Beyond Adoption: An Interview with Karen Brenneman from New Day Foster Home

October 1, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

Here at No Hands But Ours, we are passionate about the Fatherless; the orphaned, the child who so desperately needs a family. And so we advocate, we encourage, we inform, we love.

We also know that many of our readers are as passionate and want to support and love on children who need families… some who may not be called to adopt now, but feel called to do something.

In an effort to connect those passions with action, we’re sharing organizations we believe are doing the most life-changing kind of orphan care in China: nourishing the body, engaging the mind and healing the heart.

We recently had an opportunity to talk with Karen Brenneman, founder and director of New Day, a foster home in China caring for the most medically fragile orphans since 2000. A place where children are tenderly loved and cared for – inside and out.

Read on to see how you can make a difference.


Q: Tell us a little about New Day:

With a heart to touch the lives of orphans with medical needs, New Day Foster Home began modestly. We built relationships with nearby orphanages in Beijing and Tianjin, and in 2000, we began caring for six orphans who needed minor cleft lip and palate surgical repairs. We cared for them in a couple of apartments, and then built our 21-bed facility now known as New Day Foster Home soon after.

In 2003, we began taking on more serious cases. Our first critical case was Jon, a little boy in need of heart surgery. When we first met Jon, we did not yet have the funds to pay for his surgery. With a firm belief in the power of prayer, we stepped out in faith and brought him to New Day for treatment.

Jon’s surgery was a success and we moved forward to reach out to more children in desperate need. Since that time, all of our surgeries happen because of generous donations from supporters and through doctors and hospitals who work with us to keep expenses minimal.

A little boy named Jacob inspired us to begin the Formula Project in 2006. Jacob also came to us with a severe heart condition. Severe malnourishment — his orphanage did not have the funds to feed him milk formula, so they fed him sugar water instead — exasperated his medical condition, causing a long, expensive recovery.

Because of Jacob’s story, we began supplying milk formula to several orphanages throughout China to give each child under the age of one year a healthy start.

As our reputation spread to more orphanages throughout China, we received more requests for children to come to our facility. To better meet the needs, we expanded our Beijing facility by placing the children who were post surgery with caring Foster Families in our local village.

Since the Foster Home’s founding in 2000, we have been privileged to touch the lives of hundreds of children throughout China. Our work simply would not be possible without many people around the world offering their time, resources, and expertise to help our children experience hope and healing.

Q: When was New Day established?

In 2000.

Q: Where is it located?

There are three locations. Beijing, Inner Mongolia and Zhongshan.

Q: What is your role/position there?


Q: What is the mission of New Day?

“Bringing Hope to the Hopeless and the Fatherless Home.” Alleviating the pain and suffering of Chinese orphans born with physical handicaps by providing for their every physical, mental and spiritual need, we give these children a future and a hope while they wait for their very own loving family.

Q: How many children are currently in your care?


Q: What is the age range of your kids?

Currently it is infant to 9 years old.

Q: How do you prepare the children for adoption?

Adoptive parents send photo albums to the orphanages. The orphanage then sends it to us and we go over it with the children daily.

Children who are matched open their gifts from their new families and look through their photo albums with all of the children in our care watching. We make a big deal of this so that they all realize this is something to be desired. We talk about it often with the them.

When we get the travel date we make a countdown calendar for the children. Then everyday they get to put a sticker signifying it is one day closer to when their parents come to get them.

The children as soon as they turn two attend preschool where they learn in English and Chinese. Being exposed to and learning English helps them with adoption. They are also exposed to a lot of foreign interns, which helps.

We also celebrate American holidays in addition to Chinese holidays. This way the children begin to get exposed to other cuisine.

Q: What (if any) recommendations do you have for adoptive parents preparing to meet their child for the first time?

1. Realize that most children in orphanages have not been exposed to foreigners. We look different, sound different and even smell different. Be understanding as they leave ALL they are familiar with.

