what we're reading links: 7.22.2014

July 22, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it.

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Rachel Engel shares What Facebook Means to Special Needs Families on her blog Tales From the Plastic Crib. And she is oh-so-right.

In China adopting her son, Liberty laments her son’s poor condition in Orphanages are No Place for Children. Then, after having a chance to visit her son’s orphanage, she shares her new perspective in They Saved His Life.

At The Diary of a Not-So-Angry Asian Adoptee, Christina shares An Adoptee’s Perspective: 15 Things Transracially Adoptive Parents Need to Know.

Jaclyn of Kinda Crunchy explains their journey from dreaming of adopting a daughter to joyfully planning to adopt a son in Delicate Decisions: Adopting a Chinese Boy.

Listen to the parent interview in Grace as Allen and Teri Reaume of Michigan adopt their daughter, who has vision impairment.

Amy of Two Vandalgrads and Three “Gs” shares her heart in The Unspoken “But…” after 49 days parenting her newly adopted daughter.

Stephanie Giese of Binkies and Briefcases tells others on the Huffington Post blog why she knows that sensory processing disorder is real.

At We Are Grafted In, big sister Meredith Toering writes about how her younger sisters constantly ask her to “Tell Me My Story Again.”

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Half the Sky launches Nanny Connect, a program that “allows adoptive families to submit updates and photos about their children to caregivers at the 53 institutions where we have established our programs…”

The Huffington Post reports that Crohn’s Disease Model Bethany Townsend Reveals Colostomy Bag (PICTURES).

Another article from The Huffington Post features the family of a little girl born without a nose – arhinia – who want to encourage others not to to give up on children with rare conditions.

Mallika Rao of The Huffington Post tells others You May Not Know About the First Chinese-Americans, But You Should.

Distractify offers up 40 Genius Travel Tips That Will Change Your Life Forever.

We’ve seen two recent news articles about China’s population control policies, including Second-Child Policy Having Limited Effect in China Daily and Trusting God for a Second Child in China in World Magazine.

Kat Chow, a member of the Code Switch Team at npr, details how “Ching Chong” Became the Go-To Slur for Mocking East Asians.

This week Love Without Boundaries announced its new Cleft Initiative. So excited about this!

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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Liberty and her new son Luke

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In China now to bring home their child…

Enlarge Thy Tent
Strengthen My Hands
Blessed Beyond Measure
Sprout Spot
Filled With Joy Family

Just Home from China…

One More Piece
Lybbi Shu Fang
Full Hands Fuller Heart Family
The Trusty Family
Everything Beautiful
Adding One Morh
Impossible, Difficult, Done
Our Jones Clan

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.


what we're reading links: 6.18.2014

June 18, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it.

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Gia, just days after meeting her new forever family

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Several bloggers tackled the topic of racism against Asian-Americans, including Dami Obaro’s piece outlining the model minority myth entitled “Why Can’t You Be More Like Them?;” Tara Vanderwoude’s piece I’m Not an Exotic Asian; and Don Lee’s account of a recent encounter with a waiter in That’s Kind of Racist, Dude.

Kasi Pruit shares her journey as she processed the Death of the Picture Perfect Family at her husband’s blog i already am.

Kelly the Overthinker shares a list of 20 key things you need to know about China travel in #ohChina.

At Two Vandalgrads and Three “G’s,” Amy describes their visit to their new daughter’s orphanage in Journey to Gia, Day Four: Brokenness Before Redemption.

Several parents received great news in recent weeks, including Jamie from Hearts Set on Pilgrimage in She Hears! And other exciting news! and Lisa of Pursuing Miracles in God’s Got It!

Margie Perscheid, adoptive mom to two adult Korean adoptees, acknowledges her non-adoptive privilege.

High school graduate Christine, adopted from China, shares her college essay about growing up Asian in a Caucasian culture and having a brother with autism.

Ellen Stumbo ponders the question “what if she lives with us forever?” in regards to her second daughter, born with Down Syndrome.

Maureen of Finding Mei Mei discusses the effects of early trauma on a child in The Past is Not in the Past.

Chris of Apricot Lane Farms proves that being born with limb difference can’t stop you from anything, even one of the most physically demanding jobs in the world – farming!

At My Life in God’s Garden, Diane moved us to tears with her recent post Suffering.

Adoptive dad Jim describes the victories that count at Lanterns, Ladybugs and a Whole Lotta Love.

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Several Chinese newspapers ran articles about their country’s adoption program in recent weeks, including Chinese parents compete with foreign applicants to adopt health babies, Adopted American Girl in Quest for Her Chinese Birth Parents and International and Domestic Adoption in China.

Researcher ChangFu Chang, creator of the documentary Long Wait for Home, shares the synopsis of his current documentary project Ricki’s Promise and its kickstarter campaign.

In Yahoo! News, ANI reports that a New discovery could soon make epilepsy history.

Chicagoan Lily Born, an eleven-year-old Chinese adoptee, invented an unbreakable, hard to spill cup for her grandfather, who suffers from Parkinson’s Disease.

Yosemite National Park shared the story of Gabriel, an eight-year-old diagnosed with Ehler Danlos Syndrome, whose Make-A-Wish request involved the park in a huge way.

The Guardian shared a book review about the new book “Leftover Women,” written by Leta Hong Fincher, which details the “toxic vitality of sexism in China today.”

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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In China now to bring home their child…

Everything Beautiful
Adding One Morh
Impossible, Difficult, Done
Our Jones Clan

Just Home from China…

Two Vandalgrads and Two “G”s
The Layers of Life
Stop for Flowers
My Life Song
Lanterns, Ladybugs and a Whole Lot of Love
One More Thing
Bringing Home Andi
Homework, Hotdogs and Valium
Love Makes a Family
The Collected Hord
Team Willie Goes To China

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A big thank you to Amy for sharing a photo of her lovely daughter, and another to those who helped compile this week’s post.


what we're reading links: 5.23.2014

May 23, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

These past two weeks have been chock-full of news stories relevant to the China special needs adoption community! Here are some of our favorite articles and blog posts about parenting an adopted and/or special needs child.
As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it.

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To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Heritage Hardcore at adoption.com highlights the importance of incorporating your child’s birth culture into family life, especially in the case of older child adoption.

Lori from IMMEASURABLY MORE shares her heart in a recent and very personal devotional called waiting…

Tammy from Casting a Stone talks about a recent conversation she had with a child living in an orphanage in “My life would be so different…”

At Unto Adoption, Mia shares details about navigating life with a child who has an unrepaired cleft palate in Cleft in the Rock.

A recent experience caring for a friend’s infant twins sparks thoughts of orphanage life from Amy Eldridge, the CEO of Love Without Boundaries.

On his blog, Jason Johnson makes a case for Killing the Orphan Care Hero Complex.

Mary Evelyn of What Do You Do, Dear? hangs up her superhero cape in The Myth of the Special Needs Supermom.

At the Verge Network, Jamie Ivey shares Four Things to Do When Bringing Home a Child from Hard Places.

Occupational Therapist Heather answers the questions Does My Child Have Behavior Problems? Or Sensory Processing Issues? at Golden Reflections Blog.

Adoptee and Holt employee Courtney Young discusses family, culture and the complexities of adoption reunion at No Fairytale Ending on the Holt International blog.

Jane Samuel, a board member of the Attachment Trauma Network and former ex-pat in China, describes Asian attitudes surrounding adoption in Adoptive Moms and Mother’s Day at Mothering in the Middle.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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Today contributor Jacoba Urist writes about how HIV discrimination against children feels like ‘a punch in the gut’ for parents.

Several articles in recent weeks focused on how photography intersects with adoption and/or special needs:
‘Model’ children: Parents share beautiful photos of kids with special needs, disabilities on today.com
Photos capture special moments with adoptive parents and children in the Lifestyle section of the Lebanon Daily
News From China with love: mementos of adoption at The Telegraph

Several news organizations shared special Mother’s Day tributes, including Channel News Asia, that highlighted the work of Dale Edmonds, adoptive mom and founder of Riverkids; and CBS in the Bay Area, that highlighted the work of Jenny Bowen, adoptive mom and founder of Half the Sky.

In the Health & Science section of The Washington Post, Caitlyn Dewey tells the story of Lacey Phipps: In pain and forced to use a wheelchair, a young woman opts to amputate her clubfeet.

Lantern Vision shares its video about Project Hopeful entitled Adoption is Redemption: Considering Children with Special Needs.

Sandra Upson of The Scientific American shares just one of many results of China’s one-child policy in Health Care Crisis Looms as China Faces Elderly Dementia Upsurge.

At Gazillion Voices, David Amarel, a transracial adoptive dad to teens, shares his recent encounter with a stranger on a train in The Unbearable Whiteness of Being.

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Kate, whose mama blogs at The Trusty Family, just home from China

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In China now to bring home their child…

Two Vandalgrads and Two “G”s
The Layers of Life
Stop for Flowers
My Life Song
Lanterns, Ladybugs and a Whole Lot of Love
One More Thing
Bringing Home Andi
Homework, Hotdogs and Valium
Love Makes a Family
The Collected Hord
Team Willie Goes To China

Just Home from China…

The Trusty Family
Hearts Set on Pilgrimage
September Sweeties
Becoming Home

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A big thank you to Kristina for sharing a photo of her beautiful daughter, and another to those who helped compile this week’s post.


what we're reading: 5.8.2014

May 8, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it…

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Rob from tea in fairyland reflects on life and parenting after four months with his girls in Fridays With Father.

In Jasmine Flower, Lisa of Seriously Blessed shares about her daughter Jasmine’s positive attitude, medical challenges and memories of her life in China prior to adoption.

