what he is “supposed to be able” to do as a result of her special need

Late Breaking News Direct from China
adoptive momma and waiting to adopt (China) Shelley at Learning Together at Home… a momma’s reaction to a video of her future son WALKING

Want to See What FASD Looks Like?
adoptive momma (Korea and domestic, transracial) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… a great link that shows what many infants look like who are diagnosed with fetal alcohol syndrome

a red letter dayadoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… a boy with clubfoot receives some exciting and unexpected news

Dearest Gift
adoptive momma (Taiwan) Sara at Precious Wonders & Little Monkeys… on parenting a child exposed to Hepatitis B & C – along with some wonderful news [HAT TIP to Sarah of my little lantern]

Whatever Wednesday

August 11, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Dear Weirdoadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… on albinism and people with fetishes
Some Things Money Can’t Buy adoptive parents (China) the Straights at Straight Talk… on a very sweet, precious phone conversation
While I’m Not Lookingadoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea For Three… on a sweet surprise with a referral photo during the long wait for TA
To sign or not to signadoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… on her daughter’s cochlear implants, sign language and attending an oral deaf school
Update on Kateadoptive momma (China) Amy at Raising Tomatoes… a quick surgery update
Lukeadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… describing their medical challenges these past three years, including the latest: seizures
So How Much Does She Really Hear?adoptive momma (China) Sarah Kate at The Shoe Princess… hearing tests before and after cochlear implant surgery
Why I Say “Disabled”adoptive momma (domestic) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… on why she uses the word disabled to describe her son
Sensory Seekers and Sensory Avoidersadoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… a concise description of two forms of sensory processing disorder

Whatever Wednesday

August 4, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Regretadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… on their journey together as a family to learn what God has in store for their next adoption

Good news and Bad newsadoptive momma (China) Ann at Our Place Called Home… a prayer request and update about their daughter’s recent hospitalization and diagnosis

Home Again
adoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks and Fireflieshome from the hospital after eye surgery

i knew the kid was smart, but maybe I underestimated HOW smartadoptive momma (China) kitchu at More Than This… a moment in time (in the bathroom) with a child who has spina bifida

the elephant and Just As She Isadoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao, Y’all… thoughts and feelings after receiving confirmation of her daughter’s medical diagnosis

Question & Answer Seriesadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… an excellent question and answer series (multiple posts) about older child adoption and the initial transition

Problem Solvedadoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… a little ingenuity allows a cochlear implant near the outside sprinkler

listenadoptive and foster momma Tia at Behind the Child… advice to medical professionals from a momma who knows her child

Surprises on the way to heart surgeryadoptive momma (China) snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… a dental cavity leads to delays and frustration

When Love Takes You Inadoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… their journey to adopt through the special needs program

Whatever Wednesday

July 28, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

July 22, 2006sister to four adoptees (China) Emily at And Now There Are Nine… on their initial log-in date in 2006 – they’d still be waiting had they remained in the non-special needs line

Ear Tubes, Part…4?adoptive momma (China) Amy at Raising Tomatoes… on another surgery for ear tubes, which are commonly needed by cleft-affected children

Brokenadoptive momma (China) Kathy at In the Waiting… a broken hearing aid leads to some language loss

Every month… or when the time is right momma to a special needs child Tammy at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… thoughts and emotions during a monthly blood draw

Single-handed explorationadoptive momma (domestic) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… on touring museums and such with a curious child who has a limb difference

revisit — adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao, Y’all... thoughts and emotions while waiting for a return visit to the geneticist

Updateadoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… on how a doctor’s mistake during measurement led to additional tests and a near misdiagnosis

Surgery Tomorrowadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… her daughter’s second eye surgery is scheduled tomorrow

Getting her check-up tomorrow!adoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Open Wide… on an upcoming cardiologist appointment

Whatever Wednesday

July 22, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Journey Into the Unknown — adoptive momma (foster adoption) Deborah at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on surgery with a newly adopted older child

SPD Diagnosis: Now What? — adoptive momma (foster adoption) Hartley at Hartley’s Life with 3 Boys… what to do after your child receives a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder

A milestone ~ — adoptive momma (China) Denise at Our Treasures… on the milestone of life with the adoptive family equaling the time spent living in China

