Whatever Wednesday

February 17, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

One Year Ago Todayadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… describing the day she and her husband first saw photos of the girl who would become their daughter

Andrew’s Surgeryadoptive momma (China) Steffie at Never Too Many… insurance frustrations during the weeks leading up to her son’s open-heart surgery

Next Surgeryan adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… discussing her daughter’s surgery history and her upcoming cleft-palate surgery

Spinal Defects Clinic
adoptive momma (China) Kris at Tell Her This… detailed news after meeting with her daughter’s medical team at the spinal defects clinic

Good timing, bad timingadoptive momma AwesomeCloudMom (China) at Zhe shi wo ying… discovering the date of her son’s next scheduled surgery

Whatever Wednesday

February 10, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Adopting Cleftadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s no place like home… sharing their cleft surgery journey (both past and future) with their daughter

We’re Home!!!! and Liquid/ Soft Food Dietadoptive momma (China) Sherry at Our Adoption Journey… an update just one day after cleft surgery

Visit to the Cardiologistadoptive momma (China) RedMaryJanes at The Seventh Diamond… a recent visit to the cardiologist reveals some news about her girl’s heart

Choosing Your Child
adoptive parents the Straights at Straight Talk… navigating your emotions during the special needs adoption process

and some will be a test
adoptive momma (China) Kris at Tell Her This… describing a day of invasive medical tests

arrested developmentadoptive momma (China) MAMA D at the life that was waiting… practicing separation in the face of anxiety

It’s the little things…
adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… a momma finds that dealing with food issues is much more difficult than their daughter’s medical special need

P-flap vs. z-plasty adoptive momma (China) Sharon at In the Light of Eternity… facing a surgery decision, a momma asks for advice

From Uncertainty to Confidence: Learning about HIV adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… conquering their fear, a family decides to adopt a child who is HIV+

Whatever Wednesday

February 3, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

what’s black and white and grateful all over?adoptive momma (China) MAMA D at the life that was waiting… grateful to their school crossing guard after a conversation with her daughter, who has albinism, about melanin

Looking for answersadoptive momma (foster care) Julie at Not Just an Ordinary Life… a canceled MRI because of a last minute realization

Diagnosis: Stereotypymomma Janice at 5 Minutes for Mom… describing the condition stereotypy and how they came to diagnose it in her daughter

Problems with the Special Needs List
adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… describing what she’s heard about the inequities within the new system

An Update on Mr. Lukeadoptive momma (China) Sherry at Our Adoption Journey… a recent visit to the cardiologist yields some great news

Z. Is Z. Is Z.
an adoptive momma (China) at grrlTravels… an update about her daughter Z. after having a recent conversation with her husband

Memory Monday
adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… looking back at the therapies first required after a cochlear implant surgery

let’s talk about talkingadoptive momma (China) BBMOMOF2BOYS at Baseballs and Ballerinas… a recent meeting with a private speech therapist leads to a diagnosis of verbal apraxia

Whatever Wednesday

January 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

3rd Eyelid Surgery Tomorrow
adoptive momma (China) Jenn at Love Like Crazy… a momma worries before her daughter’s third surgery

Two ears are better than one
adoptive dad (China) Glen at Our Journey to Norah… discussing his daughter’s upcoming second cochlear implant surgery

A Year Ago Tonightwaiting to adopt (China) the Wilx Family at Everyday Miracles… describing the past year, watching their future son grow and thrive in New Day’s foster program

Cleft Issues You Deal Withadoptive parents (China) the Straights at Straight Talk… why cleft lip/ cleft palate is NOT a minor need because it is an everyday need

Sharing all I learned from the Denise Best conferenceadoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… sharing tips and tricks she learned from the “Thereaputic Interventions for Traumatized Children” conference

Top Ten Reasons to Get Your Tonsils and Adenoids Out
adoptive momma (China) Steffie at Never Too Many… having fun in spite of a recent surgery

older child adoptionadoptive momma (China) Lori at JOY Unspeakable… sharing her heart about adopting an older child

Update on Joel: Open-Heart Surgeryan adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… waiting to travel, they receive a medical update about the son they will soon adopt

Whatever Wednesday

January 13, 2010 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

My Silent Boyadoptive momma (China) Shanna at Our Big Crazy Family… navigating life with a child who has apraxia

Our Journey to Sienna Graceadoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… a story of how child sponsorship leads to adopting a child with special needs

Snow!!adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… snow photos and an update on her Lia, who has cerebral palsy

Doctors Appointmentsadoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… a doctor’s appointment (with a blood draw) takes a mom back in time to the first year of her (bio) son’s life, which was fraught with worry as the doctor’s tried to identify his special need

Speech Therapyadoptive momma (China) Sherry at Our Adoption Journey… describing the first speech therapy session for her daughter, who still has an unrepaired cleft palate

Sensory Processing: Our First Steps and My Learning Curve: Match My Voiceadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Thankfulmom at A Bushel and a Peck… describing her son’s first appointment with an occupational therapist at Seattle Children’s Hospital

A Beautiful Smileadoptive momma (China) Super Mommy at Me and My Two Chickadees… chronicling week one of her daughter’s orthodontia treatment, including a palate expander

The Trooperadoptive momma (Ukraine, Russia and Siberia) Christine at Smiles & Trials… a photo story of her son’s recent cranial-facial surgery

Photo of the Week: Amazing Changesadoptive momma (China), as well as executive director of Love Without Boundaries, Amy at A Life of Giving… before and after photos of two children who recently received cleft surgeries

The Puzzleadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… her four-year-old son hits an important milestone and completes his first puzzle

Me Museumadoptive momma (China) Kim K. at Musing from Kim… creating a poster for school takes one momma down memory lane

Please Don’t Pity Him: A Word From A Mom Of A Kid With Special Needs
momma Ellen at the Storked! blog at Glamour… a plea for others to stop pitying her and her son

Different Kinds of Sensory Issuesadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… describing the differences between her two daughters, one with sensory-seeking sensory issues and the other with sensory-avoidance tendencies

Whatever Wednesday

January 6, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Handling Your Child’s Disabilitiesmomma Marye Audet at Blisstree… on helping your child to navigate social situations with a visible special need

Guest Author: The Dance, Older Child Adjustmentadoptive momma (domestic and Ethiopia) Michele as a guest blogger at A Bushel and a Peck… on the adjustment process after adopting a teenager

The NSN Misnomeradoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… just because you adopt through the non-special needs program doesn’t mean you will avoid special needs

To Post or Not to Postmomma Janice at 5 Minutes for Mom… how much is too much information to share when you are blogging about your child’s special need?

Why blog? adoptive momma (China) Donna at Straight Talk… why she blogs about special needs adoption

SPD And Me

December 31, 2009 by nohandsbutours 9 Comments

newly edited, but originally posted at Our Little Tongginator in October, 2009

Now that we’re into the last week of October December, I thought I’d stop procrastinating and write a few posts about Sensory Processing Disorder. I mean, y’all DID know that October is Sensory Processing Disorder Awareness month, RIGHT?

(I’m nothing if not timely.)

*gasp* You mean you DIDN’T know?? Well, you do now. Although I suspect a few of you are totally scratching your heads at the moment, asking yourselves, “umm… what the heck IS sensory processing disorder?” Well, I happen to be a pretend expert, seeing as how I have it, as does my daughter, my nephew, my brother-in-law and quite possibly even my maternal grandma. Because there totally has to be a label for my grandma’s special brand of wackiness. And please ignore the fact that I sport her same label. Because – despite evidence to the contrary – I am NOT wacky.

Much.

Anyways, last October I blogged quite a bit about sensory processing disorder at my personal blog because Our Little Tongginator is primarily an adoption blog and – surprise! – children who experience international adoption often struggle with sensory issues. That’s because, as evidenced by my wacky family tree, SPD is genetic, running in families, but it also tends to appear in premature babies, children who experience stress in utero and children who were internationally adopted.

Why?

Because the nervous system develops throughout a mother’s pregnancy, plus it continues to grow and form during the first year of life. And if a child doesn’t receive adequate stimulation during those formative months, the nervous system doesn’t always form as well as it could. Our Tongginator, whom we adopted at just under a year, was diagnosed with severe sensory delays at 13 months of age, then later received a diagnosis of sensory processing disorder.

So what did those sensory delays look like when we first arrived home?