Momma at Joy Embraced asked are personal questions acceptable? in regards to transracial adoptive families.

Over at Parenting With Connection, moderators provide nine ideas in response to the reader question what activities can I do with my child that also promote connection?

John Simmons offers a Very Simple Explanation of Reactive Attachment Disorder to his then-teenage daughter, diagnosed with RAD and possessing an IQ in the high sixties.

Jim of Lanterns, Ladybugs and a Whole Lotta Love shares his conflicted thoughts about his child’s first parents in The Ghost at the Feast.

At Home Is Where the Heart Is, Andrea gives a comprehensive update on three of her children in No More Owies.

On its blog, Love Without Boundaries shares helpful information about the First Steps of the Adoption Process: What Happens in China.

Shannon at Here We Grow Again writes touchingly about her son’s first birthday home… at the age of eight.

Abigail Chuan-Ling Tuan MacLean guest-posts at Wordy Nerdy about her experiences as a biracial American in A Scrambled Egg — Not All Yellow, Not All White, Mixed.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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NBC Nightly News interviewed Professor Cole Galloway who, frustrated with inaccessible and expensive wheelchairs, created the Go Baby Go program which provides… Custom Cars With a Purpose.

Jeff Katz, executive director of Listening to Parents (a national organization that seeks to eliminate barriers to foster care adoption), ponders the question Why is it easier to adopt a child from overseas than from another state? in a Washington Post opinion piece.

Love Without Boundaries recaps the doctors final rounds for this year’s trip and shares a heart-felt thank you letter from Maureen Brogan, Director of Medical Exchanges, on Cleft Exchange Saturday.

#weneeddiversebooks goes viral. Created by several authors, including Asian-American author Ellen Oh, this campaign took social media by storm on Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr.

Max Pemberton, MD tells readers of The Spectator, As a doctor, I’d rather have HIV than diabetes.

Yahoo! News reports on The Lizzie Project, a kickstarter campaign created to fund an untitled Lizzie Velasquez documentary, in New Documentary from Woman With Rare Syndrome Aims to Curb Online Bullying.

An update on Mia, the daughter of Duck Dynasty stars Jase and Missy, who recently underwent her fifth surgery related to cleft lip-cleft palate.

May is Asian-American Heritage Month. Lots of good resources on this site.

Jeff Yang shares Why the ‘Fresh Off the Boat’ TV Series Could Change the Game in the Arts & Entertainment section of The Wall Street Journal.

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In China now to bring home their child…

Hearts Set on Pilgrimage
September Sweeties
Becoming Home

Just Home from China…

Love is the Answer
Miracles and Mudpies
Our Sunshine Days
To Tallulah

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. Thank you to Sandy Puc for sharing her beautiful photo, and thank you to those who helped compile this week’s post.


what we're reading: 4.24.2014

April 24, 2014 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it…

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Yvette from Bringing Home Holland reflects on her fears about bringing home an 11 year old boy.

Our own Amy, home from a recent vacation, recounts some painful moments when she and her “conspicuous” family ran head first into adoption and orphan ignorance.

Dawn from Fried Rice and Noodle Soup retells “A Beautiful Story” in which she unwittingly found her future daughter through the internet.

Laura from Bringing Home Emily Hope shares her recent experience upon visiting her daughter’s orphanage in China.

Photographer Sandy Puc travels to China and captures some powerful images of “gotcha day”.

Two-time adoptive mama, Ginny, shares some wise advise for those first few weeks home with your new child.

Alex Chase, mom to two boys from US foster care, shares what motives her boys to better behavior and a happier demeanor. And it’s not sticker charts.

Kelly from Mine in China thoughtfully responds to the remark oft-heard by parents who adopt internationally: “We need to take care of our OWN!”

And Maureen at Light of Day Stories with a reminder that all adoptive parents should consider. As beautiful as adoption can be for the parents, for the child adoption is traumatic.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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Mercury news shares 18 powerful images of orphaned children in China. Estimates are that there are now close to 1,000,000 orphans in China.

A follow up on one of the links we shared in our last WWR post. With the help of an Upsee, a little girl with CP – unable to walk or stand on her own – was able to be the flower girl in her aunt’s wedding. She said she ‘felt like Cinderella’.

Medline Plus reports that the recent outbreak of measles is, at least in part, due to U.S. adoptions of children from China.

An interesting read on Daily Life – why Chinese parents don’t say I love you to their children.

Louisville News with a story about Carly Donner, member of the National Honor Society with a 4.7 GPA and adopted from China as an infant. Carly was recently accepted to the Naval Academy with a special nomination from U.S. Sen. Michael Bennet.

Adoptive dad John Simmons shares his thoughts – and frustrations – at the recent decline in international adoptions. Says Simmons, “I am frustrated that there are outspoken people who evangelize that adoption is politically incorrect. I am even more frustrated that there are people weak enough to succumb to those words without consideration, simply because they are afraid of what others might think.”

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In China now to bring home their child…

Miracles and Mudpies
Our Sunshine Days

and just home from China:

Scarlet Threads
Difference for One
Our 7th Heaven
Bringing Home Emily Hope
Adoption Adventures with 2 Princesses and a Prince
From God’s Heart to Our Home
To Tallulah
To the Moon and Back

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A special thank you to Sandy Puc for generously sharing her beautiful photo for today’s post.


what we're reading: 4.3.2014

April 3, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it…

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

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Good Morning America takes a look at how Jenny Bowen – founder of Half the Sky – and how one mother, moved by the transforming power of love, has impacted the lives of countless orphans in China.

Heartbreaking pictorial of Chinese parents as they abandon their sick and/or special needs children at the Guangzhou “baby hatch”.

Another article about a baby hatch, this one in Tianjin. “… all 35 babies left in the Tianjin hatch have severe disabilities and illnesses, such as Down syndrome, cerebral palsy, and congenital heart disease,” says Xu who runs the Tianjin baby hatch.

Maylaysia Airlines missing airplane exposes the devastation of the “orphaned” adults that were created in this tragedy due to China’s one-child policy.

Lisa Milbrand, mom of a daughter from China with microtia, blogs at Parents.com with her thoughts on why she chose to adopt a child with special needs.

A mother in Israel comes up with an ingenious way to help her son walk with her. He has cerebral palsy and this invention enables them to do all sorts of everyday activities together. She hopes her invention will benefit children everywhere with impaired motor skills.

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Oh my. Sweet, sweet portraits taken of some of the children at the Little Flower Project foster home in China.

Melissa, mom to two little boys from China through the special needs program, shares transparently about the attachment struggles she has encountered with her second adoption that she never experienced with her first. Great read for anyone home or in the process.

Karen, mom to a 5 year old home from China since 2012, shares her recent experience with trauma-related behavior in her daughter and how she was able to navigate those difficult times by utilizing The Connected Child.

And another post by Karen, about a recent trip to see the musical Annie and how it caused an unexpected reaction in her heart.

Experienced adoptive mama Kelly gives insight into how your newly adopted child is feeling in those first few days and weeks after adoption.

Annie, who recently adopted two sweet girls from China, shares her heart on the heartbreak and the healing of adopting children who have endured more than any child ever should.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

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Outstanding resource for adoptive families, Empowered to Connect. Be sure to visit the Resources page for access to an online library of articles, audio and video presentations for adoptive and foster parents, all free.

Adorable set of eight farm animal wall cards in Chinese.

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In China now, or just home with their child…

C&Alea

Our very own Carrie meeting her precious daughter Alea for the first time

Scarlet Threads
Difference for One
Our 7th Heaven
Bringing Home Emily Hope
Adoption Adventures with 2 Princesses and a Prince
From God’s Heart to Our Home
To Tallulah
To the Moon and Back

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A special thank you to everyone who submitted recommendations for What We’re Reading this week.


what we're reading: 3.20.2014

March 20, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you’ve read or written something you think would be a good addition to a future What We’re Reading post, we’d love to hear about it…

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

Around the Blog World:

Did you know that boys outnumber girls on the shared list, 5 to 1? Andrea at Home is Where the Heart Is shares transparently about her initial preference for adopting a girl instead of a boy from China… and how she feels now, two little boys later.

On Brain Child, Avra Wing, mom to a teenaged daughter from China, reminisces on the surprising and unexpected effects of a return trip to China.

Our own Amy recently experienced one of her worst fears – her daughter Grace was hospitalized with pneumonia. And here she shares the rest of the story.

Six weeks after bringing home daughter Kaili from China, mom Jodi shares her thoughts on special needs adoption on the America World blog.

Rebecca at The Sweet Life follows up her first homeschooling post (found here) with this post about homeschooling Pre-K. Great ideas for encouraging learning between toddlerhood and kindergarten.

Johanna from Stop and Smell the Flowers writes about their word for the year – and how it has affected their adoption journey.

On Forty Days, find forty days worth of Chinese orphan charities to help, support and fund.

In the news:

News anchor in Dallas is surprised by the on-camera visit of the formerly orphaned teen for whom she helped find a forever family five years before. Have a tissue.

Down Syndrome: A Year of Grief and Joy – a mom looks back at all that has changed since she first discovered the little boy she was carrying had Down syndrome.

‘Baby hatch’ in Guangzhou closes – unable to care for any more than the 262 babies with special needs and/or illnesses that have been abandoned since it opened in late January.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

Traveling Families:

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Alisa at A Family4Him with her family – now grown by one adorable little guy

In China now, or just home with their child…

NowHere – our very own Carrie!
A Family for Him
Shouts of Joy
A Mother’s Love
Polkadots on the Windshield
We Are Coming for Chu
His Plan. Our Joy.
Seeing Double
2 Red Threads
The Oasis – Adopting HIS Children

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A special thank you to everyone who submitted recommendations for What We’re Reading this week.


what we're reading :: we're back

March 6, 2014 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Because you asked so very nicely.