Language Arts — adoptive momma (China) Sister Carrie at Jiaozi… on language acquisition and older child adoption

OVV Camp
— adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… a week of summer camp at Ohio Valley Voices with other children who also have cochlear implants

Everyone deserves to be loved — adoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… on the amazing progress her daughter has made these past 17 months

Whatever Wednesday

July 14, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

laugh or cryadoptive momma (China) mama d at the life that is waiting… having a laugh-cry at the dentist while contemplating the amount of dentistry and orthodontia that awaits

First English Words adoptive momma (China) snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… describing her daughter’s language transition, after just a few months home and adopted at age 2.5

Only 3 months, but it seems like foreveradoptive momma (China) Heather at Noodles, Tea and a Didi, Please!… an update after three months home

Why *This* Makes Us Betteradoptive momma (foster adoption) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… how parenting a child with special needs can grow us in ways we never imagined

What do you do when your family refuses to accept your special needs child?momma Janis at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… asking for advice on this topic

Favorite Developmental Toys adoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… a list of her favorite homemade developmental toys

Virtual Twinningadoptive momma (China) wife of the Prez at Room For At Least One More… on her virtual twins, about five months apart in age

Whatever Wednesday

July 7, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Monday’s Answers: How Much Should They Share?adoptive momma (Ethiopia) One Thankful Mom at A Bushel and a Peck… on how to help children adopted at older ages navigate how much they should share, and with whom they should share their past histories

Thinking back to May 31st and Reflections on an Emotional Dayadoptive momma (China) snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… on meeting her day, then meeting her daughter’s foster family, last month during their adoption trip

A+adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… a simple t-shirt message reminds a mom of her pride in her daughter

third (and final) appointment at the children’s hospitaladoptive momma (China) Jill at Little Lilah Grace… a free-and-clear from the local children’s hospital after adopting through the special needs program

Fearless – Inspiration – Perseverance – Succeeding – Prideadoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… watching her daughter climb at the playground

The kindness of strangers to kids with special needs
mom Ellen at Love That Max… detailing the many kindnesses her son experienced on their recent vacation

Whatever Wednesday

June 30, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Cognitive Skills —- boring, right?
adoptive momma (China) Heather at Noodles, Tea and a Didi, Please… on normal developmental delays due to a lack of exposure to things

Hospital Day 2 adoptive momma (China and Ethiopia) CW at I Will Pull This Blog Over!… their second day in the hospital after p-flap surgery

Restoring Resourcefulnessadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Tisha at Deutschland… on how she changed their family budget to help pay off hospital bills

Educating Mayadoptive momma (China) Sister Carrie at Jiaozi… how her daughter, adopted at age eight, adapted to the American education system over the past several years

Faith’s Heartadoptive momma (China) Snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… on her daughter’s heart PDA with a high velocity

Be Still…adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… on feeling the pull to adopt a child found on the special needs list

Running Through China: A Stop at the Henan Cleft Healing Homeadoptive momma (China) and executive director Amy Eldridge at Love Without Boundaries… visiting the little ones at the Henan Cleft Healing home in Kaifeng

A Pleasant Surpriseadoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… a recent conversation at the pool that didn’t turn out the way one momma expected

Whatever Wednesday

June 23, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

A Day in the Life of Two Medical Volunteersvolunteers Cathy Langguth and Nancy Delpha at the Love Without Boundaries blog… a glimpse into the responsibilities, joys and challenges of two medical volunteers with Love Without Boundaries

Adoption, club feet & the current statusadoptive momma (Vietnam) Nancy at Ordinary Miracles & the Crazy 8… on their son’s treatment plan for club foot as well as sensory issues

The GRACE in Sienna and She is Doing Fine… Now!adoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… another blood draw: one of many for Sienna, but the first for mom

Got ADHD? It Could Be SPD momma to a child with SPD Patty O. at Pancakes Gone Awry… on the similarities between these two special needs

Here She Is!adoptive momma (China) Mama Duck at Sunshine and Rubber Duckies… announcing her newly received PA and more on her daughter’s special need of “hearing impairment”