Well, let me preface this by saying that sensory issues look different for EVERY person, although most people with SPD do struggle with tactile issues. Our little Tongginator is mostly a sensory-seeker, although she is sensory-avoidant in some ways. Taking my cues from Colleen, I thought I would list some of the issues we faced that directly related to the Tongginator’s SPD:

low muscle tone
extreme oral defensiveness
strong desire or need to feel dizzy
delayed gross motor skills
delayed fine motor skills
extreme tactile defensiveness
self-stimulatory behaviors
high pain tolerance
under-responsive to sights and sounds, unless startled – and then over-responsive
strong desire to smell objects
lack of body awareness and body positioning

Umm… yeah… now y’all are thinking, ‘that’s a lot of nonsense words, TM. And I have no idea what they mean.’ So let me describe them a bit, at least when it comes to our Tongginator.

Our Tongginator had (and still struggles a bit with) low muscle tone. The best way to describe it is to call her a “floppy” child. She had a significant head lag even at twelve months. Her arms and legs would just flop down if you raised them, then let go. Her core muscle strength was almost non-existent, causing her to truncate (sit with her hands braced against her feet to support her body) rather than to sit upright.

sitting versus truncating: RedFish and the Tongginator in Nanchang

Extreme oral defensiveness… I cannot even begin to tell you how this phrase causes horrific flashbacks. To quote an occupational therapist within our county’s early intervention program, the Tongginator was “THE most orally defensive child I have ever seen.” At 13 months of age, the Tongginator could not drink thin liquids, only formula that had been rice-flaked to death. She could not handle solid foods that didn’t match the consistency of said Rice Flake Formula. And the Tongginator, being the Tongginator, would rather go on a Three Day Hunger Strike than drink formula that contained slightly fewer rice flakes as compared to the day before. It took six weeks and lots of therapy and grit to rid the Tongginator of rice flakes in her formula. The Tongginator also rejected anything placed in her mouth that was not Already Approved Tongginator Food… this included teethers, infant or toddler toothbrushes, medicine droppers, infant or toddler eating utensils (including chopsticks), straws and sippy cups, toys, and on and on. Interestingly enough, once we overcame the Tongginator’s oral defensiveness, she began to crave strong flavors and textures in her mouth. The child is now obsessed with foods and chewing and all things oral, except for dentist visits, which continue to be a nightmare.

She has always shown a strong desire for or need to feel dizzy. As a baby, she often flung herself backwards while in our arms so that she could hang upside down, then feel a rush as we raised her up again. She spent hours in a doorway jumper, riding her rocking horse and spinning round and round on her sit-n-spin. I used to spend many an afternoon with her at the local playground, pushing her on the swings. The Tongginator also spent her first few months with us head banging both us and objects. And, when she could finally walk, she would spin around in circles with her arms spread wide for long, LONG periods of time. Now? She swings every morning before school. She asks for us to hang her upside down and to “squeeze my head, please, Momma.” All of those things help her to concentrate.

playing the upside-down game with
Tonggu Daddy in the Tokyo Airport

Sensory kids often display delayed gross motor and fine motor skills. Now, it’s di

fficult to know what is an institutional delay and what is sensory, but extreme delays are something to check out, regardless of the cause. The Tongginator did not roll over until 12 months of age, crawled at 15 months and walked at almost 19 months. She did not even begin to consider possibly attempting to self-feed until she was almost 14 months old. We still cope with motor planning issues, which means the Tongginator struggles to figure out how to PLAN movement. Pedaling? Confused her for a very long time. Swimming? Still working on that one. Her fine motor skills are also still delayed, mostly because she can’t figure out how to exert enough force to do certain things, including buttons, zippers, opening up a child gate and such. She possesses excellent handwriting because it doesn’t involve too much push/ pull effort, but she does often complain of hand pain because she presses her pencil too hard into the paper.

Our Tongginator also displayed extreme tactile defensiveness. She hated skin-to-skin contact, and not simply because of attachment issues. The Tongginator pretty much loathed anything touching her skin unless it was 100% cotton, including water, the wind, another person, carpet, wood floors, grass… well, you get the idea. Diaper changes, bath time and pretty much anytime was fairly horrific our first two months home. We ended up dressing her in long pants with long sleeves for several months, even though it was spring and summer in the Washington, DC area. We bought a second wipes warmer, so that we could gently heat lotion in it before applying it to her skin. It took several months of daily exposure to help the Tongginator overcome most of her tactile defensiveness. We still accommodate in some areas. For example, the only tights and panties she wears are from Hanna; we purchase seamless socks; she wears dresses most of the time because she hates feeling constricted around her waist; I could go on and on. Don’t even get me started about the potty training. Oy vey. I once wrote a hysterical post entitled “The Ebb and Flow of Pee,” only the husband wouldn’t allow me to publish it.

Sniff. Sniff.

As for self-stimulatory behaviors? That’s basically a nice way of saying that the Tongginator enjoyed hurting herself. She comforted herself by banging her head into walls or furniture… by picking at her skin (especially her nail cuticles)… and by pulling her own hair. Obviously all of this means that she also has a high tolerance for pain. And illness. Only once has my Tongginator ever clung to me while sick. Turns out she had strep throat, a double ear infection and a urinary tract infection all at once. Poor little gal.

In terms of sights and sounds, the Tongginator showed a strange mix of under-responsiveness and over-responsiveness to life happening around her. For over a year, I took the Tongginator to either the local playground, on a play date or to the tot lot inside our local mall every blessed day.

EVERY BLESSED DAY, Y’ALL.

(Did y’all know that I absolutely loathe the mall?)

The Tongginator craved the busyness of people going to and fro. She loved action and wanted to be in the center of it all. She could not… function, for lack of a better word… if we hung out around the house for even one day. Our first two years home, I planned our days in much the same way that I once created lesson plans for my classes. However – and this is a big however – she did NOT like loud, repetitive noises such as smoke detectors, the microwave timer, a fire alarm and on and on. If those things occurred, she often returned to the hand flapping, rocking, self-stimulating behaviors that once were so prevalent. I can’t tell you the number of times complete strangers (and one idiot nurse) asked me, “is your daughter autistic?” during our first year home.

The Tongginator loves to smell things. Not every child with sensory issues focuses on smells, but – for the Tongginator – this is THE number one issue. The Tongginator loves to smell everything, even stinky things. She finds comfort in smells. I remain convinced that the Tongginator fell in love with her cherished Doggy because Doggy arrived in a package containing a perfumed sachet.

with her beloved Doggy

She continues to struggle with body positioning and awareness. In other words, the girl walks into walls, falls off chairs and trips over her own two feet, just like her momma. She also took forever to learn how to dress herself and still can’t quite manage some fine motor tasks, including (hurray!) child gates. She often drops things or slams things down too hard. She craves her special, sensory Tongginator sandwiches. She basically loses track of where her body is in space.

Then again, so does her momma.

There are many more sensory issues that the Tongginator struggles with, but those are the most memorable. SPD is a spectrum, ranging from mild to severe… while the Tongginator is now on the mild to moderate side of things, please understand, y’all, that our experiences during our first year home were some of the most challenging our social worker had ever seen. Add attachment issues, the fight to avoid a failure to thrive diagnosis and my depression to these sensory challenges… and… well… it was a lot. But it was ALL worth it.

Because the Tongginator is worth it.