Thanks to those of y’all who messaged, commented and emailed, we have officially revived our What We’re Reading feature.

If you’re not familiar with What We’re Reading, it began 5 years ago as a once-a-week post by Tonggu Momma to share links that encourage, inspire, enlighten and inform those of us on this journey of special needs adoption. Because, don’t we know, this is a journey that is full of hills, valleys and everything in between. It morphed a smidge over time to be a little less frequent (that’s when TM handed the reins off to me, ahem).

We also added links to blogs of families who are in China meeting their new little ones. Because that? Is so. much. fun.

And we would love your help to make our What We’re Reading posts even better. We’ve created some very simple forms to complete with any links you think would be of interest to our readers. It might be a news story, a blog post or a special needs resource – anything adoption related, China related, special needs related or parenting related. If you thought it was a good read, let us know. We’d love to check it out and consider sharing it in a future What We’re Reading post.

To share a blog post or news article go here.
To share your blog with our readers, as a soon-to-be traveling to China family go here.

Around the Blog World:

Connie at One More Ladybug reviews the last year with her newest child, Khloie. They’ve tackled cardiological, neurological, vision, verbal and motor issues – and Khloie’s progress has been nothing short of miraculous.

Fannie at Crazy Life of the Wilks Family shares her heart after hearing the news of the death of a child in China with thalassemia.

Photographer/Designer extraordinaire, Ashley Ann, on her blog Under the Sycamore shares the story of Noelle – a little one at New Day who is in desperate need of life-saving heart surgery. Amazingly, all the necessary funds were raised for Noelle’s surgery. Yay!

Katie at For the Love of One with a profound post about what it feels like to live with “the constant reality that I will more than likely bury my own son.”

Rebecca at The Sweet Life recently brought home her son from China who, developmentally, has much catching up to do. She shares a bunch of wonderfully fun and effective ways to encourage learning for little ones, especially those who have not received appropriate opportunities to learn.

Hannah at Loving Dangerously reflects on a visit to an orphanage where she visited with the frailest and sickest children of all.

Tara at Gladney’s blog All I Need shares a powerful guest post about the adoption of her daughter with a similar need to her very own – severe burns.

In the news:

Maybe She’ll Go To The Moon – father of a little girl with Down syndrome speculates on all that his very special daughter will be able to accomplish. At her birth, he was told by the geneticist “you’ve probably seen them bagging groceries” in reference to his daughter’s Down syndrome.

The Holcomb C3-R, an alternative to corneal transplants for people with keracotonus, helped make bobsledder Steven Holcomb’s Olympic dreams come true. The Today show has a 7 minute video on the Holcomb C3-R here.

Read something inspiring lately? Informative? Encouraging? Share the link HERE.

Traveling Families:

precious Maggie, newest daughter to Ginny at 4URuthie

precious Maggie, newest daughter to Ginny at 4U Ruthie

In China now, or just home with their child…

4U Ruthie and Mountains for Maggie
The Oasis – Adopting HIS Children
Is There Not A Cause
Fancy That Design House
Our Adoption Journey
Troncalli Family Adventure

Getting close to travel for your little one in China? Share the link HERE.

P.S. A special thank you to Holly and Liberty for your contribution to What We’re Reading this week.


what we're reading: links

October 23, 2012 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

From the last several weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Somewhere In Between is a must-see movie for adoptive famililes. It profiles four Chinese teenage adoptees in contemporary America – Haley, Jenna, Ann, and Fang. From the synopsis: These four wise-beyond-their-years, yet typical American teens, reveal a heartbreaking sense of self-awareness as they attempt to answer the uniquely human question, “Who am I?”. Visit the website to see if this film is playing near you.

From EMK Press: Top Ten Tips for Successful First Year Parenting by Deborah Gray and Realistic Expectations – The First Year Home (a free download).

News about the Adoption Tax Credit! There are bills in both the House (HR 4373) and the Senate (S 3616) that would create an adoption tax credit that is inclusive, flat for the adoption of children with special needs, refundable and permanent. Ask your representative to co-sponsor HR 4373 and your senators to co-sponsor S 3616. Without an extension, the current adoption tax credit is set to expire December 31, 2012.

Blog World:

Jill, from Phebe Jayne, recently traveled to China to bring her daughter, Phebe Jayne, home from China. And during her time in China, she shares her thoughts on attachment in those first few days with her new daughter.

Tristan, mom to Mason who was born with Spina Bifida, set out to blog about 31 days of Spina Bifida Awareness during the month of October. Lots of wonderful information for anyone with a child with SB or considering this as a special need.

Ashley, from Under the Sycamore, recently returned from China with her new daughter. Ashley shares about her journey in becoming a mom to a child with a physical special need, and how she draws inspiration from her daughter to “just rock it”.

Alison, from Not Yet What We Shall Be, shares her thoughts on adoption, and the overwhelming orphan crisis, as she waits to bring her daughter home from China.

And our own Nicole posts about her daughter’s recent speech therapy evaluation.

Traveling Families:

In China now…

Following Our Leader – Mom Tara is bringing home her daughter Cora, who has a significant heart defect. Please stop by her blog to offer a prayer and some encouragement, Cora had a very serious episode on the in-China flight and Tara is worried about how Cora will do on the flight home.
All Aboard
Sandy Toes and Salty Kisses
Waiting for Ian

About to go to China…

The Journey to Our Daughter
And Then There Were Three

If you have something you’d like to share for a future What We’re Reading post, be sure to let us know via email – we’d love to feature your links or posts about life with your special needs child.



What We're Reading: Links

September 11, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Check out a new ministry created by China adoptive mom, Amy Kratzer. Forever Hope is a non profit, Christian ministry that seeks to provide adoptive families with personal care and support, connection to valuable resources and a network of supportive relationships.

And Nicole, mom to a little boy with Thalassemia, has created Choosing Thalassemia – an entire website devoted to Thalassemia as a special need. Fabulous resource for anyone considering or parenting a child with this special need.

Read about the Mid-Atlantic Burn Camp, “where no one stares, the scars don’t matter and kids can just be kids.”

Blog World:

Yvette, who blogs at Bringing Home Holland, looks back on the 9 months home with son Cavanaugh (adopted from China with a SN of limb differences) and is amazed at how those 9 months have changed him, inside and out.

Monica, big sister to Reese adopted from China in 2007, shares the wonderful news that her parents were recently granted TWO waivers from China to bring home their newest family member, Ana-Cherie. Exciting news for them, and encouraging news for other families that might need a waiver (or two) in order to adopt from China.

Carrie, from To China We Go, looks back on the six months since bringing daughter Abbie home from China and shares her thoughts on parenting a special needs child.

And Ann, from Crazy For Kids, is mom to Kim who was adopted from China with a SN of cleft lip and palate. Kim, now 15, recently had her final surgery and was interviewed about what it is like to have CL/CP… her answers will most definitely be of interest to anyone parenting a child with similar special needs.

Traveling Families:

Recently home from China

The Aiden Adventure
Everyone Eats Rice
Lynch Life
Everyday’s An Adventure
Anything but Lokey
Under the Sycamore

In China now

Faith, Family, Adoption – our very own Kam!
The Weavers World
Phebe Jayne

About to go to China

Amazing Love

If you have something you’d like to share for a future What We’re Reading post, be sure to let us know via email – we’d love to feature your links or posts about life with your special needs child.



What we're reading: links

August 22, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

A disclaimer: It’s summer and I have been sadly remiss in posting our What We’re Reading links… I’ve been a slacker. Forgive me! Additionally, our No Hands But Ours email was not working properly, but this has now been resolved. If you emailed us a link or post over the last few months, please don’t think we ignored you! Just send us your link or post again… we’ll actually get it this time!

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Jen Hatmaker – author, speaker, blogger and adoptive mama – shares a must-read post about one year home with her two adopted children. A humorous and honest reality check of what you can expect the first year home with our new child.

Jenna Cook, a student at Yale, was abandoned as an infant and later adopted by a family in the US. She has determined to search for her Chinese birth family with mixed responses from Chinese netizens. Undeterred, she explains that she does not resent her birth family, and will do whatever it takes to find them.

And in a follow up article, Chris Zheng, a friend of Jenna’s and also a student at Yale, contemplates the cultural differences between the Chinese and the American response to Jenna’s story.

The Painted Turtle is a summer camp for special needs kids, aged 6-17. Created by Paul Newman, the camp is free for eligible children. Visit their website for more information.

And you must read the incredibly inspiring but heartbreaking story of Lou Xiaoying, now 88, who has saved over 30 abandoned babies she happened upon on her job as a trash collector.

Blog World:

Our beloved Tonggu Momma talks about attachment. She says, “As parents, we must – MUST – do our best to guide them through the healing process. But we also need to remember that they have responsibilities as well. They have to reach a point where they are willing to heal.”

Jean from There’s No Place Like Home is mom to many. She is currently in the process of completing their third dual adoption (adoption of two children at the same time) and she shares her thoughts on the process of dual adoption.

Michelle, mom to a little boy with a limb difference, gives ideas on how to help our kids cope with differences in others more effectively and more lovingly.

Ashley Ann from Under the Sycamore recently celebrated her daughter’s first birthday, although her daughter is still waiting in China. Be sure to check out the beautiful way she celebrated.

And she also shared a beautiful and informative post on her daughter’s special need, cleft lip and palate.

Kristin from Tired Mama blogs about the fascinating journey she and her son Willem have been on to correct his bilateral clubfoot. So much wonderful information, and the pictures are nothing short of amazing.