Dept. of Unexpected Effectsadoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… on strangers’ comments and overly personal stories after they notice her son’s limb difference

Chinese More Likely to be Near-SightedChinese/Taiwanese-American Tim at the group blog 8 Asians… an interesting article about how people of Chinese origin have the highest rates of short-sightedness in the world

Other People Talking About
PAD adoptive momma (China) Elizabeth at Don’t Call Me Mother… links to several blogs that are opening up about post-adoption depression

The Finger!!! adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… on her daughter’s improved hand mobility

Why did you adopt ME?adoptive momma (China) Diane at An-Ya Diary… on conversations with her daughter about the choice to adopt HER, a child they first saw on a special needs list

The Americanization of Mayadoptive momma (China) Sister Carrie at Jiaozi… on older child adoption and culture shock

Too Painfuladoptive momma (China) Cheri at Love & Laughter Enrich the Soul… on her son’s recent eye exams

Fun or Therapy?Randy and Rita Rippee at the New Day Foster Home Blog… blowing bubbles: fun or therapy?

Maggie Updatesadoptive momma (China) Kathy at In the Waiting… on wearing a headband (a bone conduction hearing aid) and changing hair needs

One week post-surgeryadoptive momma (China) Courtney at Courtney’s Blog… an update one week after palate surgery

Sensor

y-Friendly 4th of Julyadoptive momma (domestic) Hartley at Hartley’s Life with 3 Boys… how to navigate a firecracker of a holiday, the 4th of July, with a child who struggles with sensory issues

Whatever Wednesday

June 16, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Looking Fear in the Eyesadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Love & Laughter Enrich the Soul… on the fear her daughter feels during medical and dental visits

Our LITTLE Lizzie and It was a Long Day!adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… a day of STEM testing to determine whether her daughter’s body is making enough growth hormone

Changes in Attitude adoptive momma (foster) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… unsolicited advice for moms parenting little ones with special needs – because she cares

A Day on the Long and Winding Roadadoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Three… a snapshot of her daughter’s days in therapy to improve the use of her hand

Last Castsa volunteer at An Orphan’s Wish… a child with club foot receives her last casts

Two days, two specialistsadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… a visit to the dermatologist and a second visit to the ophthalmologist

Punched in the Gut adoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… hearing the word syndrome… again

Speech Updateadoptive momma (China) Kathy at Changed By Love… an update on her daughter’s speech progress since receiving her hearing aids several months ago

Whatever Wednesday

June 9, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Touring the ER
adoptive momma (China) Heather at Noodles, Tea and a Didi, Please… just a “regular” trip to the ER

The IEP Meeting
adoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… yet another frustrating meeting with the schools about an individualized education plan; this one specific to sensory issues

Different is not the same as weirdadoptive momma (domestic and foster care) Julie Martindale at Not Just an Ordinary Life… a sibling teaches his peers about differences

The circles of parent hellmomma to a child with special needs Ellen at Love That Max!… reflections on parenting after another blogger’s son passed away last week

Nothing Stops Samuelfoster parent living in China Carrie at the New Day Foster Home Blog… progress after just a few months of physical therapy

Corrie’s Miracleco-founder Lyndsey at The Morningstar Project Blog… a miracle for a little one whom everyone believed had Turners Syndrome

Whatever Wednesday

June 4, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Dealing with naive and foolish behavior in older adopted children
adoptive momma (Uganda) and missionary Mama in Uganda at Transformed From Glory to Glory… why this behavior happens and how to deal with it

Why there have been no developmental posts thus faradoptive momma (domestic) marydell at Torrefaction… while she enjoys reading others’ developmental update posts, she has yet to do one herself – here’s why

SPD Blog Carnivaladoptive momma (foster care) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With Three Boys… a blog carnival for parents with children who have sensory processing disorder

Getting by with a little help from my friendsmomma to a child with special needs Janis at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on the maze that is navigating the pharmacy, insurance company, therapist schedules and on and on

new glassesadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Love and Laughter Enrich the Soul… Twink gets new glasses, and her sensory self doesn’t like them at all

Getting Ready for Sophia’s Surgery Tomorrowadoptive momma (China) Jonni at The Chronicles of Mommia… on tubes and a frenectomy