Whatever Wednesday

December 30, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Our First Six Months Together & Thoughts On Older Child Adoptionadoptive momma (Russia and China) Michelle at Born In Our Hearts… thoughts about their recent adoption of an eleven-year-old during their first Christmas together

7 Questions for a… College Student with Cerebral Palsy
momma to a child with CP Ellen at To the Max… an interview with a college student about her life with cerebral palsy

HIV testing will not be required for obtaining visas for international adopteesat the PEAR blog, which is Parents for Ethical Adoption Reform… a new ruling about HIV testing and international adoption

Yet… I Think He Was Always Beautiful adoptive momma (Russia, Ukraine and Siberia) Christine at Smiles & Trials… a photo journey of her son Dennis’ many cranial-facial surgeries over the past two years

The Best Christmas Gift!!waiting to adopt (China) Kim at Our Journey to Addison Hope… receiving updated photos of their soon-to-be-daughter, who now sports a spica cast

Whatever Wednesday

December 23, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

The Eyes Have It
adoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… discussing visual processing disorder, its therapy and how it relates to her daughter’s life pre-adoption

Surgeryadoptive momma (China) Leslee at Finding Lilly Grace… her daughter’s surprisingly bad breath leads to a surprise – and quite necessary – surgery

Ellie’s Medical Update
adoptive momma (China) at Bringing Home Di Di… more about vesicoureteral reflux (VUR) and how it effects her daughter Elise

Letting God Dreamadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… about her biological child’s special needs and accepting him for exactly who God made him to be

Yingy and Yangyadoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at Welcome To My Brain… parenting a child through reactive attachment disorder

my little chatterbox
adoptive momma (China) Andrea at Adoption Road… her daughter’s hearing loss does not seem to be slowing down her ability to learn and understand language

Surgery: One Year Agoadoptive momma (China) Kim K. at Musings from Kim K… a look back on her daughter’s hand surgery a year ago

Whatever Wednesday

December 16, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

annually easyadoptive momma (China) mama d at and i am like the ocean… cleft is an easy special need… or not

Disclosureadoptive momma (China) Raina at Faiths and Illusions… disclosing her new daughter’s Hepatitis B status

Speaking of attachment, Part 3
adoptive momma (China) The Gang’s Momma at The Gang’s All Here… describing how they shrunk their world the first year home with their new daughter

Pondering the Pons (and a little fun, too)
adoptive momma (Russia and China) Tisha at Privyet, Mei Mei… describing brain reorganization of the pons at a San Diego clinic

An HIV Adoption Storyby Leslie Goldman for Parenting.com… a day in the life of a family who adopted a child who is HIV positive [HAT TIP to Thankfulmom at A Bushel and a Peck]

Three Therapeutic Tips for a Merry Christmasadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… three tips for helping a child newly home or who struggles with attachment issues through the holiday season

Purple Hair, Purple Eyesadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… using a new hair product to keep white hair from turning yellow

No Longer An Orphanadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… after someone sent a photo of her daughter when she still lived in an orphanage, one momma looks back at how far her daughter has come since being adopted at age eight

Status of Adoption from China:
BOYS the executive director of Love Without Boundaries and adoptive momma (China) Amy at A Life of Giving… gender statistics surrounding international adoption from China

A Special Needadoptive momma (China) Maryellen at A Beautiful Mess… how the wait effected their decision to adopt through China’s special needs program

Sunday Snapshot: Avery
adoptive momma (China) Chris at Layers of Life… a glimpse into the world of the special needs adoption process AND their soon-to-be-adopted daughter Avery

The Brace Shuffle
adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… a video clip from last year of her daughter walking to the Christmas tree while wearing a special brace

Whatever Wednesday

December 3, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Good News Doctor’s Appointmentadoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… a wonderful visit with Bryson’s doctor during the week of Thanksgiving

Heartbreakingadoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… describing her daughter’s recent expressions of emotions about being deaf

Orchid Childrenadoptive momma (China) LMGNYC at La Bicicleta… describing the difference between an “orchid” child and a “dandelion” child, especially when looking at adoption

Sensory Processing Disorder, Sloan and Sunny San Diego (My Most Important Post)adoptive momma (Russia and China) Tisha at Privyet, Mei Mei!… a mom details her son’s difficulties transitioning into first grade due to sensory issues, then describes how they are overcoming those difficulties

Pre-K Thanksgiving Partyadoptive big sister (China) Monica at Journey With Reese… a recent visit with the eye doctor to check her optic pressure

Whatever Wednesdays

November 25, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

inspiration
adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… sharing the progress that her daughter, diagnosed with multiple special needs, continues to make

Session 2
adoptive momma (China) lighthousegal at Lighthousegal’s Scrap Shack… describing her daughter’s second session with an occupational therapist who specializes in sensory issues

11.16.2009adoptive momma (China) Kris at Tell Her This… detailing their recent visit to a specialty hospital following/ treating her daughter’s spina bifida

What should an IEP do?
adoptive momma (Russia and Guatemala) Marcie at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… a concise description of an individualized education plan for children with special needs

Mainstreaming adoptive dad (China) Johnny at So, it comes down to this… a recent conversation with his daughter about a new boy in her class, who was recently adopted from China and speak no English

Post-surgeryadoptive momma (China) La-La-Liene at Never a Dull Moment in La-La-Land… a description of the day’s events, especially the goofy juice

Just for a little while adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a first date night after older child adoption

Update on Recoveryadoptive parents (China) The Straights at Straight Talk… an update on her daughter’s recent sphincter pharyngoplasty

Surgery Day
adoptive momma (China and Vietnam) Lala at Ladybugs and Dragonflies… about her daughter’s surgery to remove a preauricular pit

Whatever Wednesday

November 18, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Take Me Home Tuesday: The Lost Boysadoptive momma (China) Holly at A Purpose Driven Life… a son, who was adopted from China, shares thoughts with his momma after watching the movie Peter Pan

Early: But that’s okayadoptive momma (China) lighthousegal at Lighthousegal’s Scrap Shack… describing her daughter JB‘s first therapy appointment

My little chatterbox!adoptive momma (China) Chris at The Layers of Life… a momma whose daughter was born with cleft palate reflects on the progress her daughter has made these past few years

Prematurity Awareness Month
adoptive momma (China) and executive director of LWB Amy at A Life of Giving… raising awareness about some of China’s smallest orphans, often weighing just two to three pounds at birth

D-Day
adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker’s Sweets… two recent trips to the Kennedy Krieger Institute in Maryland and to see a Nuero-Reorganization Therapist in North Carolina leaves a momma stunned once she hears her son’s diagnosis

Why Me?adoptive momma (China) Elizabeth at Don’t Call Me Mother… contemplating why she got post-adoption depression

Blessing all around usadoptive momma (China) Rina at Bringing Home Myah… plans for their Make A Wish trip to Disney World

Tomorrow
adoptive momma (China) Julia at Brought to You By the Letters L & M… thoughts the day before her daughter is tested for ADD/ ADHD

Whatever Wednesday

November 11, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Literally One More Stepadoptive momma (Russia, Ukraine and Siberia) Christine at Smiles & Trials… photos and a description of her son’s recent casting for his ankle foot orthotics (AFOs)

Shriners and So Much Moreadoptive momma (China) Tami at Sea Glass & Jade… a recent visit to Shriners Hospital fosters a special connection between two girls

Response to Yesterday’s Commentsadoptive momma (China) Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… navigating the world of speech therapy

A Young Man’s Testimony to Suffering and the Sovereignty of GodJoe Eaton, an adult who copes daily with disability, at the volunteer disability ministry blog The Works of God… Eaton explores Scripturally why God allows disability and suffering

Whatever Wednesday

November 5, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

not so well-roundedadoptive (foster care; waiting to adopt from Haiti) and bio momma Kristen at rage against the minivan… about her daughter’s plagiocephaly

Laser Treatmentadoptive momma (China) Monica at Journey With Reese… detailing her daughter’s eleventh laser treatment on her face and third laser treatment on her leg for birthmarks (port-wine stains)

Birthday Realitiesadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… looking back at the time of adoption and first few months home, a momma realizes her son’s dire need for more support than the orphanage could provide

The Spina Bifida Clinic adoptive momma (Russia, Siberia and Ukraine) Christine at Smiles & Trials… a synopsis of their recent visit to the spina bifida clinic

what it isn’t
adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… celebrating the results of some tests, even though they still don’t know the cause of their son’s failure to thrive diagnosis

Great News for Families Adopting HIV+ Childrenadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at A Bushel and a Peck… President Obama just announced the end of the 22 year ban on travel for HIV+ people wanting to enter the United States

Healing a Tiny Broken Heart
adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… the story of their daughter’s heart surgery, in Singapore, before they adopted her

Say Ahhhhhmomma to a child with special needs Deborah at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… rules to live by when dealing with medical treatments for a child with special needs

Whatever Wednesday

October 28, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Failure to Thriveadoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… a recent visit with the doctor rules out Celiacs, Cystic Fibrosis and Thalassemia, but WHAT is it?