And our very own Nicole shares about Sunshine’s recent palate repair – really fascinating photos included (along with some really cute photos, too!)

Traveling Families:

Recently home from China

Brown Eyes and Bare Feet
A Heartful
Bless the Broken Road

In China

Everyone Eats Rice
Lynch Life
Everyday’s An Adventure

About to travel

Anything but Lokey
Under the Sycamore
and Faith, Family, Adoption – our very own Kam!

If you have any links or posts you’d like to share for a future What We’re Reading post, let us know via email!



what we're reading: links

June 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

US News recently released their newest rankings for the top pediatric hospitals in the US for 2012-2013.
According to their findings, the top five hospitals are:
1. Boston Children’s Hospital
2. Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia
3. Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center
4. Texas Children’s Hospital
5. Children’s Hospital Los Angeles

They’re ambitious, beautiful, ready to take on any challenge life throws their way. And being in a wheelchair does not hold them back. That’s how Monika Joshi, of USA TODAY describes the leads in a new show on Sundance Channel. Push Girls features four women in wheelchairs in a new 14-episode unscripted documentary series.

In the blog world:

Amy at Learning to Fly with Chopsticks shares about the progress her son, Milo, has made since coming home. Milo’s special need is a missing hand – but check out the video of him peeling an orange all by himself.

Our beloved Tonggu Momma shares about her little one, Squirt, and the continuing search for the cause of Squirt’s ongoing medical issues.

Shannon, who blogs at Here We Grow Again, recently shared her heart about a boy, Charlie, that needs to find his forever family. And although she wanted Charlie to be her son, after much prayer and consideration, they determined that adopting Charlie was not God’s plan for them.

Yvette at Bringing Home Holland shares her thoughts on her son’s imperfect, but perfect-to-her, legs prior to surgery. A few days later, Cavanaugh had his foot amputation surgery to allow him to be fitted for prosthetics.

Hiking Mama from Hike. Blog. Love. responds to Margaret Cho’s recent comment about being older and the possibility of having a child with special needs. Cho remarked, “I get worried about that, as an older woman, I don’t necessarily want to have a retard.” Ouch.

Cynthia at Blessed Beyond Measure shares about her daughter Lucy’s special need of microtia and hearing impairment and their plans for an upcoming surgery to build an ear drum and ear canal.

And I’ve been chronicling our son Jude’s recent clubfoot relapse. At six years old, despite following the proper bracing protocol, Jude’s right foot is relapsing. We recently completed the required MRI (to rule out neurological issues) and are awaiting casting and surgery in July.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their children.

Step By Step to Jack
Maggie at Last – non-special needs
Finding Franky

Thanks to Nancy and Holly for sharing links they had found to share for What We’re Reading: Links. If you have any links or posts you’d like to share, let us know via email!



what we're reading: links

May 24, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the blog world:

Alea, a little one with a very serious liver disorder, is being cared for at New Day Foster Home. She desperately needs a liver transplant to survive. Find out how to get involved in giving Hope for Alea.

Amy Eldridge, at Love Without Boundaries, has begun writing a series of posts entitled “Realistic Expectations” in an effort to better prepare all adoptive parents for the day they finally meet their long-anticipated little one. I’d consider these a must read for anyone in the process to adopt from China.New this week, Amy shares about expectations on food issues.

And our beloved Tonggu Momma shares some great thoughts on the best books for speech delayed children.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their children.

Ainsley’s Little Sister
Our Journey to XiangJun
The Hatley Home
Our Chinese Princess
Journey to Joshua



what we're reading: links

May 9, 2012 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Meet Jessica Cox, born without arms but able to drive a car, achieve a black belt in karate and even hold the Guinness World Record for being the first armless person in aviation history to earn a pilot’s certificate. Amazing story of someone unafraid to try – and achieve – what others would call impossible.

In the blog world:

An adoption announcement unlike anything you’ve ever seen – be sure to visit A Road Less Traveled to see it.

Kelle, who blogs at Enjoying the Small Things, is mom to two biological girls. Her youngest, Nella, has Down Syndrome. And, on World Down Syndrome Awareness Day, Kelle shares her thoughts on her daughter’s special need and the lasting, and wonderful, impact it has had on her entire family.

And Amy Eldridge, at Love Without Boundaries, has begun writing a series of posts entitled “Realistic Expectations” in an effort to better prepare all adoptive parents for the day they finally meet their long-anticipated little one. I’d consider these a must read for anyone in the process to adopt from China.

Expectations on cleanliness
Expectations on potty training
Expectations on clothing
And expectations on preparing a child

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their children.

Straight Talk
From This Moment
Living Out a Crazy Love
Love Multiplies Here
Life’s Little Wonders



What We're Reading: {Links}

April 25, 2012 by nohandsbutours 10 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Annie Clark, age 7, was born without hands. Adopted from China, she recently won the national penmanship award. Truly inspiring story and video.

And a sweet story of an older American couple, 66 and 69, living in China and caring for orphans with significant special needs. It began in 1993, when they were asked if they would take a look at a baby girl – with numerous special needs – who had been abandoned on the campus where they taught. They now run a facility that cares for 32 children with autism and cerebral palsy.

In the blog world:

Angie, from a Blog Full of Weldons, transparently shares about her daughter’s recent cleft surgery, and the ensuing post-adoption depression it caused for her. Beautifully written, and straight from the heart… it is a blessing to many when we, as adoptive moms, can share our hearts so honestly.

Karin, from Our Treasures From Afar, shares pictures from her son Jordan’s recent surgery to create a new ear. The final results are amazing.

Hiking Mama, from Hike. Blog. Love., writes about her son’s recent diagnosis of autism and test results. And the fact that no matter what she is told by “specialists”, or what numbers he is assigned on paper, she knows the undefeatable hope she has for her beloved boy.

Our own Nicole, from Living Out His Love, shares some fantastic ideas for sensory play. She has created sensory bins for her daughter – with water beads and coffee beans – and both have been extremely well received by her daughter, Sunshine. Great ideas for any adopted child.

And new adoptive mama Carrie, from To China We Go, shares about her recent realization of being a conspicuous family – and the ensuing comments they have received – now that her daughter Abbie is home from China.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their children.

One Less Broken Heart
September Sweeties
Finding Faith
Kaylee’s Journey Home



What We're Reading: {Links}

April 4, 2012 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Adoptive mom Linda Goldstein Knowlton, who produced the award-winning film Whale Rider, recently produced Somewhere Between, a documentary film that tells the stories of four teenaged girls, all adopted from China.

In the blog world:

Maureen, who blogs at Paths of Joy, shares about her new daughter Molly’s recent diagnosis of a rare form of Congenital Muscular Dystrophy.

Laurelle, from Planet Linden, recently blogged about her son Linden’s successful surgery to repair his palate.

Karin, from Treasures from Afar, blogs about some recent medical appointments for her kids, Zoey and Jordan. Zoey went to Shriner’s to receive a new prosthetic leg and Jordan went to Boston to reveal his “new” ear. Be sure to check out the amazing ‘before’ and ‘after’ pictures.

And our very own Nancy, recently home from China, has found herself co-sleeping with new daughter Mazie, and not loving it. But thanks to some great advice, she has found a lovely, and restful, compromise.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.

Leaving for China this week:

Beautiful Ordinary Life
Love Knows No Limits
Ni Hao Y’all … eek!
No Ordinary Moments
My Four Blessings
Our Bigger Picture
The Kown Family
Three Sippy Cups



what we're reading: links

March 22, 2012 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

The Little Couple (from the TLC show), after their surrogate suffered a miscarriage, are looking to adopt a special needs child – specifically a child with dwarfism. Check out the video, you can see them looking at the little ones listed on Rainbow Kids :)

In the blog world:

Mike and Tricia, from the Little Redhead, are in China now to bring home their new daughter, Pippa. And they have shared an incredibly sweet video on their blog of the moment they met their daughter for the first time.

At the Lillie Family, mom of Emma Jean – adopted from China with a special need of low-birth weight – shares how her new daughter recently received a surprise diagnosis of partial, and permanent, hearing loss in both ears.

And Karin, who blogs at Treasures from Afar, is mom to 10. Her son Jordan has a special need of microtia and Karin chronicles his recent surgery, the bumps in the road and the arrival home.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.

Little Red Head
Our Little Lyla
Our Double Blessing
Just Haven’t Met You Yet
The Other Side of Mt. Everest
The Miracle of More
Hope 4 the Wounded
Five of My Own
Waiting 4 Years
My Miracles



What we're reading Wednesday: Links

March 9, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

In the news:

Creating a Family has complied their Top Ten Tips for Avoiding Delays When Filing for the Adoption Tax Credit.

And from the Parenting Squad, 5 Ways to Protect Your Special Needs Child

In the blog world:

Shelly, who blogs at Hoot’s Momma, recently celebrated one year home with her daughter Libbie. And as she looks back at their first year together, she candidly shares about the first, incredibly difficult, days with their daughter.

Andrea, who blogs at Adoption Road, is mom to Lydia who has a special need of unilateral microtia. And Lydia recently received a cutting-edge device to help her hear, and Andrea gives a great review for other parents of children with similar special needs.

Kelly, who blogs at My Overthinking, shares her list of adoption themed books.

And Mary, who blogs at Grown in Our Nest, looks back on the first four months with her new daughter, Gracie. She shares honestly about those early days – and struggling with a feeling of regret.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.

Ordinary Miracles and the Crazy 9
Love Them Home
Raising Godly Girls
House of Hoffmans
For the Sake of the Dream
Hemmes Family Happenings
Bunk Beds: Making Room for Daisy
Our Lighthouse
Around the World to Harper
Shelah Books It



What we’re reading Wednesday: links

February 22, 2012 by nohandsbutours 2 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

From the blog world:

Our very own Kam shares the story of finding her “Little Prince” – a little boy with a heart defect – after losing her son Seth, who also suffered from a heart defect.