Whatever Wednesday

May 26, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Wherein She Confesses, And I Cryadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a conversation with her daughter’s dance teacher leads to The Ugly Cry, in the best way possible

Black and White/ Memory Wednesday
adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… remembering when she met her daughter, and how they learned of her special need

Next Stage for Lillyone of the many volunteers at An Orphan’s Wish… a photo of the brace used to treat club foot

it’s i.e.p. season againadoptive momma (China) mama d at the life that is waiting for us… on individualized education plans with school-aged children

Sunday Snapshot: Resourcefulnessadoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread & Chopsticks… on finding a solution to a toenail with amniotic banding syndrome

Being Her Voice
adoptive parents the Straights (China) at Straight Talk… on naming cleft-affected children

Whatever Wednesday

May 19, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

HIV+ Adoption: Filling the Roomadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… a short question and answer session with Lisa, who is not only an adoptive mom, but also a care coordinator for From HIV to Home

Racist me, against my childadult adoptee (Korea) and adoptive momma (China) Raina at Faiths & Illusions… on decisions about school grade levels and older child adoption

Mirrors… adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… a discovery about orphanage life after talking with her daughter, who was adopted at an older age

She got her Birthday Wish!!!adoptive momma (China) Karen at Always In My Heart… home from the hospital on her birthday

The Long and Winding Road, Day 12adoptive momma (China) Robin at Dreaming of Tea for Two… an update after their most recent visit to see the neurologist

is this permanent?adoptive momma (China) mama d at the life that is waiting… a trip to the dentist offers an important opportunity for a mom who adopted her son at an older age

Homemade Sensory Diet for Summeradoptive momma (foster care) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With Three Boys… inexpensive ideas for sensory activities during the summer

Deaf, Not Dumbadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… new Phonak hearing aids and thoughts about how others treat those who are deaf

Jacinda’s Appointments Todayadoptive momma (China) Sherry at Our Adoption Journey… a day at CHKD to see Jacinda’s craniofacial team of doctors

Special Needs Adoptionexecutive director Amy Eldridge at Love Without Boundaries… information about their first video about a specific special need (this one is about thalassemia; the next one will be about albinism)

Whatever Wednesday

May 12, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Wish I Had More To Updateadoptive momma (China) Karen at Always In My Heart… an update on her daughter Cassandra, who continues to heal from an infection

So Blessed! adoptive momma (China) Kim at Our Journey to Addison Hope… about her biological son’s special need, which is osteogenesis imperfecta, or brittle bone disease

Update
adoptive momma (China) Sarah Kate at The Shoe Princess… about her daughter’s recent IEP meeting

I Don’t WANNA Have Special Needs!
adoptive momma (China) Holly at A Purpose Driven Life!… about her son’s recent expressions of frustration about his limb difference

Devastatedsweet Nikki at Ladybug Makes Four… this family needs us to cover them in prayer, as they just discovered that the daughter they were waiting to adopt from Nanning passed away

Sensory Detectiveadoptive momma (through foster care) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With Three Boys… on life as a sensory detective, struggling to determine the difference between tantrums and meltdowns

Whatever Wednesday

May 5, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Stepping Out In Faith
an adoptive momma (China) at 1001 Tears… on stepping out in faith and trusting God throughout the adoption process

This side of surgeryadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… describing a week after surgery, from the hour before her daughter roused from the anesthesia to the doctor’s report

1st Day of Schooladoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… the first day of school for a newly adopted second grader

{My Hero} Ten Days After Surgeryadoptive momma (China) Steffie B. at Never Too Many… an update ten days after open-heart surgery

Surgery for Cassandraadoptive momma (China) Karen at Always In My Heart… on an upcoming surgery for an eleven-year-old with spina bifida and her memories of surgeries in China

Racing Towards a Cure for TSCadoptive momma (Korea) Carissa at My Everyday Miracles… an informational post on tuberous sclerosis complex as this momma prepares to walk for a cure

Alex’s Check-Up at the SB Clinic
adoptive momma (Russia, Siberia and the Ukraine) Christine at Smiles & Trials… their check-up at the spina bifida clinic