You Have Probably Already Read This Storyadoptive momma (domestic, open, transracial) Dawn at this woman’s work… spreading the word about a child in need of a very specific family

W Sitting Revisited adoptive momma (Taiwan) Sarah at Journey to Taiwan for Hannah Claire… exercises suggested by the pediatric physical therapist that can help build core strength

First of Many to Comeadoptive momma (Siberia, Russia and Ukraine) Christine at Smiles and Trials… x-rays and MRIs, with more to come

The Gastro Experienceadoptive momma (China) LMGNYC at La Bicicleta… an appointment with the Gastro Enterologist leads to more questions

Reading Up adoptive parents (China) the Straights at Straight Talk… reading up about another’s experience with p-flap surgery has this momma understandably nervous

update adoptive momma (China) Simply T at Just Add One Chinese Sister… huge progress after just four months of therapy and love

Sunday snapshot: Isabelleadoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… an update on her daughter’s progress after a recent IEP meeting

B Here for Ur PeepsAsian-American Diana at Disgrasian… stats about Hepatitis B among the Asian-American community and ways to help

SPD and Meadoptive momma (China) Tonggu Momma at Our Little Tongginator… describing the major sensory issues faced during their first year together

Fun with Prostheticsadoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… one moment in time leaves her knowing they need to schedule another appointment with their prostheticist

Whatever Wednesday

October 21, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

building attachmentadoptive momma (China) Lori at Joy Unspeakable… thoughts on building attachment with a newly adopted, older child

Cheeky Speaksadoptive momma (China) Shirlee at And Then There Were Seven… learning the English language after experiencing international adoption as an older child

Our Storyadoptive momma (Korea and China) Colleen at The Nut House… looking back on five plus years with their daughter, who has sensory processing disorder

Better Days We Have Had
adoptive mom (China) Jenn at Love Like Our Crazy Family… an update after her daughter’s second eyelid surgery

Cardiologist Checkupadoptive momma (China) Erica at Praying for You You… a six-month post-op visit with photos

thankfuladoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… grateful for the work of Dr. Ponseti, who revolutionized the treatment for club foot, while she watches her son Jude run like the wind

Confusing the Diagnosis: Developmental Delay or Disability?adoptive momma Judy (China and Guatemala) at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… defining and differentiating between these two terms

We’ll See How This Goes…momma to a child with special needs Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… always expecting the not-so-good news at doctor appointments, this mom realizes that everything – big and small – that her son goes through is shaping him to be the very best version of himself

Living with SPD adoptive momma (Korea and China) Colleen at The Crazy Eight… describing daily life with her daughter, who was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder

long story shortadoptive momma (Liberia and Ethiopia) Jennifer at To Africa and Home… a must-read that is just three sentences

Whatever Wednesday

October 15, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

I’ll be your voice and What we want you to know about our childrenadoptive momma (China) Colleen at The Crazy Eight… Colleen offers up several informational posts during October’s Sensory Processing Disorder Month

Tough Parenting Moment
adoptive momma (domestic USA, now living in Australia) Kohana at Growing Family… navigating her very young child’s reaction to another child who has a facial difference

W-sittingadoptive momma (Taiwan) Sarah at Journey to Taiwan for Hannah Claire… what is w-sitting, why does it occur and why your child needs to change the way he or she sits

My how time fliesadoptive momma (China) Marla at Life With 4 J’s… a quick look back at her daughter’s adoption day four years ago (older child adoption)

I forget sometimesadoptive momma (China) Snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap… navigating the maze of multiple medications and dietary restrictions

Whatever Wednesday

September 30, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Unexpected Success adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… an update after her daughter Cheeky’s eye surgery

Uh-Oh!adoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… success making the “o” shape with her mouth, after bilateral cleft surgery

Doctor-pa-loozah
adoptive momma (China) LMGNYC at La Bicicleta… $109 dollars in medical co-pays in a single day, plus two more appointments (possibly three), with a surgery likely

the many faces of life with piggy flu
adoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… trying to survive the H1N1 virus while praying that her immune-compromised child doesn’t catch it from anyone

Out of Surgery
adoptive (domestic) and foster momma Julie at Not just an Ordinary Life… Maisy is out of surgery AND she turned two today!

Whatever Wednesday

September 23, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

How a kid with special needs affects your marriage: extreme honesty momma to a child with cerebral palsy Ellen at To The Max… looking at the special marital challenges that come with parenting a child who has special needs

Some answers…, second open-heart surgery and pictures!adoptive momma (China) Melinda at And Mia Makes 6… detailing the complications that arose after her daughter’s recent heart surgery

Pain and He will never Leave you or Forsake youMike, who is currently on an adoption trip (Uganda), at Joining the Journey… finding out, just days after holding her in their arms, that their new daughter Josie is HIV+

24 pounds; 33 1/5 inches adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… she finally made it onto the Southern Chinese Girls growth chart!!!!

never forsaken!adoptive momma (China) Adeye at No Greater Joy Mom… after adopting her eight-year-old daughter who had ALREADY previously experienced one disruption and an autism diagnosis in China, a mom looks back on their first year together as a family

Food Issues and Ah Haadoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… food issues, six months after coming home, cause a mom to ask for helpful ideas (be sure to read the comments on this one)

thump… thump… thump… thumpadoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… contemplating their attachment journey so far, a little over two years after arriving home

Tell Her Thisnew adoptive momma Kris, in China now adopting a daughter with the special need spina bifida, has written so many thoughtful posts during her trip, I’m just sending y’all directly there: surf around, you won’t be sorry

I Am Humanadoptive momma (Russia, Siberia and Ukraine) Christine at Smiles & Trials… the day to day reality of spina bifida, after one month home

special needs: mind your business
adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… a powerful post ALL should read about deciding between the NSN and SN programs

What I didn’t knowadoptive momma (Russia) Ingrid at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… what she didn’t know about surgeries before adopting a child with special needs

An Amazing Girl!adoptive momma (China) Lori at Joy Unspeakable… during their first few days together as a family (older child adoption), Lori talks about names and the honeymoon period

3 AMadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… middle-of-the-night thoughts about her daughter’s upcoming eye surgery and their transition just after an older child adoption

What is Visual Processing Disorder?
adoptive momma (Russia and Guatemala) Marcie at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… children diagnosed with SPD, autism or ADHD may all “see things differently” because of visual processing disorder

Whatever Wednesday

September 16, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First Day Patched and My Big Girladoptive momma (China) Sharie at Mostly Amelia… a full report on her daughter’s first few days wearing her eye patch

About Surgery Week
and Regroup!adoptive momma (China) Sonia at Proverbs 31 Hands… describing her daughter’s upcoming heart surgery

Guarding Your Information
Atilla the Mom at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… who really needs to know what information – and what do do when they don’t need it, but ask for it

What I Wanted to Say
adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a recent conversation with a nosy cashier about adoption and albinism

Sentencesadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… recent progress despite a severe apraxia diagnosis

Back to Square One… Sort Ofadoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mom my at Our Wuxi Girl… recent potty training set-backs point to surgery this coming summer

Please Help by Donatingadoptive momma (Vietnam) Mother, Mother Ocean… one momma responds to the horrific crime committed against Lavender Banks

Whatever Wednesday

September 9, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

filling out a medical checklist for special needsadoptive momma (China) snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap!… navigating the family decisions that come when filling out a medical checklist for special needs

disclosureadoptive momma (Liberia and Ethiopia) Jennifer at to africa and home… what do you do when a young child discloses their own HIV+ status?

