I like you be my mommy

June 11, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 2 Comments

“I like you be my mommy.” Those six little words, spoken with a beaming smile no less, from my four year old nearly made me come undone recently. Her heartfelt statement spoke volumes about the positive change in our relationship over the nine months we’ve known one another…because on September 2 of last year, things …Read More

Exposed to Hope: Girls with Vision Impairment

May 16, 2014 by nohandsbutours advocating, Children Who Wait, Family Stories, girls, Sensory System, vision issues 0 Comments

In 2005 we submitted our application for a Non Special Need (NSN) adoption from China but five years later we were still waiting. Afraid that our time would never come, we started discussing Special Needs (SN) adoption. We got all the necessary papers and permissions but struggled trying to figure out what kind of special …Read More

what time?

April 11, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 0 Comments

Difficult conversations. They happen in every house from time to time. Sometimes they are easy to see coming, other times they can hit just about blindsided. And then there are the times you lay your own trap… Last year I turned 40. The morning of my birthday one of my kiddos came in to wake …Read More

the need is great

March 12, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 2 Comments

This month I meant to share with you about a difficult conversation one of my kids and I have been dancing around for months now. And I will share that conversation at some point. But it won’t be today. Today my heart is broken, my thoughts are disjointed and my emotions are raw. I just …Read More

waiting child highlight: cataracts

March 10, 2014 by nohandsbutours advocating, Children Who Wait, special focus, vision issues 0 Comments

These three boys have cataracts and are waiting for their families to find them. Meet Silas Silas is a handsome ten year old boy born March of 2004. He is described as an outgoing child with a history of congenital cataracts. He enjoys learning English and has a wonderful memory for learning. He has a …Read More

wounded heart

February 11, 2014 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 1 Comments

Character band-aids. They seemed to me like a colorful slice of a pacifier that we ever so gently stick on our children’s wounds…sometimes they even actually even cover blood. I have in the past had what you could call a ‘love/hate relationship’ with character band-aids. That is until a Mother’s Day tea in one of …Read More

Waiting child highlight: Can a Blind Kid Really do That?

January 24, 2014 by nohandsbutours advocating, boys, Children Who Wait, special focus, vision issues, vision loss 2 Comments

Before I started working for Bethel China, I had never had any interaction with children or adults who are blind or visually impaired (VI). Spending time with these kids has been a huge learning curve for me in changing my perceptions about what a child with a visual impairment can do. As a sighted person, …Read More

Are you ready?

August 11, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 7 Comments

Our sweet Natalie. It’s been over two years now that we’ve prayed for her to find a family and nearly one year since we’ve been racing to make her part of ours. In pictures I’ve watched her go from a baby to a toddler to an adorable preschooler. While it seemed the wait would be …Read More

Best friends

June 11, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, vision issues 0 Comments

This school year one of my closest friend’s daughters has helped keep Daniel and I company one day a week. Our Mondays together have included some preschool lessons, lunch time, rest time and of course plenty of play time. Two precious kiddos, born on different continents in 2008. These “built-in best friends” now live in …Read More

Everyday girl

April 11, 2013 by nohandsbutours heart defect, Kristi, port wine stain, vision issues 2 Comments

I watch her run across the yard, her straight, black ponytail bouncing over her self-selected outfit (which today, for once, is rather tame) and from the back she seems like just any other, everyday, six year old girl. Then something grabs her attention and she turns around. As she glances past me her face breaks into …Read More

Our adoption story

October 20, 2012 by nohandsbutours blood conditions, Family Stories, ITP (idiopathic thrombocytopenia purpura), Sensory, vision issues 5 Comments

Adoption is word that has been said, discussed, and considered in our family since we have been married. Noel and I just recently celebrated 17 years of marriage, and early in our marriage we thought it would be how God would grow our family. We experienced a very trying time of infertility, but God did …Read More

Ambly-what?

December 11, 2011 by nohandsbutours Amblyopia, Kristi, vision issues 0 Comments

A few months ago we assumed that our oldest son had perfectly good vision. Then I took him to his yearly check at the pediatrician’s office.  He rocked out the vision chart using both eyes, and then again with his left eye.  But when it came time for his right eye, he just giggled and …Read More

A new look on life

May 11, 2010 by nohandsbutours congenital glaucoma, Kristi, vision issues 2 Comments

Well, the most recent eye exam didn’t give quite the results we were hoping for. At the last visit three weeks ago Dr. F was encouraged by the reduction in pressure in our little one’s eye and hoped that we’d be able to avoid further surgery for months, possibly even years. But the pressure has …Read More

Reflections from my first time in "the waiting chair"

April 11, 2010 by nohandsbutours congenital glaucoma, Kristi, port wine stain, surgery, vision issues 7 Comments

Welcome to Kristi, our newest contributing blogger. Kristi has three children adopted from China and her newest daughter, Darcy, joined their family in February. Kristi blogs about their family at Fireworks and Fireflies. Wednesday of this past week I joined a club. A club I never would have imagined myself in just a few short …Read More

Gabe

March 28, 2010 by nohandsbutours congenital glaucoma, Family Stories, Sensory, Sensory Issues, Sensory System, vision issues 0 Comments

by Jess, mom to Gabe Xulu from China with congenital glaucoma While Tim and I were paper-chasing we knew from the get go that we would be adopting SN, so even before we submitted our dossier we filled out our SN checklist. Our agency didn’t want us to submit it though until we submitted our …Read More

Can I handle this????

October 15, 2009 by nohandsbutours Amblyopia, developmental delays, Hypoplasia of the Corpus Callosum, Nicole, vision issues 10 Comments

I can still remember the first special needs checklist we ever filled out. It was March 2005. We had just sent our first dossier to China. Our checklist was quite simple. We stated cleft lip and palate, female and As Young As Possible (AYAP). My husband and I signed it and I quickly faxed it …Read More

Hope

March 10, 2009 by nohandsbutours congenital blindness, Family Stories, Sensory, Sensory Issues, Sensory System, vision issues 0 Comments

by Kim, mom to Hope from China with a SN of congenital blindness A few years ago, our 6 year old daughter Abigail heard about the orphans in China. How little girls are routinely abandoned, and it rocked her world. She couldn’t stop talking about it, and one day she declared that when she grows …Read More

Karleigh Mei

February 7, 2009 by nohandsbutours abortive cryptophthalmos, Family Stories, vision issues 0 Comments

by Jenn, mom to Karleigh Mei from China with vision issues Everyone asks us when we made the decision to adopt. It was a seed that was planted in both Karl and I many years ago. I believe, for myself, it was planted when I was a child. I’ve always wanted to adopt a child. …Read More