Cleft Bottle Projectteen adoptee (China) Julia at the group China teen adoptee blog One World… on the Starfish cleft bottle project

What Gets Your Goat?adoptive momma (foster care) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… navigating the world of special needs – inside the pharmacy

Whatever Wednesday

April 28, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

I Had High Hopes!adoptive parents (China) the Ferrills at The Ferrill Bunch… on last week’s visit to the hematologist

{The time has come for Andrew’s surgery} and Andrew’s Progressadoptive momma (China) Steffie B. at Never Too Many… on her son’s open-heart surgery this past weekend

Hospital Pics and What Faith Can Doadoptive momma (Columbia and Serbia) Lorraine at All Are Precious In His Sight… her daughter was on life support last week, but is stable now, so please stop by and offer some encouragement

At Which Point I Employ Sarcasmadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a recent conversation about albinism at Chinese school

Labelsadoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… looking past the labels to truly see her little girl, realizing that it’s not about “fixing” her girl

Believe…
adoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez at Room For At Least One More… her daughter starts speech therapy this week

How Far We’ve Comeadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Loving Lia… an update affter two years home with their daughter, whom they originally thought had a brain cyst, but found out after adoption that she has cerebral palsy, seizures, institutional autism and verbal apraxia

Whatever Wednesday

April 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

What is her True Special Need?adoptive momma (China) Carla at Baseballs & Ballerinas… a family discovers their daughter has a special need that they didn’t expect

Conversations with Ellaadoptive momma (China) Joan at Itty & Izzy… a brief conversation with her daughter about life before adoption

What I See; What Lily Seesadoptive momma (China) Vicki at The Adventures of Miss Tippy Tail and Kitty Boo Boo… an important realization while making an apple pie

Would you do it all over again?
adoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… would she do it all over again, knowing how difficult it is to deal with reactive attachment disorder – because food issues? can be a special need

One Monthadoptive momma (China) Allison at and they lived Happily Ever After… an update one month after arriving home with their son

Laser Treatmentbig sister (mei mei adopted from China) Monica at Journey with Reese… photos after a recent laser treatment her sister underwent

Stepping Outadoptive momma (domestic and Ethiopia) CoffeeMom at Another Espresso Please… speaking out about her post-adoption depression

THE Questionadoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… navigating the question “why are my hands and feet different?”

Happy Heart Anniversary & Prayer Requests
adoptive momma (China) Kim at Musings From Kim K… the two-year anniversary of her daughter’s open heart surgery to correct tetralogy of fallot

Talk to Meadoptive momma (China) Amy at 1001 Tears… on speech therapy

Graduation with celebration adoptive momma (China) Lighthousegal at Lighthousegal’s Scrap Shack… tremendous growth after “graduating” from occupational therapy

Earth Day Inspired Sensory Diet
adoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… tomorrow is Earth Day, so grab some fun, sensory activities to do with your children

SPD — adoptive momma (China) Colleen at The Crazy Eighta video clip created by a person with autism, showing what sensory overload looks and feels like

whazzup with Shep — adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao, Y’allon his current special need (no, not unrepaired club foot, his other special need)

Whatever Wednesday

April 14, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Tympanoplasty? Sounds Spooky.adoptive momma (India and Ethiopia) Given Much Momma at Given Much… an unexpected surgery has a momma fretting a bit

Adopting an Underweight Baby
adoptive momma (Russia) Ingrid at the group adoption site Grown In My Heart… basic information about adopting a child who is underweight

The Secret Language of Special Needsmomma to a special needs child Janis at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… the shorthand so common among parents who have children with special needs

A change of heart adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… explaining, with no words, to a dermatologist why they adopted a child with a giant congenital nevus on 65% of her face, 5 other large nevi on her torso, arm and leg plus an unknown number of satellite nevi

autism, appearances and awareness
momma to a child on the autism spectrum Patty at Pancakes Gone Awry… on judgment from others when parenting a child with non-visible special needs

So, Here’s How It Went Downadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a conversation with a Chinese immigrant about adopting through China’s special needs program

Special Kids Require Special Planningadoption lawyer Clint at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… about estate planning when one has a child with special needs