Jeremiah Update adoptive momma (domestic, transracial and Uganda) Spirit of Adoption at the Spirit of Adoption Blog… reporting test results for a battery of medical tests, including HIV, malaria and anemia

Waiting on the (deaf) world to changeadoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… thoughts after an anonymous commenter questioned their family’s decision about cochlear implants

She does it againadoptive momma (China) Monica at Our Dongguan Baby… a post-op diary

calming the senses with weighted blanketsadoptive momma (China) Weeks Ringle at Craft Nectar… a how-to guide for making a weighted blanket, perfect for little sensory-seekers

Glasses & Patch
adoptive momma (China) Sharie at Mostly Amelia… Amelia gets new glasses and an eye patch

Whatever Wednesday

September 2, 2009 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Choosing Your Child… SN Adoption… My Thoughts and Experiences
adoptive momma (China) redmaryjanes at The Seventh Diamond… advice for those waiting for and reviewing children’s files through the special needs program

the sorry and the pityadoptive momma (China) mama d at zarfing sunshine… a recent conversation at the post office leads to introspection

And They’re Off! adoptive momma (China) Michelle at Born In Our Hearts — school grade placement decisions for a child adopted at an older age

Sports and Special Needsadoptive momma (China), and Executive Director of Love Without Boundaries, Amy at A Life of Giving… a question about inclusion and sports when your child has a limb difference

Medical Update & A List of Where We Are Todayadoptive momma (China) Kimberley at The Seventh Diamond… a recent consult with a heart specialist and ways in which Sophia Jane touches the heart of her new momma

My Chunk of Love
adoptive momma (Siberia, Russia and Ukraine) Christine at Smiles & Trials… a photograph showing how much her son has changed in just one short year

“It’s not fair that I’m deaf”
adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… thoughts from her daughter about deafness and glasses and fairness and life

“It hurts me more…”momma Robin at Pensieve… thoughts as her teen daughter undergoes surgery

A Big THANK YOU to Matilda Hospital and AliceAmanda, founder of The Starfish Foster Home, at the blog Throwing Starfish… a Hong Kong hospital performs an amazing surgery on one little girl named Alice

Windows to the Soulmomma The Source at Not a Significant Source… describing the vision issues of three of her four children

Whatever Wednesday

August 26, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Thank You!!!adoptive momma (China) Colleen at The Nut House… changes she’s seen in her daughter, who has sensory processing disorder, since they’ve made some changes in parenting her

The Stagesmomma to a child with hydrocephalus, Heather of The Extraordinary Ordinary… the stages she’s going through from denial to acceptance

More milestonesadoptive parents (China) Kevin and Violet at Taking a Break With Jake… an update six months after surgery

Heart check-up — adoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Mart Dell at Torrefaction… a heart check-up for a small PFO leads to concerns about Holt-Oram Syndrome

God is Bigger…, Started and Every Prayer Answered!!!adoptive momma (China) Shannon at The Millers Journey to Georgia Mei… their daughter’s surgery to close a hole in her heart with a dacron patch

Happy Birthday LWB Amy Eldridge, executive director of Love Without Boundaries, at A Life of Giving… happy sixth birthday, LWB

More on Alex… adoptive momma (Russia, Siberia, Ukraine) Christine at Smiles & Trials… an update on her newly adopted son Alex, as well as her other son Dennis, who has been home for a year

Kids and their friendsadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… friendships and the child adopted at an older age

Like Observing Wildlifeadoptive momma (Russia) Gillian at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… her first night with her newly adopted daughter, who happens to have Down syndrome

We interrupt this vacation for a news breakadoptive momma (Korea) Carissa at Faith, Hope and Love… the details of her daughter’s EEG yesterday

Whatever Wednesday

August 19, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

She’s chunky adoptive parents (China) Aaron and Erica at Praying for You You… six months later, her parents rejoice at how much she’s grown

Committed!adoptive momma (China) Michelle at Day by Day… two years after adoption, their commitment didn’t waiver, through some more-difficult-than-average times involving an autism-spectrum and RAD diagnosis

It’s Already Happening Again!adoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes Eight!… two weeks after his last casts, Bryson’s heel begins to turn in yet again

Skin Diseases in Internationally Adopted Kidsadoptive momma (Vietnam) Laurie Good at Pho For Five… about a LARGELY under-diagnosed or misdiagnosed skin condition called acropustulosi, which is associated with children previously diagnosed with scabies

A Day in the Life…adoptive momma (Russia, domestic and Liberia) Wife to the Rockstar at Adoption Connect… a day in the life with a child who has attachment issues

Learning as We Go…
adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… parenting a child, any child, teaches you that different is beautiful

Reflecting on Gotcha Day
adoptive momma (China) Rina at Bringing Home Mya… thoughts two years after they met their daughter for the first time

Lo and Behold
adoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… doctors said Maia would probably never be potty-trained, but she’s doing it

Whatever Wednesday

August 13, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Recent Life with Bryson *Edited*adoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… medical challenges lead to some emotional conversations between mother and son

Words adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… learning English, Mandarin, sign and nonsense words during the first few months after an older child adoption

Adam’s Fourth Birthday
adoptive momma (Uganda) Janet at Tuininga Treasures… describing the slow attachment process of her son, who was adopted as an older toddler

breathe… breathe…adoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… sleep studies, treatment possibilities and more for her son Kai

On Attachment and Expectationsadoptive momma (Guatemala) Courtney at Adoptive Parenting Blog… on the attachment process between a mother and child

Whatever Wednesday

August 5, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

The Girl Who Liked to Roll and Spin
adoptive momma (China and Guatemala) Judy at the group adoption blog Grown in My Heart… a glimpse into life with a sensory-seeking child with sensory processing disorder, much like my little Tongginator

Smile, Charles, Smile
Lisa Schmidt, an Anhui Cleft Healing Home (ACHH) assistant, at the Love Without Boundaries blog… Charles’ progress after a year living at the ACHH

Fun at Tilles Park
adoptive momma (China) Robin at Tea for Two… a fun day at a park with play equipment for children with special needs

Perspective from an Older AdopteeHonour Grace, a teen adopted from China just last year, on ASIA‘s Hope Journey… sharing her experiences as an older adoptee, one year after her adoption

Sensory Progress!adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… learning a valuable parenting lesson about letting go

Eczema= The Bane of My Existenceadoptive momma (China) Lisa Milbrand at The Mamahood… expressing frustration at the trials and tribulations of eczema

PPD Tests, Tuesday August 4 and The Pressstill in China, waiting to find out whether tthey can enter the US with their newly adopted child, Jay Scruggs at his LiveJournal… their horrific experience in Guangzhou and a warning to all waiting parents, especially those adopting children over the age of two

Finally… An Updatehoping to adopt (Guatemala) The Queen B… after meeting an older child with special needs during a missions trip, one family tries to navigate the mess that is now Guatemala adoption

Maria’s Big House of Hope
waiting to adopt (China) Catherine at Catherine’s Chatter… the home for China’s neediest orphans opened this week to much fanfare

Whatever Wednesday

July 29, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Incontinence in Adopted Childrenadoptive momma (Russia) Ingrid at the group adoption blog Grown in My Heart… informative post about incontinence, from a mom whose son has spina bifida

Club Foot CastingMelissa Tourville, the general surgery coordinator for Love Without Boundaries, at the LWB blog… a concise description of the special need club foot and the typical treatments for it

The Long and Winding Road: Day Nineadoptive momma (China) Robin at Tea for Two… a trip to Children’s Hospital and an eye exam, complete with drops

Red Rice!adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… gaining some much needed weight with the help of some red rice

Why Adopt an HIV+ Child?adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa, who regularly blogs at A Bushel and a Peck, at the group adoption blog Grown in My Heart… how statistics changed her life in a huge way

One Year Ago…
adoptive momma (China) Sara at Football & Fried Rice… on the anniversary of their referral day (special needs program), Sara shares their adoption announcement video

When Friends Say Painful Things About Your Child
momma to a child with special needs Ellen, who regularly blogs at To the Max, at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… when a three-letter word becomes a big, big deal

MIA for awhileadoptive momma (China) Rina at Bringing Home Mya… a description of the Kaufman Speech Praxis Treatment Kit for use with children who have apraxia of speech

File it away, you have my heart waiting on TA (China) Kris at Tell Her Thisthe doubts and fears and joy and love she experienced during their decision to accept the referral of Gao Mei

Interesting SN Find
adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… analyzing the most common special needs found on her agency’s list; plus, links to other blogs that discuss children who have been diagnosed with cerebal palsy

Whatever Wednesdays

July 22, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

I Have a Special Needs Childadoptive momma (China) The Gang’s Momma at The Gangs All Here!… a momma has an epiphany during a routine trip to the library

all is welladoptive momma (Liberia and Ethiopia) Jennifer at to africa and home… Avi’s heart is healthy; plus a helpful tip about EKGs

Frustration/ fear/ humor
adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… the smoke detector

He did “God-mazingly” welladoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… a sleep study in pictures

our last two weeks
adoptive momma (China) Jeanette at Blessed by Baseballs and Bows… attachment therapies they are using, including a video example

Whatever Wednesdays

July 8, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

A Different Seizureadoptive momma Cheri (China) at Infinite Love… about her daughter’s recent, probable Atypical Absence Seizure

i’m glad i didn’t know
adoptive momma (China) Julia at say you will love me forever… so grateful that she didn’t know what she was signing up for!

