Special Need Highlight: Adopting a Child with Complex Cloaca

September 8, 2014 by nohandsbutours advocating, ambiguous genitalia, cloaca, Family Stories, girls, urogenital defects, urologic 1 Comments

I have to be completely honest from the start. We did not choose this special need. We had never even heard of it! And if we had known what it might entail, I can tell you plainly, we would have chickened out. But God knew that and kept us in the dark so He could …Read More

Two Septembers

September 2, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 1 Comments

He sauntered into the room While our hearts were beating fast, The papers had been signed No longer an orphan, a son at last. A grin stretched wide Across his adorable face, Straight to his daddy’s lap A picture of grace. We played, we laughed We shed a few tears, But he? He just giggled …Read More

how we deal

August 4, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 7 Comments

I’m not gonna lie. My world has been spinning for a few months. And I try my best during the last week of each month to settle on a topic to write about here at NHBO. But y’all. It’s just been hard lately! I walk through a scenario with our boys and I think “BAM! …Read More

walk, don’t run.

July 1, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 1 Comments

I’ve never been a runner. Heck, the nickname given to me in high school was “Clyde.” As in Clydesdale. Yeah, the horse. The one who trots along through life. But while I may not have been a runner, I walked fast! And with purpose. Even now, I somehow manage to leave my poor husband in …Read More

special need highlight: adopting a child with anal atresia

April 12, 2014 by nohandsbutours anorectal malformation, Family Stories, imperforate anus, urogenital defects, urologic 0 Comments

Until we decided to pursue a special needs adoption from China I had never heard of anal atresia (more commonly called imperforate anus or anorectal malformation in the US). My first introduction to the term was via the special needs medical checklist from our agency, and I can remember reading through the list with our …Read More

she says they’re insane, but I say they ROCK

April 1, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 5 Comments

So we have some great friends in this life. Tamara & Jason are among them. We met back in the late ‘90’s when our hubbies were attending seminary in Fort Worth. We were carefree… with good jobs, a love for coffee, and no kids between us. We played often, laughed hard, took trips and lived …Read More

Urology Woes & Successes

March 1, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 1 Comments

So happy March, y’all! Are you as excited about spring coming to your neck of the woods as I am about it coming to mine? Whew. And I only live in the South. Can’t imagine how you folks in other parts of the country are still managing to maintain sanity right about now! But hold …Read More

waiting child highlight: saying yes to complex conditions

February 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours advocating, complex medical, Family Stories, special focus, urogenital defects, urologic 7 Comments

Checking off medical conditions that we would accept on our agency’s medical checklist, and not checking those we wouldn’t accept, was among the hardest tasks of our adoption process. Our human side wanted to maintain our comfortable life, and longed for easy. In our hearts though, we knew that God’s plans are always much higher …Read More

you can't keep a good man down

December 1, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 0 Comments

I’ve posted here before that I’m an idiot. There’s no denying. And my idiocy is magnified at the pedi urologist’s office. But recently, I scored one for the mommy dummies of the world, because I was right! Our Gabe wasn’t doing well. I couldn’t put my finger on it. He was cranky and pulling at …Read More

baby steps and giant leaps

November 1, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 3 Comments

I’m not sure if I’ve posted here before about the long and winding road we walk with our Joel in regards to education. In a nutshell, Joel came home to us at age 3 having spent his life in an orphanage. He was not speaking Thai at all and we were told by his pediatrician …Read More


September 2, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 0 Comments

My mind has been doing the very same thing this week that it did three years ago. In 2010, our son, Joel {aka The Thai Tornado}, would be celebrating his first year home in the coming days and I couldn’t get the images, the smells and the memories out of my head. They came flooding …Read More

expect the unexpected

August 1, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 0 Comments

So the last time we chatted, our Gabe had a surgery looming. As we say in the South, a “big, honkin’ surgery.” We knew what we wanted to have happen…a graft to be taken from our Little Prince’s mouth {ouch} to build his urethra {as well as tubes placed in his ears for recurrent and …Read More

perspective and prayers {7.1.13}

July 3, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 9 Comments

I wrote most of this post at 12:37am Monday morning. Before anything happened. Before reality came. I was broken and sad and pondering some weighty things. And sleep just would not come. Do you ever do this? Does your mind spin and swirl and succumb to hard thoughts late at night? Do you see faces …Read More

miles to go

June 1, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 1 Comments

So the little prince and I were at Target the other day when my phone rang. Our dear friends needed a little help and thought of us… Because she said, “You guys ‘get it!’” And I guess she’s right about that. They have been home from China for six months with their sweet boy and …Read More


May 1, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kam, urologic 8 Comments

So that is the question I hear out of our Thai Tornado’s mouth incessantly. Why? I can’t remember when our girls went through this stage. It seems they were much younger. Joel will be seven in four months. He seems old to me…but maybe I’m just old and can’t remember. Yeah, that’s more plausible. Why …Read More

not in a million years

April 2, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, hypospadias, Kam, urologic 3 Comments

So I’m a moron. I mean it. A complete and total dork. My idiocy seems to come out NOT in front of fellow idiots, but around uber smart, genius type people. You know, those who intimidate the heck out of you and before whom you know ahead of time that you should just keep your …Read More


February 27, 2009 by nohandsbutours cl/cp, Craniofacial, Family Stories, hypospadias, urogenital defects, urologic 0 Comments

by Mara and Kevin, parents to David from China with cleft lip/palate and hypospadias Kevin and I knew before we were married that we might not be able to have biological children, so we had talked about adoption for years before we started the process in September 2006. Even then, we thought about a special …Read More


February 5, 2009 by nohandsbutours anorectal malformation, Family Stories, imperforate anus, rectal/vaginal fistula, urogenital defects, urologic 0 Comments

By Paulette, mother to Annalise from China with anal rectal malformation From the day I decided to adopt from China I knew that my role in this adoption was bigger then just sitting on the NSN list and waiting for the perfect healthy baby to arrive. God had equipped me to have the knowledge and …Read More