Memories at last!!!adoptive momma (China) Kathie at On My Front Porch Looking In… developing shared memories with an older child during the first year together as a family

Precocious Puberty in International Adoptionadoptive momma (China) Tonggu Momma at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… after one of her daughter’s friends is diagnosed with precocious puberty, a momma seeks to educate other adoptive parents

Whatever Wednesday

April 7, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Jack went to the dentist!
adoptive momma (China) Deb at The Invisible Red Thread… great news about dental work her cleft-affected son does NOT need

Hospital Update: Easter Sundayadoptive momma (China) Awesome Cloud’s Mom at Zhe Shi Wo Ying… a short report about her son’s intestinal blockage as a result of recent surgery

Surgery and We’re Home — adoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Firefliesthoughts and emotions one day before her daughter’s goniotomy surgery

china addresses it’s great withinadoptive momma (China) mama d at the life that was waiting for us… listing the recent changes within China’s orphan care program, including the fact that the Half the Sky program will be phased out within the next five years

H.E.L.P.M.E. — adoptive momma (China) A at grrltravels… what should she do about kindergarten for next year?

Questions for the Spina Bifida Clinic — adoptive momma (Ukraine, Russia and Siberia) Christine at Smiles & Trials… questions she plans to ask at the spina bifida clinic

From Food Phobia to Food Network

March 31, 2010 by nohandsbutours 8 Comments

Whatever Wednesday

March 31, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Luke 2adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… thoughts and emotions after their recent trip to see their developmental pediatrician and later a comment from a stranger who overheard her discussing the trip

Mamaadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… the reaction she received from her daughter upon arriving home after a two-week trip to China to adopt their son

My baby’s eyesadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… detailing a recent trip to the pediatric ophthalmologist

Dear Moms Like Me
adoptive momma (domestic and the Ukraine) Tracie Loux at From the Heart… a letter to mommas who parent children with emotional special needs

Geographic Tongue adoptive momma (China) snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… a short, informational post (with photo) of geographic tongue

Reduced-Stress Easter adoptive momma (foster care) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… a list of stress-reducing hints for Easter, especially if you have a child struggling with sensory issues

We Are Home
adoptive parents (China) Glenn and Lori at Our Life With Nora… describing their daughter’s cochlear implant surgery, with photographs

Older Child Adoption and the Education Dilemma
adoptive momma (China) and Love Without Boundaries (LWB) volunteer Lisa Kaden at the LWB Community… navigating education issues with older child adoption

Against All Odds — adoptive momma (China) Paulette at Love You Forever… Annalise beats the odds and is potty training

Grace Owes Me Big Timeadoptive momma (China) Ellen at Frannie’s Journey… a family navigates bleeding issues after cleft palate surgery

brain to toes — adoptive momma (China) Kris at Tell Her This… reactions after hearing an initial diagnosis of chiari II malformation

Whatever Wednesday

March 24, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

She did it!!!
adoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five!… celebrating the seemingly small success (that really IS huge) of a little girl who has a cleft palate

Firsts adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… in adopting an older child, you give up the privilege of being there, but that doesn’t mean that ALL of “the firsts” are gone – and sometimes they are even more beautiful

honeymoon, interrupted
adoptive momma (foster care and Haiti) Kristen at Rage Against the Minivan… navigating discipline issues those first few months home with a newly adopted preschool-aged child

Her Special Need adoptive momma (Ethiopia and China) Christie at Bushel and a Peck… after adopting through the non-special needs program, a momma discovers her daughter’s special need

Video Clip of Sarah Tying Her Own Shoes adoptive momma (China) Karen at Always In My Heart… a video clip of her daughter, who has a limb difference, putting on her socks and shoes, then tying her shoes

The new kid in town
adoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… about her newly adopted daughter’s adjustment these first few weeks home and information about Sturge Weber Syndrome (SWS)

Thinking Long Term: Should They Be Moved Up?adoptive momma (Russia, Ukraine and Siberia) Christine at Smiles & Trials… decisions about grade placement as her children, diagnosed with fetal alcohol syndrome, continue to grow and mature

A conversationadoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… a conversation with her daughter about being deaf and wishing stars