Gao Meimomma waiting on TA (China) Kris at Tell Her This… the story of how she came to find her future daughter

Bringing Home a Child with Special Needs
an article written by contributing writer Lisa Belkin and new adoptive momma (China) Jenny Staff Johnson in Motherlode section of the New York Times Magazine

What to do?waiting to adopt (China) Jennifer at My Three Sons… and a Little China Girl… thoughts (and a request for advice) while filling out the special needs checklist

Why I Haven’t Been Bloggingadoptive momma (India and Guatemala) Leslie at Recovering Noah… Discovering Me… about the alienation she feels while dealing with attachment issues and autism

Whatever Wednesdays

July 2, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Plan B and Testing, Phase I adoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… evaluating another option for SuSu’s medical treatment

Show Hope Press ReleaseStacie Vining, president and owner of Vining Media Relations, at Mary Beth Chapman’s blog… the press release for Maria’s Big House of Hope, created in honor of little Maria Chapman

Another Convincing Opinionadoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… another doctor, another opinion

Cuddling an older child! adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s no place like home… a wonderful list of ideas for attachment activities geared for an older child

If it’s not one thing, it’s another
adoptive momma (China) MississippiZen… a catheter accident leads to a trip to the emergency room

My Learning Curve: Humilityadoptive momma (Ethiopia) Thankfulmom at A Bushel and a Peck… a heartfelt letter of advice to families who wish to (or already have) adopted an older child

Just Try It! It Won’t Kill You!momma to a child with Asperger’s Syndrome Shash at 5 Minutes for Special Needs, though she regularly blogs at Diary of a Crazed Mommy… a description of and the rules for the tasting plate, a method they use to improve feeding issues and oral defensiveness

Charlie’s New Arm: Test Fittingadoptive momma (domestic, transracial Asian-American) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… video of Charlie testing out his prosthetic arm for the first time

Whatever Wednesdays

June 24, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Therapy Thursday: Listening Activitiesadoptive momma (Korea) and speech pathologist CC at If Only I Had Super Powers… great links to listening games that promote language acquisition when learning a foreign (or new!) language

Changeadoptive parents (China) the Straights at Straight Talk… how her daughter’s early life experiences shape how she deals with changes now

A Bill of Rights for Parents of Children with Special Needsmomma to a child with cerebral palsy Ellen, who regularly blogs at To The Max, at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… a poignant and funny list of rights

Surgery Day: June 16th and Day 1 and 2adoptive momma (China) Tina at Faith, Hope and Love… their son Reed’s cleft lip surgery and first days of recovery

Maylee Updateadoptive momma (China) Rebecca at Living in a Rainbow World… planning for an unanticipated detether surgery (spina bifida)

More Hurdles to Jump
adoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… more castings and information about Bryson’s upcoming hip surgery

What Kind of Momadoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at Urban Servant… a powerful post that is a must read for those moms struggling through tough times

We’ve Got Our Girl!!!adoptive momma (Russia and China) Michelle at Born in Our Hearts… the adoption day of an older child

The Binderadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… a helpful description and purpose of a medical binder

Whatever Wednesdays

June 17, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Hepatitis B and International Adoption
adoptive momma (Russia) Ingrid at the group adoption blog Grown In My Heart… questions to ask and living with Hepatitis B

16 Already??? & Raegan Day 4 and Post-Op Day Five: Pain and Playadoptive momma (China) Margie at MississippiZen… about the special need cloaca and the importance of being able to roll with the punches when one adopts a child with special needs; plus a progress report and remarks about pain tolerance

Swimsuits and Staresadoptive momma (China) Robin at Tea For Two… requesting advice on dealing with stares and comments in regard to her daughter’s limb difference

Banishing Worry and Guiltadoptive momma (domestic) Deborah, who regularly blogs at Pipecleaner Dreams, at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… after years of worry, finding peace and reassurance that her birth son was NOT negatively effected by her choice to adopt three children, all of whom have significant special needs

Oral dyspraxiamomma to preemie twins Tertia at So Close… conversations with her husband and her son’s occupational therapist about his oral dyspraxia

Feeling Frustrated
adoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… insurance issues once home

I’m having a better week now… — adoptive momma (China) Milinda at The Adventures of Maggie and Ella… a mom investigates the world of sensory issues

Whatever Wednesdays

June 10, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Omega 3 6 9
adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… her family’s recent success using omegas to improve her daughter’s speech and stabilize her moods

Sleeping Beauty
an adoptive momma (China) at MississippiZen… a photo after her daughter Raegan’s successful surgery

“The 30″ List
adoptive momma (China) Lisa Milbrand at The Mamahood… the 30 agencies that are reported to be included in the new online WC system

Who Wants to Learn About Shunts?momma Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… a detailed description of a shunt, with photos of her little boy Asher, who has hydrocephalus

A Pile of Puppies & Art
adoptive momma (China) Wendy at Adoption & Fire… tactile defensiveness and art

Whatever Wednesdays

June 3, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

It is hard to believe…adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… on her daughter Jazzie’s last day of first grade

A Great Check-Up!!!
adoptive parents (China) Aaron and Erica at Praying for You You… on their daughter’s recent visit to the cardiologist

The reality checks you get about your special needs kidmomma to a son with cerebral palsy Ellen at To The Max… thoughts about their recent family vacation

touchy toysadoptive momma (China) mama d at zarfing sunshine… a creative way to deal with her daughter’s tactile needs during meal time

The Real Gotcha Day Postadoptive momma (China) Monica at Journey with Reese… two years together and the progress her daughter has made

CIT Completeadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… her daughter’s constraint-induced therapy completed for the summer!

Next Door Neighbor
foster parents (China) Jacob and Carrie at Signs of Hope… a recently abandoned eight-year-old undergoes heart surgery

On the Road Againmomma to a son with hydrocephalus Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary... it’s okay to admit that it’s been hard

I’m gonna try to talk about it againadoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… describing recent progress with her daughter’s reactive attachment disorder (RAD)

Whatever Wednesdays

May 27, 2009 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Researching Our Options
— adoptive parents (China) the Straights at “Straight” Talk… upcoming surgery – do they choose the sphincter pharyngoplasty or the p-flap?

Eye Doctor! — adoptive momma Sharie at Mostly Amelia… a recent eye exam leads to tears, then smiles

Try This Tuesday #45, Shoe Shopping — momma to a child with autism, Trish at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on taking her autistic son shoe shopping

Update — adoptive momma (China) Cara at Seeking Our Silas… attachment therapy and just getting through the days

New Letter From Da Xin
— adoptive momma (China) Michelle at Born In Our Hearts… sharing a letter they received from Da Xin, the older child whom they will soon adopt

Whatever Wednesdays

May 20, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

16-year-old fashion model has prosthetic arm
adoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Mary Dell at Torrefaction… photos and links to this news story

new mode of transportation adoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… a new walker and an update on his hips

Silas’ Final Medical Tests (Hopefully)adoptive momma (China) at Seeking Our Silas… great news after some medical tests

changing and adaptingmomma to a child with special needs Good Fountain… changing a sensory diet to meet her daughter’s changing sensory needs

Celebrating International Vascular Birthmark Awareness Day with a Giveawaymomma to a child with special needs Child Life at In the Life of a Child… information about vascular birthmarks and a children’s book that helps explain it

Turning a corneradoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… her daughter turns a corner with attachment struggles

Three months laterfounder of Starfish Children’s Services Amanda at the Starfish Cleft Home blog… an update on eight of the children, including Tina, the child we co-sponsor (she is adorable!)

babiesadoptive momma (China) Stefanie of Ni Hao Y’all… shares some of the children who stole her heart during a recent volunteer visit to the Chinese foster home An Orphan’s Wish

Around the Blogosphere: Special Needs Edition
Tammy and Parker at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… announcing a blog carnival that will focus on blogs pertaining to special needs, especially parenting children with special needs

1 in 12
adoptive momma (China) Beach Mama at Life’s a Beach 4 Us!… informative post with links on World Hepatitis Day

Whatever Wednesdays

May 14, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

ER Visit
adoptive momma (China) Cara at Seeking Our Silas… a recent trip to the ER after *someone* removed the batteries from his BAHA (a hearing aid)

CIT Week 1
adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… describing the progress made after one week of constraint induced therapy