Shonni, who blogs at Nations Around our Table, shares candidly about the grief experienced by many children after they are adopted, especially older children.

Rebecca, who blogs at In the Heart of our Home, recounts a recent visit to the neurologist. Rebecca’s son, Johnathan, has schizencephaly, which causes motor, cognitive, and speech delays, as well as paralysis or weakness and seizures. Johnathan also has some limb differences and underwent an amputation surgery to prepare his leg for a prosthetic. Rebecca shares honestly about the surgery, and his progress since then.

Our beloved Tonggu Momma writes candidly on a topic in which she is exceedingly well versed – attachment. A great read for all adoptive parents.

Jenna, from Many Colored Days, is mom to Cooper who came home from China with a heart defect. She shares her thoughts and frustration over the “lucky boy” comments she, and other adoptive families receive from others.

Emily, from Table for Seven, compares the process of adding a new child to your family through adoption to the grafting of a new branch onto an apple tree.

Anna, who blogs at Anything but LoKey, details her daughter Lily’s recent cleft palate surgery: cleft palate post one with pictures, and cleft palate post two – speech and teeth.

Alan, at Planet R-H, recently traveled to China for his new daughter. He has since compiled several lists for anyone preparing to head to China:
Travel Tips: Flying to China
Travel Tips: Packing
Travel Tips: Hong Kong

And Jessie at Play Create Explore, has some great ideas for attachment play for children aged 1 – 3.

From the news:

From MSNBC, China to ban names that signal ‘orphan’ status“The Ministry of Civil Affairs plans to issue new regulations to prohibit orphanages from using naming conventions that make it easy for other Chinese speakers to guess that an individual is an orphan—leading to lifelong stigma.”

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.

The Kratzer Family
Laughter Love and Family



What we're reading Wednesday: links

February 8, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption and/or parenting a special needs child.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

From the blog world:

Please keep the Wife of the Prez and her new daughter, Sallie, in your thoughts and prayers. At last, Sallie is in their arms, but she is having a hard time and grieving terribly, which is made worse by her very complex heart condition.

Our very own Tonggu Momma shares about her therapy equipment (aka toys!) for children – like her daughter, Squirt – with gross motor delays.

Yvette, who blogs at Bringing Home Holland, has a biological child with dwarfism and an adopted child with dwarfism. And she shares her heart on adopting a child with dwarfism.

La Dolce Vida shares how she created very special lifebooks that tell the adoption story of her daughters.

Mary Beth, at Letters to Maggie, shares about her daughter Maggie’s time in a spica cast and now how she is learning to walk since having the cast removed.

Danielle at Westhaven Kids takes a very honest look back at her son’s gotcha day, and shudders at the thought of what it would have been like if she had been totally unprepared.

Jen, at Love Laugh Learn and Grow, takes a look back at her son Johnathan’s adoption, who has now been home 100 days.

Kelley from Gazing Upward shares her thoughts on being honest on a public blog and answers a question she often hears regarding adopting an older child.

And our newest NHBO contributor, Nancy from Ordinary Miracles and the Crazy 9, takes a look back at her daughter’s attachment journey, and recognizes that, for children like her Tess, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. 

From the news:

From the Courier-Journal, Babies Read Our Lips More That We Thought. A fascinating read about how and when babies read lips, and then, at a year, move back to focusing on our eyes. But, if confronted with a foreign language, they go back to lip reading. Adoptive parents would be wise to read this and consider it when communicating with their newly adopted children.

Traveling Families:
And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.


What we're reading Wednesday: links

January 11, 2012 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

From the last few weeks, some good stuff we’ve read that relates to adoption from China and/or parenting a special needs child from China.

As always, if you are a traveling family, or have posted something, or read something, that you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

From the news:

From the Nanfang Insider, a heart-breaking story of a 3-year HIV+ old boy, who was abandoned at birth and found to be HIV+ a year later. He was separated from the other children and now lives a life of solitude, with hopes of being adopted one day.

In China, a daring few challenge one-child limit (APNews) by Alexa Olesen who tells the stories of several families in China who are trying to change the one-child policy. One desperate mother shares, “I don’t think I’ve committed any crime. A crime is something that hurts other people or society or that infringes on other people’s rights. I don’t think having a baby is any kind of crime.” 

Amy and Benjamin Root adopted baby Maisy from China with a special need of hairy nevus birthmark. They just celebrated the one year anniversary of the life-saving surgery she underwent to remove the potentially cancerous mark – and she has made an amazing recovery.

And an article from The Washington Post about Guangzhou, the stopping place for all adoptive families before they exit China. Lots to learn about this beautiful city, the third largest in all of China.

From the bloggy world:

Sara, who blogs at Football and Fried Rice, just came home with her second little one from China. And she shares what it really looks like when you get home from an adoption trip.

Our very own Wife of the Prez shares about her littlest guy, and his new BAHA hearing aid. Adopted from China with a heart defect and cleft lip and palate, his hearing deficiency was an unknown need… but with the help of his BAHA, he can now hear in both ears.

Rachel, who blogs at Kittens and Ladybugs, recounts her new son Jaidin’s recent cleft lip and palate surgery – just weeks after coming home from China.

Maia, who blogs at Une Envie de Sel, recently shared a very profound conversation with daughter Q, who came home from China with cleft lip and palate.

Kelley, who blogs at Gazing Upward, recently celebrated six months home and a major breakthrough with her daughter, Caroline LiYun, 13.

Our beloved Tonggu Momma answers some very pointed questions in her post “Am I Angry?” regarding her new daughter, Squirt, and her recent medical scares. Although Squirt came home as a non-special needs child, she has since suffered from several unexplained seizures.

Branda, who blogs at Days Made of Now, shares a red-letter day in the life of parenting a child who was adopted as an ‘older child’. Her daughter, ManYu, has made a big step in accepting her new family, and calls her mamma for the very first time.

Liz, who blogs at Learning Patience, recently came home with two little ones from China. She offers up her candid thoughts for anyone considering adopting two children at once.

Traveling Families:

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these families currently in China to bring home their kids.



What We're Reading Wednesday: Links

December 15, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Nicole, from the Chryst Family blog, shares about ‘Saying Yes‘ to adopt daughter Brooklyn six months ago. She also details much that has transpired since: traveling to China, a cleft-lip surgery, and falling madly in love with their little girl.

Jaime, from Hope Written, chronicles her daughter Elisyn’s journey since arriving home with a severe heart defect. It’s been over 50 days since Elisyn’s open-heart surgery and it continues to be a very difficult road. Please take a moment to visit Jaime’s blog and offer a word of encouragement!

Kelly, who blogs at I Overthink Everything, shares about the struggles of choosing the healthiest way to discipline her adopted daughter, and that disciplining a biological child is very different from disciplining a child with a history of abandonment.

Friend and advocate Annie, who blogs at Cornbread and Chopsticks, retells the story of Xiaoyun, a little one with scoliosis that Annie advocated for on her site as she was very close to aging out. Well, Xiaoyun is now home and you positively must listen to her share her story in her own incredibly special words.

Our own Kam, who very recently lost her son Seth to his severe heart defect as he waited in China, shares about the sorrow of losing her son, one month later.

Danielle, who blogs at Westhaven Kids, chronicles the medical journey for her son, Asher, who has bilateral upper limb differences. Asher also suffered from undisclosed developmental delays, but has made rapid gains in a very short time. Way to go, Asher!

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these folks currently in China to bring home their kids.

If you have posted something, or read something, you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know. Email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

What We're Reading Wednesdays: Links

November 30, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

David Platt, author of Radical and pastor of The Church at Brook Hills, is in China with his wife and two sons to bring home a little girl from MaoMing. He has chronicled the journey to adoptive parenthood beautifully, I encourage you to begin reading here and continue. Their new addition, Mara Ruth, is positively precious, so be sure to watch a few videos as well!

Kam, mom to sweet Seth who passed away from his heart defects before she could travel to bring him home from China, shares her grief transparently and eloquently at her blog Faith, Family, Adoption. Please take a few moments to visit her site and say a prayer for their grieving family and for their precious Seth.

Angie, mom to Emery recently adopted from China, details the amazing transformation that has taken place in the few months that Emery has been home on her blog, A Blog Full of Weldons. You won’t believe the difference between the “then” and “now” videos…

Sarah, waiting mom to a little one in China, shares the story of how they came to ‘find’ their new daughter, Madeline, on her blog aptly named… Madeline. Be sure to read the whole story of “God’s Plan vs. My Plan”: Part 1, Part 2, Part 3, Part 4 and Part 5.

Joy, mom to Rachel from China, expresses her sorrow at not knowing all the details of her daughter’s birth story, especially when a birthday rolls around, on her blog Red Thread Notes

 And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these folks currently in China to bring home their kiddos:

If you have posted something, or read something, you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know. Email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

What We're Reading Wednesday: Links

November 16, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Johanna, from Stop and Smell the Flowers, is mom to Tahlia, who is still waiting in China. Johanna shares about Tahlia’s special need of cleft lip and palate, the preparations they are making for her arrival home and how they came to be a family, even though they were initially intimidated by her new daughter’s special need.

Lori, who blogs at Stress Is the New Black, shares about her son Ethan’s long-time fear of being without food and it’s far reaching effects.

The Gang’s Mama, from The Gang’s All Here, writes about Lil’ Empress and the challenges of parenting a child with deep-seated separation anxiety.

Follow Kyle Maynard, a quadruple amputee, and the entire Mission Kilamangaro team of “wounded warriors” as they climb Mt. Kilamangaro.