2. Loving unconditionally makes a difference.

3. Learn everything you can about attachment. Most agencies provide training – this is key to helping you begin to attach with your child.

Q: Is there a specific success story you’d like to share?

Here is a link to a little girl, Connie, who really is a miracle. At her most recent checkup the doctor told us, “You really don’t understand. There is no way this child should be alive.”

Q: How much is a monthly sponsorship?

$35 per month.

Q: What does the sponsorship cover?

It covers the children’s basic needs, health checkups, adoption paperwork, facility maintenance, therapy (PT, ST, OT) etc.

Q: What percentage of the sponsorship cost goes directly for the care of the child?

Around 95% (depends on method of payment – with checks there is less of a fee, but they aren’t as convenient for the donor).

Q: Do donors receive information specific to their sponsored child?

Yes – monthly updates and pictures by email.

Q: Beyond monthly sponsorship, what other ways can donors help support New Day?

1. Help fund the formula project (we provide formula for children in four government orphanages)

2. Help fund children’s surgeries

3. Volunteer: medical experts needed to help write medical protocol – potential volunteers can email me

4. Volunteer: medical, therapy, education experts needed to come and do training

5. Supply needs: often there are items we need that can’t be obtained in China

6. Sponsor a child


Because New Day is not able to publicly share images of their children beyond their own website (and you can see all kinds of cuteness there!) we’ve contacted some families who have adopted children from New Day and asked them to share a little of their stories.


From Sara, Ruby’s mama:

Our family adopted Ruby almost seven years ago.

When we found out she was at New Day (before we were united in her home province of Henan), we went for a visit. We wanted to know more about the foster home that had saved her life.


What a moving experience!

New Day is a place of hope and healing that has transformed the lives of countless orphans. We are so thankful that our daughter was taken there from the state run orphanage as it saved her life, literally.


Ruby is miracle, a gift from God! We are forever grateful for the staff at New Day for living out the gospel each and every day.



From Shauna Zeke’s mama:

We adopted our son from New Day South in December 2015.

There is nothing but good things to say about our experience. We did not have any contact with New Day during the process, however, we did get many updates and videos of our son until we was in our arms.


My husband and I are not travelers. Traveling to China for our son was the first time we traveled out of country. We were in complete culture shock, homesick, and deeply missed our four kids at home.

During our visit at New Day South, we couldn’t have felt more welcomed. Doug and Janice Bush took us into their home and loved on us while we were there. For that day, the homesick feeling was freed from us! We got to spend the afternoon meeting nannies, seeing where Zeke lived, who he played with, and just visiting with each other.

We felt the love at New Day South and knew our son was very much loved there. It was such a relief to know he was well cared for for the first two years of his life.


We are so thankful for New Day South, and the love they poured into our son while he was in critical medical condition and until he came home to us.


Tessa (Annabel)

From Amber, Tessa’s mama:

Our story to our Tessa Joy started with something as simple as saying yes to a child sponsorship.

It didn’t take long for us to jump right in and start sponsoring one of the children who had just arrived into New Day’s care. Her name was Annabel and she was quite the miracle.


We were blown away by the quality care the children at ND were receiving. We saw clearly that Annabel and her little foster sister AnnaRose would not have survived infancy if it wasn’t for New Day coming to their aid. We watched over the months how these two precious baby girls grew and thrived. Our monthly email updates and pictures of Annabel were always so amazing to read and to see how much progress was happening in her development.

Fast forward many months as we moved forward in our adoption process and it came time to wait for “the call”. It was nothing short of a miracle that we were matched with AnnaRose! Our daughter was right there before us for months! She’s our Tessa Joy! We quickly learned about her personality, what she loved and how silly she was. She is SO us!


My heart nearly burst at the seams as the sweet souls who were my daughter’s monthly sponsors and volunteers began introducing themselves to me… to hear from those who prayed over her, cherished her and celebrated her being matched with her forever family? Well, that did me in. I was in awe. I still am.

