SN: CHD and CL/CP

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I see this label often on the shared list and advocacy sites. It hits close to my heart to see it. I don’t think as I used to of the FEAR. Of the what ifs. Of genetic syndromes. Of shorter lifespans. Of lower intelligence. Of open-heart surgery. Of speech delays that may take years to […]

The A Word in Adoption

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Abandoned. Webster’s defines abandoned as “given up, forsaken.” And Webster’s defines forsaken as “to renounce or turn away from entirely.” The questions have begun crashing in for our little girl. My Mom asked me if I thought her overhearing our talks with her older brother about his China Mommy had brought this about more quickly […]

Let’s Talk About Labels

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Every month the excitement quickens. Every month the chatter on groups and the *official* website for all things China adoption takes on a new level. Every month a few announce their joyous news for a referral of a child from the shared list. And that never gets old: to know a child who was once […]

A Journey to an IEP

Wow. Shock. Joy. Sadness. R.E.L.I.E.F Developmental Delay. How should I feel? I’m not sure, but the overriding feeling today is RELIEF. We have a starting point, a place from which to MOVE FORWARD. On Thursday, my baby boy, our little five-year-old son will begin a new journey. Complete with an IEP (Individualized Education PLAN). Back […]

Adoption Reality #2: Special Needs Do NOT Define Children

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This post is a bit of a detour for me from my original plan for my #2 Adoption Reality. I feel the need to share this though, and to add a disclaimer that these Adoption Realities I’m sharing are MY realities. They may not be the same for all of us, but for me this […]

Adoption Reality #1: When Your Vision Is NOT Your Reality

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Bear with me for a few lines while I share with you about this post and hopefully a few more to follow. I mentioned in my last post on this blog that I was taking a break from posting at my personal blog … and I still am. For now. I received so many beautiful […]

Whoever Said Adoption Is Easy?

The 27th day of the month. It is the day I am supposed to post. Stefanie may fire me if I don’t. Seriously I have so much I want to say and yet I can’t find the words, and even more I am so not ready to share so much. I know those who may […]

I’ll Say It

This post is one that has been brewing, stewing, soaking … whatever you want to call it … in my head for a LONG time. I just read the latest update on our agency’s blog. Here is an excerpt: The current wait time from LID to referral is 50-51 months with a trend of increasing […]

I Can’t Be Her Voice

As much as I’d like to put a protective cocoon around her and be her voice among other things, I can’t. Let me preface this entry with two things: my heart is in my throat these days as we wait for our final piece of paperwork to travel to China for our sons, and our […]

There IS Loss

A recent post by TongguMomma has really had me thinking A.L.O.T. Right after I read her post, which I keep going back to just to read the comments, I received a very unexpected piece of mail. As in, snail mail, all the way from the East. Long story short, we had ordered a care package […]