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these folks currently in China to bring home their kiddos:

If you have posted something, or read something, you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know. Email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

What We're Reading Wednesday: Links

October 27, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Incredibly inspiring video of a college-aged girl, Scout Bassett, adopted from China when she was 9. She was abandoned as a toddler with severe burns (and eventually lost her leg), but now runs, bikes and swims competitively, all with an amazing courage and determination.

Beautiful Emme Jade’s family recently found out that she had a previously undisclosed special need.  She had surgery today, and all went well! Please visit her blog and wish sweet Emme well.

Lucy came home from China a few months ago with a special need of cleft lip and palate. Her mom, Lisa, shares about their recent visit with the Cleft Team, as well as Lucy’s love for sweets and her distaste for good ol’ healthy food.

Lori, mother to Rachel who came home from China with a very serious heart defect, shares about Rachel’s recent (and successful!) open heart surgery.

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these folks currently in China to bring home their kiddos:

If you have posted something, or read something, you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know. Email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

What We're Reading Wednesday: Links

October 12, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

You’ve certainly heard about Steve Jobs’ (of Apple fame) passing from pancreatic cancer. But did you know he was adopted as an infant? Read the article Steve Jobs Changed the World: Adoption Changed His, written by another adult adoptee, Ryan Bomberger. I also encourage you to watch Ryan’s video about his own experience being an adoptee… incredibly moving.

And did you know that wheelchair bound children are getting a chance to surf? Like, in the ocean? Read about 3 year old Surf Princess Maile, who is riding the waves (and setting Guinness World Records!) thanks to Life Rolls On.

Our own KJ, who blogs at Raising Devils, shares her most recent accomplishment: creating a birthday cake for her daughter Rory – who hates birthday cakes. Read A Cake for the Cake-Hater and I guarantee you’ll either relate to the cake-hating or hating the cake hater’s cake hating.

My friend Branda, who brought home her daughter Man Yu from China in July, shares openly and honestly about what life is like when adopting an older child. Branda shares that even when you’ve done all the reading and researching, and think you’re ready for anything… you might be surprised.

And lastly, if you’re like all of us around here, you’ll want to take a few moments (or hours!) and travel vicariously with these folks currently in China to bring home their kiddos:

If you have posted something, or read something, you’d like to share here on No Hands But Ours, please let us know. Email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

What We're Reading Wednesday: Links

August 10, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Some posts that came to our attention this week…

They Say Good Things Come In Threes at Just Haven’t Met You Yet where adoptive mom Sandra shares her exciting news of a referral, shortly after making the difficult decision to switch agencies. She was matched with a little girl with cleft lip and palate just hours after being logged in with her new agency – after having waited months and months with her previous agency. Congratulations!

The Cost at Our Gift of Hope by soon-to-travel mama Julia, sharing her fears and anxieties about the cost of adoption of her newest little one, Hope – the financial cost, but even more so, the emotional cost of adoption. And how it is absolutely, positively worth every sacrifice.

Hand Stories at Red Thread Notes by mom Joy as she shares about her daughter Rachel’s “little hand” and the struggles that go along with raising a child with physical special needs and the attention that those special needs bring especially by curious, and sometimes rude, children.

Adoption Thoughts at Life at Mannchester Estate, recommended by China adoptive mom Tracy who said, “This mom is an excellent writer AND has a wonderful, godly perspective – I should know. I just spent an entire afternoon surfing through her archives….”

Families preparing to leave for or currently in China to bring home their little ones:

First a Pearl, Then Three Rubies!
The Baker’s Sweets!
Learning Patience – adopting two at the same time
Monkeymoo and Tootsie too!
Becoming Six

Please send any useful, brilliant or thought-provoking posts you write or see to our stand-in Whatever Wednesday author, KJ, at KJ@raisingdevils.com.

Whatever Wednesday

June 29, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Gwen, mom to Sarah, chronicles their journey at 4 Boys and a Little Lady. Sarah, who came home in 2008 with a special need of cleft lip, originally had her lip repaired in Beijing and recently had her lip repair revised.

Shecki, mom to Hannah, shares about her daughter’s journey to get fitted for a prosthetic leg. In February, she had her foot amputated and in early May was healed enough to begin the casting process for her new leg. In late May, she had her first test fitting at Shriners, and in June she was able to try her prosthetic leg for the first time. Hannah began walking only 2 days later, to the amazement of her very proud mama.

And some traveling families who have just or are about to meet their children for the first time…

Dragons and Elephants – traveling for their daughter, Molly Kate, who has a heart defect.

The Fanning Four – just leaving for their son Caleb, who has cleft lip and palate.

Gazing Upward – traveling for their daughter, Caroline, who is 12.

Please send any useful, brilliant or thought-provoking posts you write or see to our stand-in Whatever Wednesday author, KJ, at KJ@raisingdevils.com.

Whatever Wednesday: This Week, Thoughtful Thursday!

May 20, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Whatever Wednesday’s links were delayed this week. I’ll be taking them on until Stefanie and TongguMomma are ready to regroup. Please send any useful, brilliant or thought-provoking posts you write or see to me at KJ@raisingdevils.com.

I’ve been reading Laura Catoe’s blog of late, and if you’re considering albinism as a special need, her posts on eyesight are must read. She says:

We came home in December with our 4-year-old. She has albinism and has been having her first visits with an ophthalmologist and low vision specialist.

This stellar mom is an adoptive parent (but not from China), and she blogged about what she learned attending the first annual conference of the Attachment Association of Canada. We can get all the scoop without any need for a passport. Which, of course, we all have anyway.

If you’ve given any thought at all to whether you might be able to be a family for one of the many young teens about to age out of the process in China, you need to visit Vickie’s blog–her family went to China for one young teen and came back, ultimately, with three. Her stories of their adjustment are gloriously unvarnished (and if you don’t know her, and you’re in need of a good miracle story to brighten your day, theirs is sure-fire.)

On a totally different topic, anyone with a WordPress blog who loves sharing comments might want to check out Cheryl’s post on helping visitors to your site follow other commenters. I’m a little tech-y, and I enabled her ideas immediately.

Whatever Wednesday

May 13, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

On Wednesdays (and sometimes on Fridays) we post links that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Sara at Football and Fried Rice shares her heart as she and her family journey to their new daughter, Ruby, who waits in China:
Ruby Road: part I – Pink Mary Janes Take 2
Ruby Road: part II – The Evil of Envy {Double Disappointment}
Ruby Road: part III – Setting Out a Fleece
Ruby Road: part IV – Somewhere in the Middle

Donna at Treasured Pearls shares about adopting older boys, chronicling her family life that has recently grown by two older boys from China: TJ and JA. She also has compiled a wonderfully comprehensive link list on older child adoption.

Michelle at Michelle R Photography shares about her inspiring daughter, Kara, who came home from China almost 2 years ago at age 11.

Jenny at The T-Zone shares about her daughter Olivia’s very recent cleft lip and palate surgery, with some amazing before and after photos of her little one.

Nancy at Ordinary Miracles and the Crazy 8 shares about her daughter Tess, and the expectations versus the reality of adopting a very young child and long-term speech therapy.

If you have a post you’d like to share that depicts life with a special needs child, or you’ve read one recently that you think would be great to share here, please let us know! Leave a comment or email us at nohandsbutours@gmail.com.

Whatever Wednesday

May 4, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Cora from Little Miss What’s Her Name shares about daughter Chloe’s recent appointment to unclog her tear ducts… Little Miss What’s Her Name: No More Tears.

Andrea from Adoption Road shares about daughter Lydia’s special need of microtia, and that the only thing she can’t do because of her “little ear” is wear 3D glasses… Adoption Road: Two Good Ears.

Robin from Dreaming of Tea for Two shares openly about her new daughter Faith’s very difficult transition into her forever family… Dreaming of Tea for Two: Broken Hearted Beauty. Also, be sure to read Broken Hearted Beauty: Part 2, Broken Hearted Beauty: Part 3 and Broken Hearted Beauty: Part 4 as well.

Whatever Wednesday

April 13, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Round Twoadoptive momma (China) Sally at My Life, My Desire… on their most recent medical plan for casting

Not the best question to ask an adoptee adult adoptee (domestic) the adopted one at The Adopted One’s Blog… on a question posed by a medical professional just before surgery

moving rocksmomma Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary — an inspirational post on moving rocks like visits with the neurosurgeon

Whatever Wednesday

April 7, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Luke: a 2 Part Seriesadoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker Sweets… on a new diagnosis after their recent trip to the Kennedy Krieger Institute

Someone please pry my heart out of my throat.adoptive momma (China) Sonia at His Hands, His Feet… her child’s very first birthday party, when she realized he’d never before received a gift

Improvisingadoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… on her daughter’s recent discovery that is helping her to hear

Ice Cream Conesadoptive parents (China) the Greens at A Full Quiver… sharing the simple joys of an ice cream cone

Aspirationsadoptive momma (China) Jennifer at Click Swish… on a recent appointment with their daughter’s low vision specialist

Whatever Wednesday

March 30, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

{Cardiologist Visit}adoptive momma (China) Steffie at Steffie Beckering Photography & Never Too Many… on taking her daughter to her annual cardiology check-up appointment

public noticing and private knowledgeadult adoptee (Paraguay) Martha at Believe In Who You Are… on navigating public intrusions as a blind person

Special Needs Discussion: Adopting School Aged Children adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments other shared about life with a child adopted at an older age (six and up)

Waiting Children adoptive momma (China) Ozimum at Australia to China… a concise informational post describing organizations that work with China’s special needs orphans and also a few descriptions of specific special needs