World AIDS Orphan Day
adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Jenny at Real Mama… a great informational post about the 15 million children orphaned by AIDS

She Knowsadoptive parents (China) the Straights at “Straight” Talk… a recent trip to the speech therapist reveals that Shelby knows she “looks different”

A Special (ed) Announcement adoptive momma (China) Mary Ellen at A Beautiful Mess… an informative post about state programs for early intervention

Milestones…..adoptive momma (China) Traci at Our Little Asian Sensation… a big milestone for a little boy after palate surgery

A Master of Disguiseadoptive momma (China) Lisa Milbrand at The Mamahood… a decision reached after considering their options about what to do cosmetically for microtia

day twoadoptive momma (China) Stefanie of Ni Hao, Y’all… day two of her visit to An Orphan’s Wish in China

Prakash’s Hands Before Surgeryfoster momma (India) Sarah Bess, co-founder of India Christian Ministries, at Sarah’s Covenant Homesclose-up hand photographs of a child with Apert syndrome

Whatever Wednesdays

May 6, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First Dr. Visit and a Little Update
adoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… first doctor’s visit in the United States for an older adoptee

Medical Trip: Beijingfoster parents (China) the Lauries at The Lauries Go to China… a medical trip with several children from their foster home, facilitated by Bethel Training Center for the Blind

New Shoes!!!! and It’s a Matter of Hips!adoptive momma (China) Sally: That Girl! at Bryson Makes 8!… updates about her son Bryson, who recently completed his final casting for club foot

You Go, Girlan adoptive momma (China) at Our Ladybug Adventure… her daughter’s progress several years after adoption

Adopting an Underweight Babyadoptive momma (Russia) Ingrid at Grown in My Heart… her experiences in adopting two children, both underweight

Constraint-Induced Therapy
adoptive momma (China ) Cheri at Infinite Love… describing constraint-induced therapy and her daughter’s most recent casting

Blogging Against Disablism Day 2009
the annual links list of those Blogging Against Disablism at Diary of a Goldfish… definitely check it out for some great resources and information

Great Things for Sensory Integration and Preschoolers
momma to a child with special needs Katrina at Roots and Wings… wonderful “games” to do with children ages three to five who struggle with sensory issues

Whatever Wednesdays – a day late

April 24, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

A Day in Hell and Please God, Let These Antibiotics Workadoptive momma (China) Heather at Dragons & Elephants… describing their recent medical experiences

The story to our fourth blessingadoptive momma (China) Amy at My Four Blessings… the journey to find their fourth child, an older girl living with arthrogryposis

Curious Neighbors momma to a child with autism, LauraS, at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… how life changed after she connected with her neighbors

Derrick’s Momone of my imaginary friends, The Happy Geek… a beautiful post written about the momma of a special needs child

Isaiah’s First Casting: To Greeley, CO and Back
adoptive momma (Korea, China and Uganda) Linny at A Place Called Simplicity… about her son Isaiah’s first casting for his arthrogryposis

Umm… O.Kayfoster momma (India) Sarah Bess, co-founder of India Christian Ministries, at Sarah’s Covenant Homesamusing post about those Google searches we make when researching various medical conditions

The Spectrum of Sensory Integration Disorder adoptive momma (China, Guatemala) Judy at the group adoption blog Grown in My Heart, but who regularly blogs at The International Mom’s Blog… a brief description of sensory integration dysfunction, also known as sensory processing disorder

Babies Can’t Wait adoptive parents (China) The Straights at “Straight” Talk… their daughter’s recent evaluation with their state’s Infants and Toddlers program

Fine Line Between Researching and Parentingmomma to a special needs child Carrie at 5 Minutes for Special Needs, though she regularly blogs at Little Miss Hannah… do they allow more medical tests for research purposes that might help their daughter and others? or do they put a stop to the poking and prodding?

A Special Need
momma to a special needs child Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… about her son’s hydrocephalus

8:45 AM Update: Monday and 2:15 PM Update: Mondayadoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures From Afar… about her daughter Kate’s chest tube and medical tests

And They Are Off!!! and Standing: Before and Afteradoptive momma (China) Sally That Girl! at Bryson Makes 8!… her son’s final casts come off

Noseadoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… learn something new about cleft lip/ cleft palate

Whatever Wednesdays

April 15, 2009 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Reese’s 10th Laser Treatment
adoptive momma (China) Monica at Journey With Reese… describing a laser treatment on her daughter’s face and leg

Progress and Pez!adoptive momma (China) Chelsea at Gour Family Adventures… details (and video) of her daughter’s recent physical therapy session

Meeting Maisey Graceadoptive momma (domestic) Julie Martindale at Not just an Ordinary Life… in the process of deciding about adopting once more

Emotions Muse by Dianeadoptive momma (China) Diane at the group blog An-Ya… details about her daughter’s emotions relating to her adoption as an older child

A Does of Realityan adoptive momma (China) at Room for At Least One More… struggles they face six months after adopting a child with cleft lip/ cleft palate

Hello to the World of Sound!!!adoptive momma (China) Melissa at Wen Love Calls… about her son’s recent fittings for hearing aids

Whatever Wednesdays

April 8, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.


walking the line
adoptive momma (China) mama d at zarfing sunshine… a thoughtful post about advocacy and where to draw the line

Somewhere In Between
pharmacist turned stay at home mom Michelle, who regularly blogs at In the Life of a Child, at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… adjusting to life with a special needs child when crisis no longer looms on the horizon

A Little More About SuSuadoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… one three-year-old’s initial adjustment after adoption, while the family is still in China

They’re Off! adoptive momma (China) Mandi at The Journey Continues… her daughter Mylee’s tenth casts finally came off (club foot)

Cleft Exchange Day One
the team at Love Without Boundaries… a volunteer team arrived in China and began performing multiple cleft surgeries

Choosing Among Children
foster momma (India) Sarah Bess at Sarah’s Covenant Home… feeling pulled in so many directions because the needs are so great

There’s no such thing as a bad egg
momma to a special needs child Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… a high school parenting experiment foreshadows her future motherhood

Speech Frustrationsadoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… about her daughter’s significant speech delays, possibly apraxia of speech or dysarthria

Whatever Wednesdays

April 1, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Owen Updateadoptive momma (China) Melissa at Wen Love Calls… thoughts after one month home, plus some information about his medical evaluations

Home Sweet Home
adoptive momma (China) Heather at Dragons and Elephants… describing her son Kai’s last day in the hospital and his first two weeks home after major surgery

Victoria’s Fingersfoster momma (India) Sarah Bess, co-founder of India Christian Ministries, at Sarah’s Covenant Homes… describing Victoria’s clinodactyly of the index fingers and either that or kirner’s deformity of the pinky fingers

Cardiologist check-up adoptive parents (China) Aaron and Erica at Praying for You You… her first check-up with the cardiologist after major surgery

Monday Morning Confessional: I need to get out. Often.
momma of a child who has special needs (infant strokes) Ellen at To The Max… leaving a child with special needs with a babysitter

I knew this day would come adoptive momma (China) Living4Him5at My Four Blessings… an emotional conversation with her daughter about her daughter’s arthrogryposis

If you know one kid with autism…adoptive momma (domestic) Julie Martindale at Not Just An Ordinary Life… exploring her feelings about her son’s recent autism diagnosis

Whatever Wednesdays

March 25, 2009 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First Day of Schooladoptive momma (Ethiopia) Carey at The Real Drew Carey Show… her daughter’s first day of school (the fourth grade), less than a month after adoption

looking for spring
adoptive momma (Taiwan) Sarah at Journey to Taiwan for Hannah Claire… a little about treatment options for her daughter’s hemangiomas

Cerebral Palsy Awareness Day adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Infinite Love… basic facts about cerebral palsy on its awareness day, from a momma whose daughter has mild cerebral palsy due to an in utero stroke

Home From Surgery!adoptive momma (China) Jenn at Love Like Crazy!!!… about her daughter’s recent eyelid surgery

Special Needsmomma Kate, who regularly blogs at The Big Piece of Cake, featured at Blog Nosh Magazine… describing her son, who has sensory-seeking sensory processing disorder

Our red thread journey adoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker’s Sweets… one family’s journey from sponsorship to the adoption of a little girl with congenital nevus

Bringing Katelynn Home
adoptive momma (China) Chelsea at Gour Family Adoption … their and their travel group’s experiences with older child adoption

Links and Resources by Tracyadoptive momma (China) Tracy at the group blog An-Ya… a list of links for attachment and adoptive parenting

Inspiration for Parents

March 19, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

This video spoke a lot to me, despite its slight cheese factor. I found the message extremely moving, especially as the momma of a child with unexpected special needs. I feel it will mean a lot to those parents who – like me – found themselves on an unexpected road, but I suspect this video will also touch those who willingly chose to take this life path.