I will never forget the moment when I meet Tessa’s dear nanny, Susan. She stayed with Tessa weeks on end while she was hospitalized for her heart surgery. This woman’s eyes so full of sadness and joy as she said goodbye to Tessa and placed her into my arms.


The pictures and personal moments we have with Tessa’s foster parents are another piece of the treasure that New Day Foster Home is.


All this because we said yes to sponsoring a child.


Earlier this year, New Day celebrated the milestone of 300 adoptions of children in their care. And still so many more that are waiting. Consider how you might join arms with them in their commitment to caring for and loving on the least of these.

Making the Grade: Special Education and Adoption

September 30, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments

It’s September which means school is back in session. And this month at No Hands But Ours, it’s all about Education. From IEPs to OT, from homeschooling to Early Intervention, we’re covering the gamut of educational topics and how they relate to the unique needs of the children who have joined our families through adoption.



I was asked to write this post on Special Education, and I’ve written it several times over.

At first I was trying to explain the standard process of my Special Education experience. But – in writing this – I discovered several important lessons I’ve learned over the past four years….

My perspectives on Special Education are that of a mother and an educator. I taught for 18 years in the Texas public school system. We have five beautiful children, and we attempt to meet each of our children’s educational needs on an individual basis. Our biological daughter Molly is homeschooled by my mother, a retired school teacher. Our adopted son Timmy is in general education at the public school near our house. And our beautiful girls from China – Savannah, Kelsey, and Emily – are all in different special education programs within the school district in which we live.

Savannah’s special needs are autism, congenital hypothyroidism, non-verbal, and significant cognitive delay.
Kelsey’s special need is cerebral palsy, and she is non-verbal.
Emily’s special needs are encephalocele, severe epilepsy, blind, deaf, significant brain damage (missing corpus callosum and 9/10 of her cerebellum), scoliosis, and non-verbal.

I believe that 99.9% of educators and administrators have children’s best interest at heart.
I believe that all children can learn and make progress.
I believe in a flawed educational system that still does good.



Savannah was three when she came home from China. She weighed 11 pounds, and she functioned on the level of a two month old. She needed so much more than we could give her on our own. We had her evaluated through the school district and anxiously awaited the results. The IEP was called three months later, and I was nervous. As an educator, I had been in many IEP meetings but going in as parent? So scary. My best advice for IEP meetings…. wear the strongest deodorant you can find and take a plate of homemade chocolate chip cookies to share with the IEP committee.

Savannah’s IEP was in a conference room filled with 14 people… administrators, therapists, teachers, and us. Three words: Peace. Offering. Cookies. With that said, I was still overwhelmed in the IEP. It is difficult to hear anyone talking about your “baby”.

I heard the following:
We are unsure.
No one knows.
No one has really seen a child like this without early intervention.

I began to feel defensive. I just wanted someone to say she would turn out “okay”.
When the anxiety tears were just about to leak out, God fixed my eyes on the incredible fact that fourteen people were sitting around a big conference table talking about our baby girl.

Fourteen! People!

In China she was left in a crib made out of plywood and metal.
In Carrollton, Texas our baby girl had a team of people who are invested in her.
Not only were they invested in her, but they had a plan to help her move forward. My heart was so filled with gratitude that the tears did come. The visual of that conference room on that day…..
Fourteen people.
One baby girl.
And a chance…

Four years later… the magnitude of this is not lost on me.

In 2013 Savannah started in the Developmental Program for children with the most severe needs. Her teacher, Mrs. Lucy, was just perfect for her. She loved our baby girl deeply and also “had her number”. She saw the fight within Savannah and channeled it to help her reach milestone after milestone. Mrs. Lucy was amazing, and I felt secure sharing my “baby” with her. Then after the first full year in the Developmental Program Mrs. Lucy transferred to another job within the district and truthfully I thought I might die.

My husband I had so much anxiety over who the new teacher would be and I cried. A lot!