Whatever Wednesday

March 17, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

A few things…adoptive momma (China) Karen at Always In My Heart… on privacy and blogging about her childrens’ various special needs, plus some details about life with spina bifida

Update: God is GREAT!!!an adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… a momma shares how her daughter’s recent cleft palate surgery went

Griefadoptive momma (domestic and foster care) Julie Martindale at Not Just An Ordinary Life… processing her son’s recent diagnosis, a momma clings to God’s lessons

What’s Up?adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Story of My E’s… one mom shares how life changed from homeschooling to public schooling for a few of her children in order to better meet their special needs

Luke adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweet’s… sharing her thoughts after a recent visit to the Kennedy Krieger Institute

An acronymadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… more news about her daughter’s glaucoma, the implications of that new diagnosis with other known medical conditions and what the future looks like

Happy 2nd Forever Family Day!adoptive momma (China) Kim at Musings from Kim K… two years in pictures, including photos of her daughter post-open heart surgery

Whatever Wednesday

March 10, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

the mishapadoptive momma (China) Kris at Tell Her This… a momma describes the huge impact of something that the local director calls “a slight mishap”

A reminder
adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… recent test results show a momma that she needs to make a few changes with her daughter, who is mainstreamed with a cochlear implant

our current stateadoptive momma (China) Kristi at Fireworks & Fireflies… describing their transition during the first month home and an upcoming appointment with a pediatric ophthalmologist

“She talks funny!” adoptive momma (China) Chris at Layers of Life… a recent classroom discussion between two young children about cleft palate

The Negotiator foster mom living in China Carrie at Love Grows Here: The New Day Foster Home Blog… a funny story that also happens to describe some of the dental challenges one can face due to poor nutrition

SN List Rule Changes: The End Resultsadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… describing three hypothetical situations with the new rules in place

Sign the Petition!!!!adoptive sister (China) Emily at Twice in 2010… a link to the petition for vaccine waivers and why this is important, especially for children adopted through the special needs program

Whatever Wednesday

March 3, 2010 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

The Certainty of “Just Knowing”adoptive momma (Korea) and adoption researcher Dawn Davenport at Creating a Family… a reader writes in, asking what should happen if one spouse feels certain that they have “found” their child, but the other spouse feels unsure

hoping for a parasite
adoptive momma (foster to adopt and Haiti) Kristen at Rage Against the Minivan… some tests showed unusual results which lead a mom to actually hope for a parasite

down for the count — adoptive momma (China) Simply T at Just Add One Chinese Sister… describing a recent hospital stay due to renal reflux

What’s Bugging Me Todayadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a post that touches on navigating the waters of older child adoption

A turn down memory lane
adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… a momma shares her heart while she thinks back to her son’s condition at the time of a adoption

Worry… what good is it?an adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… a momma shares their thoughts and emotions as they wait to travel

our road to an apraxia diagnosisadoptive momma (Russia) Bethany at Life With Bubba, Chicky and Nicka… describing their journey to an apraxia diagnosis for her biological child, beginning with some blog comments left by speech-language pathologists (SLPs)

Whatever Wednesday

February 24, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Progress
adoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… detailing the progress her daughter has made because of vision therapy

Thirteenadoptive momma (China) Sister Carrie at Jiaozi… her daughter, adopted just four years ago, becomes a teenager

Jacinda’s Follow-Up Appointmentadoptive momma (China) Sherry at Our Adoption Journey… a doctor’s assessment just two weeks after her daughter’s cleft palate surgery

gorgeous — adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’alla cardiac check-up four years after open-heart surgery

Josie’s Heart Appointmentadoptive momma (China) Kim at Musings from Kim K… a report after her daughter’s twice yearly cardiology appointment

Boundaries, Part 2 — adoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… establishing boundaries amidst attachment struggles

Older Child Adoption: The Decision (Requested Post!)
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s no place like home… how she and her husband reached the decision to adopt an older child

No more teasing…adoptive momma (Guatemala) Michelle at Michelle Smiles… a recent experience with medical testing for her (biological) daughter

“I Can Say My R’s!!!”adoptive sister who is like a momma (China) Missy at Live Big and Laugh Often… quoting the first words her sister spoke after a recent lingual frenectomy