When we toured our son’s orphanage, I asked the assistant director so many questions that Helen, our poor translator, needed to stop for a water break. The assistant director, on the other hand, asked only one question of me, a question that left me stammering: “Why are people not adopting boys?”
They have many boys, “very good boys”, she pointed out, and they cannot find families. Our own son, obviously adored by the orphanage workers, was not quickly snatched off of the shared list. He had two special needs, both considered minor in baby girls. Females with these special needs are snatched up quickly. Our son’s file sat on the shared list for five months.
So why is it that boys struggle to be adopted? How did I answer this woman’s question? Well, frankly, I didn’t. I just kind of stammered that I didn’t know why. Any answers that went through my head seemed so ridiculous that I didn’t want to waste our translator’s breath. What could I possibly say?
Girls are cuter?
Boys are more destructive?