Then Mrs. Sarah came into the picture. She was so sweet with the biggest heart. Savannah continued to make great progress both physically and cognitively. During this time Savannah’s endearing personality began to blossom, and I give credit to Mrs. Sarah and her team for the love they lavished on her every day. They truly delighted in Savannah.


She learned to walk during this time period. They nicknamed her Class President and Belle of the Ball. At the end of the second full year in Developmental, it was suggested that Savannah be moved up to more advanced classroom within the program. Again, I thought I might die. You are seeing the pattern here, right? Savannah would be with a new teacher… and who would that be? I began to pray for whoever the next person who be.

And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith. Matthew 21:22. God had provided two perfect people for her, and so I thought this is our year. With great hesitation, we gave our blessing to move Savannah up within the program. Mrs. Erin was an amazing fit for Savannah. She loved her fiercely and was able to push her to make great strides. She had high expectations of Savannah and knew what she was capable of.

Toward the end of the year Mrs. Erin asked us if we would be okay with having Savannah tested for autism. I agreed to the testing, but I was certain Savannah was not autistic. I kept thinking her behaviors were institutional. Until I watched this video of Savannah…

I was truly blind to my child’s needs. Blinded by love. I attributed her behaviors to orphanage life and other health issues. After the testing was completed, Savannah qualified for a Communications Class where most of the children are autistic.

This fall she started at a new school within the district. This time around I was not so scared about her, or who her new teacher would be, but it was hard to leave our wonderful friends at the Developmental Center. It’s not goodbye though because our daughter Emily is now in the program. It was just hard to think of Savannah being somewhere else. We are forever grateful to everyone who worked with Savannah, and we love them like family.

I learned so many lessons through the process of Savannah’s special needs experience:

Others will likely push my child further than I will.
Other people have higher expectations of my daughter than I do.
Even though I felt so defensive at certain points of the process, I looked for the good. And I was able to find it.
God is trustworthy in everything involving the people who will be interacting with my child.
Because my child’s needs are severe, it’s helpful to have a team of people giving input.
It’s perfectly okay to be blinded by love. I’m the mommy!

Kelsey and Emily

In 2015 we brought home two girls, Emily and Kelsey.

We started the Special Education paperwork right away and went through the process with both girls again. I kept my IEP rules the same: man deodorant and cookies. After four years, one would think that the IEPs get easier. I always know what to expect as far as the process goes, but it’s still unnerving.


Kelsey has cerebral palsy. She has difficulty walking and she is non-verbal. She was enrolled in Preschool Program Child Development where life skills and some academic concepts are taught. She had a wonderful first year. Kelsey craves structure and so going to school was a gift for her. She had a sweet teacher, and she gained confidence and purpose during her year in PPCD. She also made a best friend. I doubt in China she would have had the opportunity to go to school.

This year she moved schools to a new program called Applied Academics. You won’t be surprised to know that her new teacher Mrs. Beth is also wonderful! This time around I was able to trust the process and lean into what people were teaching me about my child. I realize the system is not perfect, but I continued to find the good in each school.

I drove Kelsey to school each day. At the beginning of the year it took her about seven minutes to walk in using the walker. By the end of the year she walked in without the walker in about two minutes flat.


Each day the crossing guard would greet her and the aide would be waiting for her by the door. Her BFF, Kelly, was there each day. They were always excited to see each other.

It seems small but Kelsey’s daily school routine filled me with gratitude.

“Gratitude for the seemingly insignificant – this plants the giant miracle.” – Ann Voskamp

I think the special ed teachers that I know believe this as well. It’s what gets them up in the mornings and keeps them fighting for each child.

Before we had Emily tested, we were certain she would go to the Developmental Center with Savannah. Her needs are complex, and we started the year with a wheelchair that was completely unstable. The therapists and teachers arranged for a loaner chair that would be safe at school. This was amazing as it took us nine months to get her fitted and insurance funded for the correct chair.