The good, the bad and the honest truthadoptive momma (China) Jill at The Attachment Chronicles… on how issues stemming from her son’s previous institutionalization far outweigh the issues related to his medical special need

testing. testing.
adoptive momma (China) Stefanie at Ni Hao, Y’all… sharing her heart when it comes to her daughter’s learning special need

Our Own Gamesadoptive momma (China) kitchu at More Than This… wheelchair games at her daughter’s preschool

Special Needs Discussion: Everything Elseadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments other shared about life with a child who has a special need that does not fit into the previously mentioned categories within the series

Life beyond the walls of an orphanageadoptive momma (China) Sonia at His Hands, His Feet… on a first for her child, adopted at an older age

Whatever Wednesday

March 23, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Special Needs Discussion: Bone, Muscle and Joint Conditions (including Missing Limbs)adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child diagnosed with a medical condition that affects the bones, muscles and/or joints

Abby’s Handssister to an adoptee (China) Shawshee at Taking Hebron… trying to experience life as her sister does, a teen spends the day with her fingers taped together

Special Needs Discussion: Craniofacial (other than cleft), to include issues with hearing and eyesight adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child diagnosed with a craniofacial medical condition

Special Needs Discussion: Neurological and Brain Trauma Issuesadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child with neurological and/or brain trauma challenges

Special Needs Discussion: Urogenital and Gender Issuesadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child with urogenital and/or gender issues

Special Needs Discussion: Issues Having to do with the Digestive System adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child with some issue related to the digestive system

Asher’s Hand Post Surgery
adoptive momma (China) Emily at Table for Seven… a photograph of her son’s hand, healing after surgery

Lexi Loves School!adoptive parents (China) the Greens at A Full Quiver… on their daughter’s joy and recent progress in school

Special Needs Discussion: Infectious Diseaseadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child diagnosed with an infectious disease

Special Needs Discussion: Developmental Delaysadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child with developmental delays

Whatever Wednesday

March 16, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

No Guarantees
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… on adopting two children at the same time

Relationally Challengedadoptive momma (China) Sonia at His Hands, His Feet… on performance-oriented attachment

Livid About Discriminationadoptive momma (China) Holly at A Purpose Driven Life… on discrimination at the hospital

Therapy Updateadoptive momma (China) Emily at Asher’s Story… on occupational therapy for eating help

Special Needs Discussion: Cleft Issues adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child diagnosed with some form of cleft

Special Needs Discussion: Circulatory and Pulmonary Issues (Including Heart and Blood Conditions)adoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… read the many and varied comments others shared about life with a child diagnosed with some type of heart or blood medical special need

Younger and Olderadoptive momma (China) Joanna at Waiting for Two… on her daughter’s developmental growth after living in an institutionalized setting

An “Off Day”adoptive momma (China) Sandra at The Daily Grind… looking back at her daughter’s strength and perseverance through the years

Whatever Wednesday

March 9, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

How To Tell Your Child He/ She Has
SPD adoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… a how-to on sharing the basics of SPD with a child

Back to Shriner’s
adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… on a visit back to Shriner’s, lifts and shoes

Please Pray for Lil Dude
adoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… on her son’s upcoming cardiologist appointment

It is what it isadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… on their recent visit to the neuropsychologist

Sophia Breanneadoptive parents (China) the Greens at A Full Quiver… an update after three months home

The unnecessary “SN vs NSN” conflictadoptive momma (China) the Rumor Queen at China Adopt Talk… on communication between parents who have already adopted through the SN program and those just starting to investigate specific needs

A New “Normal” … Georgia’s Heartadoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Wide Open… an update on Georgia’s heart condition after a recent visit to the cardiologist

Before and Afteradoptive momma (China) Stacy at Our Red Thread to Cadence… before and after photos specific to cleft-palate surgery

Josiah Updateadoptive momma (China) Holly at A Purpose Driven Life… update just after surgery

Storybook Farm adoptive momma (China) Kathy at In the Waiting… on the benefits of equine therapy

Whatever Wednesday

March 2, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Surgery on Mondayadoptive parents (China) the Straights at Straight Talk… surgery to help correct an unexpected hearing issue

1 Month Homeadoptive momma (China) Sonia at His Hands, His Feet… a one-month progress report after older child adoption

They Do Not Want to See Us at Children’s Hospital Againadoptive momma (Korea) Carissa at My Everyday Miracles… a challenging hospital stay for her little one

Making Plans to Go to Philadelphiaadoptive momma (China) Sally at Bryson Makes Eight!… heading soon to CHOP to see the top arthrogrypotic doctor in the nation

Josie’s Visit to the New Children’s Hospitaladoptive momma (China) Kim at Musings from Kim K… her third annual check-up after open-heart surgery in April 2008

Couldn’t YOU Give Me Something Else to Do?adoptive momma (China) Andrea at The Happy Hippy Chronicles… an (ahem) adventurous day involving vomit, morphine, surgery and a too-small mouth

Update on Aiden (Hosea) in Tennessee: Adoption #45adoptive momma (China) Kelly at Throwing Starfish… an update letter to Amanda five months after adoption

Whatever Wednesday

February 17, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Dear Teacher
— adoptive momma (India) Margie C at Adoption.com… a heart-felt letter to her child’s teacher about common school issues associated with older child adoption

Much Better Day Today — adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures From Afar… her daughter’s last day in the hospital

Bryson Back in Cast — adoptive momma (China) Sally at My Life My Desire… another cast for her son, who has arthrogryposis

Sunday Snapshot: A Day of Rest, Relaxation and Release — adoptive momma (China) Annie at Cornbread and Chopsticks… her daughter says goodbye to her brace, while an orphan care organization in China gets ready to receive it

Wherein I Decide I’m Getting Pretty Good at This — adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… navigating comments and questions that reference her daughter’s albinism

Speech Progress!!! — adoptive momma (China) Cheri at Love and Laughter Enrich the Soul… on her daughter’s amazing progress with speech

Staking my claim — adoptive momma (China) Leslee at Love For Lilly… on her daughter’s progress and development this past year

LOOK who is… — adoptive momma (China) Kim at Celebrating Everyday Life… her son accomplishes a major milestone

Unexpected News from the Doctor — adoptive momma (China) Kim at Addison Hope: Worth the Wait… on her daughter’s upcoming anti-viral injections

Cleft Palate Surgery
— adoptive momma (China) Courtney at Digging to China… on her son’s recent cleft palate surgery

Whatever Wednesday

February 2, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

“S”now Day! — adoptive momma (China) Rachele at With One Step… a mom searches for fun speech therapy ideas that don’t feel like therapy

Can You Hear Me Now?
— adoptive momma (China) Joanna at Waiting for Two… on her daughter’s microtia

What Now? — adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… on her daughter’s (and others’) prosthetic limbs

Shapes — adoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… on her daughter’s most recent accomplishment – learning shapes!

The Twinkle in Her Eye — foster parent in China Hannah at the New Day Foster Home blog… sharing the blossoming of one of their beloved residents

On My Own — executive director of Love Without Boundaries Amy Eldridge at the LWB Blog… a must-read on older child adoption

No me want to talk about myself! — adoptive momma (Haiti) Christine at welcome to my brain… on how the parents of children from hard places often use anger as a cover-up, too

Whatever Wednesday

January 19, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

a noggin is a tricky thing
and an update for youmomma Heather at The Extraordinary Ordinary… navigating her son’s hydrocephalus

Winter Wonderland and Shrinersadoptive momma (China) at Treasures From Afar… her daughter’s first fitting for her new artificial leg

Coincidence… or Notadoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… discovering that her older, biological daughter has amblyopia, right before adopting a child with cerebral palsy, who also possibly has vision challenges

25 Things That Make Special Needs Parenting Easiermomma Ellen at To the Max… things that brighten the day of any parent

Her Heartadoptive momma (China) Holly at Purpose-Driven Family… learning more about their daughter’s heart condition, which they originally thought had already resolved

Anything But Typicaladoptive dad Michael Monroe (Mexico and Guatemala) at Adoptive Dads… on the blessings of parenting his atypical son

I Can’t Heal Her Heart adoptive momma One Thankful Mom at A Bushel and a Peck… on turning over her daughter’s emotional wounds to The Great Healer

Whatever Wednesday

January 12, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

First Prosthetic Fitting
adoptive momma (China) Karin at Our Treasures from Afar… photo blog of her daughter’s first prosthetic fitting

Traveling With a Special Needs Childfather Lee at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… tips and tricks for families traveling by air with a child who has medical special needs

Some things our little guy is learning foster parent in China Walking To China… sharing a few milestones of their foster son, who has downs syndrome

When it gets hardadoptive momma (China) Blessed Mom of Four and More at Five Became Six… some hard news after a day of medical tests

Surgery #2adoptive momma (China) Stacy at Red Thread to Cadence… her daughter’s cleft lip repair surgery

Down Syndrome Statistics Turned Upside-DownMaggie, mom to identical twins each with an extra 21st chromosome, at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… taking a careful, positive look at down syndrome statistics

Making Art at Home: My Favorite Art Supplies for Toddlersformer art teacher MaryLea at Pink and Green Mama… great art activities for preschoolers and young elementary school students, especially those with sensory issues [HAT TIP to Snapshot at Somebody Needs a Nap]

Please Pray!adoptive momma (China) Kim at Addison Hope: Worth the Wait… a plea for prayers for their travelmates, whose daughter just experienced complications during open heart surgery

Looking Up
adoptive momma (China) Amy at Finally a Family of Five… a request for advice about obturators to help with speech issues

Whatever Wednesday

January 5, 2011 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

But Would People Adopt If They Knew The Worst?adoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… on why she shares “worst-case scenarios” with potential adoptive parents

A Reason to Celebrate!!!
adoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… no! more! catheter!