A HAT TIP to CC of If Only I Had Super Powers for first posting the video.

Whatever Wednesdays

March 18, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

New Arrivals foster parents (China) Jacob and Carrie at Signs of Hope… three children with moderate to severe special needs join their foster family

Siblings… Unusual Concerns and Exceptional Blessings
adoptive momma (domestic) Julie Martindale at Not Just An Ordinary Life… about the siblings of children who have special needs – sometimes forgotten by society, never forgotten by their families

The Noggin Speaks Good NewsHeather, momma to a child with hydrocephalus, at The Extraordinary Ordinary… an update three months after her son Asher’s shunt surgery

Can she hear me now? adoptive momma (China) Andrea at Adoption Road… describing her daughter’s microtia/ aural atresia

medical update — adoptive momma (China) Deb at the invisible red threadher son Jack’s chromosomal tests came back normal!

It’s been a crazy week... — adoptive momma (China) Donna at loving lauren… about her daughter’s MRSA infection and toddler medicine challenges

A Very Big Day!adoptive momma (China) The Gang’s Momma at The Gang’s All Here!… about upcoming tests her daughter will undergo to learn more about her microtia and atresia

another one of Those Conversationsadoptive momma (China) mama d at zarfing sunshine… touching on older child adoption and albinism

Tip from the OT #1an adoptive momma (China) at Mei Mei Journal II… a tip from her daughter’s occupational therapist designed for sensory seekers

Pictures!!!! and Anybody Got a Toothpick? *FOR MY EYELIDS*adoptive momma (China) Leslie at Room for at least One More… an update with photos after her daughter’s cleft surgery

Whatever Wednesdays

March 12, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Let the healing beginadoptive momma (China) Maia at The Wanderer’s Daughter… a powerful post about the unique blessings and challenges of adopting a child with special needs

Saying Noadoptive momma (domestic) Julie Martindale at Not just an Ordinary Life… knowing your family limits when it comes to special needs

Love’s Unlimited Potentialguest post by an unnamed Chinese foster momma from the New Day Foster Home at Love Grows Here… her experiences fostering two children with severe special needs

baby loveadoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao Y’all… explaining her thoughts and emotions about the unknowns after they received LOA

The beauty in imperfection
adoptive momma (China) Gail and Aging with Grace and Strong Will… a recent playground conversation about her son’s repaired cleft lip

Our Hearts Belong to Maiyaadoptive momma (China) Susan at The Miracle of Maiya… explaining how her daughter’s medical condition is more serious than they originally thought

Preparing For A Medical Emergency With A Medically Fragile Childpharmacist turned stay-at-home mom Michelle at 5 Minutes for Special Needs, but who regularly blogs at In The Life Of A Child… a list of fourteen tasks that just might save your child’s life

Orthodontic Molds
foster momma (China) Amanda, founder of Starfish Children’s Services at the Throwing Starfish, the blog for the new Starfish Cleft Home… four things cleft molds do

Whatever Wednesdays

March 4, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Heart Catheterization Update
adoptive daddy (China) Aaron at Praying for YouYou… a description of his daughter’s recent heart catheterization – the whys and hows of it all (SN: heart condition – VSD)

Lucy’s GI Visitadoptive momma (China) Jill at The Hutchinson Family… a recent check-up (SN: HepB+)

H Pylori, The Second Time Around; More Prevalent Than You May Thinkadoptive momma (Russia and Guatemala) Marcie at A Child Chosen… describing both of her son’s H Pylori infections

Scared? adoptive momma (China) snowflowers mum at Growing Snowflowers… her reaction to the British public’s reaction to a children’s TV host who has a limb difference

The different schools of attachment therapy
adoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… her thoughts as she navigates the confusing world of attachment therapies (SN: two children diagnosed with RAD)

Cleft Home Three Weeks Later
Amanda, founder of Starfish Children’s Services at Starfish Cleft Home… a progress report on the nine children who just joined the Starfish foster family (SN: cleft lip/ cleft palate)

Hey baby, what’s your sign?
Early Childhood Educator JVS at Standing Tall Through Everything… describing her personal struggles to label children as special needs when she herself does not want to label others, since she’s been on the receiving end all too often

We Are Home!!!adoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… discussing her son’s recent surgery and release from the hospital (SN: club foot)

On A Rollfoster momma (China) Carrie at Love Grows Here: The New Day Foster Home Blog… little Phillip, getting around in his wheelchair (SN: severe hydrocephalus and spina bifida)

61/365adoptive momma (Vietnam) Kelly at Lucy in the Sky With Diamonds… a description of her daughter’s visit with the occupational therapist (gross motor delays typical of an international adoptee)

I’ll Take a Double… NOT!adoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… an ear infection becomes more challenging when you have certain special needs (SN: velopharyngeal insufficiency or VPI)

Whatever Wednesdays

February 25, 2009 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First, I ask that y’all pray for the family of Lydia Miyashita, who passed away yesterday after a tough battle with AML, a form of leukemia. Lydia’s parents adopted her from China several years ago through the non-special needs program. Our thoughts and prayers are with her family, church community and friends.

Medical ID Bracelet
adoptive momma Cheri at Infinite Love… a beautiful new option for those children who wear Medical ID bracelets

C-L-A-I-R-Eadoptive momma Chelsea at Gour Family Adventures… it’s amazing what a year can do!

on adopting our older childadoptive momma Mama D at zarfing sunshine… a post written while in China, several days after meeting one another for the first time

Therapy Thursday: Noise Induced Hearing Loss and a Giveaway
adoptive momma (Korea) and speech therapist CC at If Only I Had Super Powers… a great post explaining noise-induced hearing loss and a give-away of IHearSafe headphones (ends 2/28)

The Power of Tender Loving Carea staff member of Love Without Boundaries… describing recent feeding challenges faced by the staff at the LWB Anhui Cleft Healing Home

Transforming PT into Playtime parent of a special needs child Michelle at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… ideas to turn physical therapy into productive, yet FUN play times

University of Chicago Dermatology for the Win
adoptive momma Mary Dell at Torrefaction… a thank you to a pediatric dermatologist – for one happy AND NAPPING baby

Monday Morning Confessional: I used to make fun of a kid with handicapsmomma of a child who has special needs (infant strokes) Ellen at To The Max… a heart-felt post involving her childhood memories of teasing a child with special needs

The Big Cheerio adoptive momma Andrea at Adoption Road… a detailed description of her daughter’s recent CT scan

Whatever Wednesdays

February 18, 2009 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Sigh…adoptive momma Sandra at The Daily Grind… healing, both physically and emotionally, after a cochlear implant surgery

retro-post: all about albinismadoptive momma mama d at zarfing sunshine… thoughts about her soon-to-be adopted daughter, who has albinism

Can you be a Child’s Special Valentine?the Auction Coordinator at Love Without Boundaries… information about the 2009 Born in My Heart Auction, which raises money for much needed heart surgeries for child who wait in China

Appt. Today
adoptive momma Sally at Bryson Makes 8!… an update on her son’s club feet after his seventh casts

Cute Little Bugger
adoptive momma Amy at Finally a Family of Five… just a little cleft talk about noses and colds

I Wuvoo adoptive momma Cara at Seeking Our Silas… a description of her son’s occupational therapy for sensory processing disorder

Starfish Sponsorswaiting momma (China) and Starfish Foster Homes supporter redmaryjanes at The Seventh Diamond… Starfish needs 14 more sponsors for the new children at the Starfish Cleft Home

Maybe You Can Help Dr. Lu’s CareLaura Baldwin, the Special Assistance Director at Love Without Boundaries… requesting financial assistance to keep a doctor on staff

You Can Join The Mifan Mommy ClubKay Bratt, author of Silent Tears has started the Mifan Mommy’s Club. For only “$9 per month, a bag of rice [mifan] can be purchased and will feed all of the children and staff in the Anhui orphanage for one day.”