Because she was in the program where Savannah had been for over three years, we knew things would be okay. She had Mrs. Sarah, Savannah’s second teacher. Mrs. Sarah always complements Emily on any progress she makes. She always has higher expectations of Emily than I do. I think it goes back to me viewing her as a “baby” as well. She is constantly trying to find things to stimulate Emily and it always gives us ideas for home.

Most recently Emily started having difficulty eating. The speech teacher, Mrs. Amanda, and the class nurse, Mrs. Rachelle, approached me and told me they saw signs of her aspirating. If this was true, we knew she would need a g-tube.

I felt very resistant to this news, and I’m sure they felt this from me. It’s not that I didn’t believe them, I just didn’t want to believe it. After several tests, we found out that Emily is aspirating on everything she eats and drinks. Without Mrs. Amanda and Mrs. Rachelle, we would have never know this about our daughter.

Because Emily has such significant needs and she is medically fragile, it’s a gift to have other people that are invested in her care. They love her, and they view her life as valuable. They acknowledge her and treat her like a princess each and every day.

This love and this level of care? Well, it simply fills this momma’s heart with gratitude.

The education system is not perfect.
My children may not reach all the goals listed in the IEPs.
I might initially disagree with what is being thrown my way.
The bus might be late.
There will always be more paper work than I want to think about.

In the end? It is about my attitude, my willingness to listen to others, my willingness to accept hard things, my willingness to find the seed of gratitude, and let it grow into a miracle.

And finally….
To trust God with the people that He has placed into my children’s lives.

– guest post by Amy: facebook || email

The Gift of Waiting

September 29, 2016 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments

When I was four I asked for a calendar. Just writing that sentence seems ridiculous.

I asked my mom to keep track of my activities so I could know which event happened on what day. Sundays and Wednesdays were church and in between there was preschool, a plethora of playdates, and ballet practice. As long as I can remember I have loved to know the plan.

When we began our first adoption, a few people warned me that timelines don’t always go as scheduled. I mildly heeded their advice but inside my head I thought that our adoption would be the exception to the rule. I was hopeful that everything would go smoothly and there would be no hiccups along the way.


Fast forward a few years later and countless delays and country program changes and switching our adoption plans from one continent to the next and things didn’t seem so easy and predictable anymore.

After a particularly rough afternoon that brought the news that our program at the time had slowed to a halt, I sent a cry of help to my closest friends. My world felt out of control. My sweet friend, Deanna, arrived 30 minutes later in my yard with a Starbucks drink and a hug.

I wanted a plan. I wanted to know when our paperwork was going to move through the system. I wanted to know what time of year we would travel and every detail about our child.

I had been holding onto my timeline with a white knuckle grip. I was obsessively checking adoption blogs and Facebook groups. I was researching other people’s adoption timeline spreadsheets. (Yes, that is a thing). I was finding any excuse to e-mail or call our social worker just to check in and ensure she didn’t have any updated news for us.

I was frustrated that God wasn’t following my schedule. It was hard for me to celebrate when I heard other people with my similar timeline had jumped ahead of me. It was a mixture of joy that another child would soon be coming home to his forever family and also sadness and frustration that our turn had not yet come.

I did not like the way I felt and it was so disappointing to see the ugliness of jealousy and bitterness in me. I knew something had to stop. I began slowly opening my hands to God’s timeline. His ways. His ideas. I realized that the ultimate goal of having my child home was important but the work God wanted to do in me during the season of waiting was vital. I knew I could either spend the next few months of waiting frazzled and anxious or I could take a deep breath and be present in the moment and learn what God had for me during this time.

I stopped checking my e-mail 57 times a day to see if there were updates from our agency. I stopped logging onto Facebook every few minutes so I could to see what other people’s adoption timelines were and who was ahead of me in the process. I slowed down my pace and soaked up my moments with our family of four before trying to rush to become a family of five.

I rested and journaled and wrote letters to our future daughter. I bought her fun fingernail polish and sparkly shoes. I reread adoption books and brushed up on our training manuals. I started looking inward to see what needed to be healed and refined instead of obsessing about what I could not control.