A Very Special Doctor!adoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… expressing gratitude for Doctor Steve

Post-Christmas Update on Katie Crameradoptive momma (Guatemala) LisaS at Adoption Under One Roof… an update on Katie Cramer, a Chinese-adoptee diagnosed with leukemia

My Learning Curve: The Rocking Chair Challenge
adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Lisa at One Thankful Mom… on an attachment therapy she recently introduced

A Little Bit of Downs (X Post)
adoptive momma (China) Sally – That Girl! at My Life My Desire… on sharing with her mom that her future daughter has an extra chromosome

What You SHOULD Say To A Special Needs Familymom MarJH at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… helpful things to say to a family that is blessed to parent a child with special needs

Sledding Fun
adoptive momma (Guatemala and China) Karin at Our Treasures From Afar… just a fun day on a snowy hill

A Long and Much Overdue Susu Updateadoptive momma (China) Wuxi Mommy at Our Wuxi Girl… on speech therapy, attachment and healing emotional hurts

In Need of Encouraging Wordsadoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home!… on older child adoption and language acquisition

The power of progress, no matter how “small”mom Ellen at To The Max… on her son’s “small” progress in developing better fine motor skills

Whatever Wednesday

December 22, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

God’s provisionadoptive momma (China) Kimberley at The Byrd’s Nest… a remarkable moment where a mom is able to find her daughter the help she needs, far from the support of home

December Speech Updateadoptive momma (China) Kathy at In The Waiting… an update on her daughter’s progress after receiving cochlear implants

Another Seizureadoptive momma (China) Sharon at In The Light of Eternity… describing her son’s recent seizure while they were traveling

Our Miracle Dancesadoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room For At Least One More… a touching update centered around her daughter’s ballet class

The stuff I don’t take for granted momma Ellen at To The Max… appreciating the “little” things, like fingers that work

Keeping Calm on Christmasadoptive momma (foster to adopt) Hartley at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… tips to help sensory kids (and their parents!) cope with the holidays

Whatever Wednesday

December 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

HONESTLY 1 Year Lateradoptive momma (China) Nicole at The Baker’s Sweets… describing their first year together with their daughter Ava

One Year Ago Today: Our Son’s Heart Surgeryadoptive momma (China) Wife of the Prez. at Room 4 At Least 1 More… a mom describes how she felt when learning of her future son’s open heart surgery in China

Blood Workadoptive momma (China) Kim at Our Journey to Addison Hope… a daughter needs a little TLC after blood work

Sunday Snapshot {the f word}adoptive momma (China) Nancy at Ordinary Miracles & The Crazy 8… on feeding difficulties

Attachment: So Much More Than Meets the Eye adoptive momma (domestic, transracial) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… a few notes after hearing Russ Bone speak at an “Attaching in Adoption” seminar in Colorado

Open Wide — father Lee at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needson dental care and visits with a child who has been diagnosed with special needs

Tips for Reducing Christmas Break Anxietyguest blogger Chynna Laird at Hartley’s Life With 3 Boys… holiday break tips for those who parent children with sensory processing disorder

Whatever Wednesday

December 9, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Thanksgiving Reflectionsadoptive momma (China) Rachelle at With One Step… feeling immeasurably grateful for a new skill that was not possible just months ago

Our Wild, Wild Ride!!!
and EEG Princessadoptive momma (China) Shannon at With Arms Wide Open… on a recent sleep deprivation EEG

Update on Chinese Adoptee with Acute Leukemia adoptive and foster momma (domestic) Julia Fuller at Adoption Under One Roof… an update on Katie Cramer, diagnosed with acute leukemia

Ready for Thanksgiving Breakjie jie/ elder sister (China) Emily at Now There Are Nine… updates on Gracie and Charlie, two children adopted at older ages

Adaptive Tennisadoptive momma (China) kitchu at More Than This… on a recent tennis lesson

Those Eyesadoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… a mom shares her pre-adoption fears about her daughter’s eyes, and the realities they faced after adoption

The Look on Her Face
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… on their journey through older child adoption

Addressing the “Look”
momma Maggie at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on looks one receives in public

Therapy Tools (Part One): Speechmomma Jill at 5 Minutes for Special Needs… detailing the specifics of her child’s speech therapy

Best toys for kids with special needs: holiday gift editionmomma Ellen at To The Max… listing toys that aid children in developing gross motor, fine motor, sensory, speech and cognitive skills

You can do it!!!
adoptive momma (China) Jean at There’s No Place Like Home… a special birthday moment for a girl born with cleft lip/ cleft palate

VPI Follow-Up Last Week, Surgery Tomorrowadoptive momma (China and Ethiopia) CW at I Will Pull This Blog Over!… on cleft follow-up visits and a lip revision surgery

Whatever Wednesday (on Thursday)

November 18, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Special Needs…
adoptive momma (China) Joanna B. at Waiting for Two… on special needs beyond medical ones that can be fixed

She Did GREAT! And a very special thank you
adoptive momma (China) Jenn at Love Like Crazy… detailed photo essay of her daughter’s recent surgery

Stuff Worth Knowing About, 11/13 Editionmom Ellen at To The Max… great links to peruse, especially for parents raising children with special needs

Bye Bye Ear Tubes adoptive momma (China) Donna at Double Happiness… saying goodbye to ear tubes several years after palate surgery

National Adoption Month: Will adoptive momma (China) Gail at Aging With Grace and Strong Will… on these past two-and-a-half years parenting her son, adopted through the special needs program, but whose primary special need is not the one they were expecting

Time Discovers Truthmomma Suzanne at the group blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on learning patience as the mom of a child with special needs

Hand Surgery for Davidadoptive momma (China) Karen at Always in My Heart… hand surgery to stabilize her son’s thumb

On Becoming Rubyadoptive momma (China) Amy at For Such a Time As This… an important moment while looking at photographs with her daughter

Whatever Wednesday

November 10, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

Daniel and Chantelle are The Answera guest post by adoptive momma (Ethiopia) Chantelle at the Be The Answer blog… on their journey from fear to adopting a child who is HIV positive

A New Beginning… with a path to some answersadoptive momma (China) Shannon at Throwing Our Arms Wide Open… explaining her daughter’s specific heart condition, tetralogy of fallot

‘Tis the Season!adoptive momma (domestic) Heather at the group adoption blog 5 Minutes for Special Needs… on navigating the holiday germ season

Home from the hospitaladoptive momma (China) Stacy at Our Red Thread to Cadence… an update post-surgery

My Address Book
adoptive momma (Columbia) Megan at Colombian Brewed on changes in her address book after adopting a sibling group of traumatized children [HAT TIP to Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant]

Moms of kids with Special Needs: Myths and Realitiesmomma Ellen at To The Max… a list of myths and realities about parents of children with special needs

Whatever Wednesday

November 3, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.

That Sounds Super Fun!!!adoptive momma (Korea) Elizabeth at Romans 8:15… on the tests required to discover whether or not her son is having seizure activity

It ‘just happens’ to be that God gets the glory
adoptive momma (China) Ohilda at A Bouquet of Blessings… on a recent trip to the hospital for testing

This girl…
adoptive momma (China) Joanna B. at Waiting for Two… an update after exactly two months home

Saying no… is REALLY hardwaiting to adopt (China) Lindsay at Griff & Em Growing… on saying no when a social worker calls with a specific child (or children) in mind

Relocating Kids With Disabilities… What I Have Learned So Faradoptive momma (domestic) Dorothy at (Sub)Urban Servant… listing a few of the challenges they’ve encountered since moving to a new state

God delivered a miracle yesterday…
adoptive momma (China) Diana at First a Pearl, Then Two Rubies… excellent test results after her daughter’s recent surgery to remove her spleen

Surviving Epilepsymomma Stephanie at Adventures in Babywearing… on her oldest son’s six years seizure-free, after several years of seizures that first appeared at age two

Surgery Dayadoptive momma (China) Stacy at Our Red Thread to Cadence… palate surgery, as well as ear tubes and dental fillings

Is the Third Time a Charm?adoptive momma (China) Rebekah at Our Neck of the Woods… wondering if this third surgery to correct her son’s hypospadias will be successful

Whatever Wednesday

October 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Each Wednesday we post links from the previous week that touch on special needs adoption. Our hope is that these small snapshots provide you with a glimpse of life after adopting through China’s waiting child program… both the long-term blessings and the challenges that come with parenting a child with special needs. We also hope to raise awareness about a variety of special needs.


Wherein I Blow My Top
adoptive momma (China) Shirlee McCoy at And Then There Were Seven… her reaction after hearing an acquaintance make comments about her daughter trying to find a “doll like me” doll

Adopting a Waiting Child: The Storyadoptive momma (China) I Am at I Am What I Do… a good read for anyone waiting at the moment

Surgery Update
adoptive momma (China) Sharon at In the Light of Eternity… describing her son’s recent p-flap surgery and recovery

Another Surgery in the Books
an adoptive momma (China) at Room For At Least One More… an update on her daughter’s seventh surgery

Amsterdam International
momma Dana at Uncommon Sense… written as an intentional forward to the well-known piece “Welcome to Holland,” and for parents in the early stages of processing the fact that their child has special needs

Conflictedadoptive momma (China) AmFam at American Family… with her husband out of town, she takes a peek at her agency’s special needs list

Medical Journey Update adoptive momma (China) Paulette at Love You Forever… an update on her daughter’s medical condition (related to the digestive system)

A guest post about an orphan in China with Down syndromeguest blogger Walking To China at Gillian Marchenko’s blog Pocket Lint… the story of how she came to foster a child with Down syndrome