And you know what? Our turn finally came. It took way longer than my original plan, but one sweet day in August a beautiful little girl was placed in my arms.

My tears of joy mixed with my tears of gratefulness. I was so thankful for that season of waiting. There was so much work that needed to be done in me and when I held our daughter I knew that a lot of those delays in the process were for me. I was now a more patient mom, wife, and friend. I had been refreshed and restored and healed through that time.


Here I am two years later beginning the adoption process again and starting another season of waiting. The second time around is sweeter. There is less stress. Less anxiety. Less worry. It’s a different pace. I do what I can on my end but I am not holding onto this process with a tight grip.

I know there will be delays and in fact, I expect them. I don’t look at spreadsheets because I have learned they are not going to help my child come home any faster. There is a peace and comfort in not relying on my own timeline and schedule. My perspective has shifted and I have learned that this season of waiting is not one to endure but a gift to receive.


Courtney and her husband, Charles, live in Athens, GA where they are loving the adventure of raising their three young children. Their eyes were opened to adoption after reading the Bible, blogs, books, traveling to other parts of the world, and even seeing the beautiful picture of adoption firsthand through friends and family. They realized how many children truly need a home. Their hearts went from wondering if they should adopt to how could they not? Their youngest daughter was adopted from China in 2014 through the special needs program and they are currently in the process of bringing home another child. Courtney is a self-employed producer, editor and videographer.

Epidermolysis Bullosa: “The Worst Disease You’ve Never Heard Of”

September 28, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


Epidermolysis Bullosa (ep-i-der-mo-lie-sis bu-low-suh), abbreviated as EB, is a rare, genetic disorder that impacts connective tissue. Approximately 200 children a year in the U.S. are born with EB, and it’s known as “The Worst Disease You’ve Never Heard Of”. Children with EB are referred to as “butterflies” due to the fragility of their skin. There …Read More

Making the Grade: Exporing Special Education Service Options

September 27, 2016 by nohandsbutours 1 Comments


It’s September which means school is back in session. And this month at No Hands But Ours, it’s all about Education. From IEPs to OT, from homeschooling to Early Intervention, we’re covering the gamut of educational topics and how they relate to the unique needs of the children who have joined our families through adoption. …Read More

Not Really a Special Need: Adopting a Child with Albinism

September 26, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


No Hands But Ours is focusing on skin conditions this month. My son has albinism, but I hesitated to write our story. Heck, our dermatologist has discharged us. If my son ever has a suspicious mole or a serious burn, we’ll go back. Otherwise, I am capable of – the dermatologist pointed out – totally …Read More

Making the Grade: High Fives and Fist Bumps Instead of Hugs, Please

September 25, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


I still remember her. She was the best. My 1st grade self loved her big smile and her early 80s old-lady perm. Everyday, she’d stand by the classroom door at the end of the day and hug each and every one of us. I was excited to go to school everyday because of her and her …Read More

Child Who Waits: Moses

September 24, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


Look at tiny sweet Moses and fall in love! Born in September of 2014, Moses is just less than 18 months old. How he needs a mama to love him! Moses is described as a playful little guy who loves to interact with his caregivers. He likes to make sounds and call to different people …Read More

Making the Grade: Choosing a Classical Approach

September 23, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


Our decision to homeschool began like many other families’ journeys, I’m sure. We wanted to give our children a Biblical worldview, be a bigger part of their lives (no parents ever regret spending too much time with their children!), and have the freedom to choose our studies based on individual interests. We also hoped to …Read More

Find My Family: Alexa

September 22, 2016 by nohandsbutours 0 Comments


Meet Alexa! Alex was born in October 2003 and is almost 13 years old. She loves dressing up and is an exceptional artist. Alexa has many good friends at school. Alexa’s caregivers wish is for her to find a loving family who can help her reach her full potential. Alexa herself has expressed her desire …Read More

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