Stepping Out in Faith….God’s Call to Adopt

October 3, 2014 by nohandsbutours Parenting Special Needs 1 Comments

How many times have you been surprised by God’s plan for your life? Have you ever been shocked by His plan? Have you ever thought, seriously, Lord, surely you don’t mean me? Wait, you want me to do what? That’s not my plan, God. Are you sure? __________________________________________________________________________________ “Joshua told the people, ‘Consecrate yourselves, for …Read More

Communicating through ASL

January 31, 2012 by nohandsbutours cl/cp, Nicole C., Parenting Special Needs 0 Comments

This has probably been a familiar scene at some point in your home … your young toddler child is sitting in the middle of the floor throwing a temper tantrum. Tears are streaming down her face, her nose is running and her hair is matted to her face. She’s kicking the floor and screaming … …Read More

Ming bai

September 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, foster care, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

I love this word in Chinese:  明白, or, if you do not have Chinese fonts installed on your computer, it is “Ming bai”. Little Lukai whom will arrive in Canada on Nov 24th! Now, why do I love it?  Because it means “to understand”.  Or, to “see clearly”.  Literally, I think it means something like …Read More

Why Hello Spinabifida…

August 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

Ping:  Dad!  Dad!  DAD! Me:  What’s up baby? Ping:  Can you take my picture?!Me:  Of course!  Let me get the camera. Ping:  YAY!… a few seconds later … Me:  Okay baby, smile for Daddy! Ping:  What?  No.  I no smile. Me:  But you gotta smile for the picture.  You gotta look cute.Ping:  I want you to take a picture of my …Read More

I am a Coward

June 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

Hello, my name is The Yeti…… and I am a Coward. Ping enjoying a horse ride, even with Spina Bifida Now, I’m not ALWAYS a coward.  There are many many things in life which I face bravely.  I can wrestle with bears wrapped in bacon… but for the life of me, children scare me. Now …Read More

Jubilee Promise

February 15, 2011 by nohandsbutours Linny, Parenting Special Needs 0 Comments

Miss Jubilee has been home a little over a year now. This is the place where we write about special needs and our children with special needs.  Way back when we began pursuing kids with special needs my husband, Dw, and I came to one conclusion:  The only true special need any child has is …Read More

Sink or Swim

January 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs, waiting children 0 Comments

Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida.  Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities.  There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More

My Denial Envelope

October 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours developmental delays, Mental Handicap, Parenting Special Needs 0 Comments

When we found Jubilee and requested her file, we were well aware of her diagnosis of  “Lower Mental Development”.  In fact, it drew us even more to her.   Somewhere in there though, I wondered if maybe Ch*na had it wrong.  I mean, “Lower Mental Development” could be just learning delayed, right?  We already had …Read More

Just your average mom

September 20, 2010 by nohandsbutours Kristi, Parenting Special Needs 0 Comments

Since I’ve become a mom to a child with a visible special need, I’ve noticed something interesting about the way some people perceive me. Many people, from our guides in China to friends who know our schedules with various specialists to random strangers in grocery lines, want to promote me to sainthood. They say things …Read More

Whoever Said Adoption Is Easy?

July 27, 2010 by nohandsbutours Parenting Special Needs, Wife of the Prez 7 Comments

The 27th day of the month. It is the day I am supposed to post. Stefanie may fire me if I don’t. Seriously I have so much I want to say and yet I can’t find the words, and even more I am so not ready to share so much. I know those who may …Read More

I Can't Be Her Voice

May 25, 2010 by nohandsbutours cl/cp, Parenting Special Needs, Wife of the Prez 15 Comments

As much as I’d like to put a protective cocoon around her and be her voice among other things, I can’t. Let me preface this entry with two things: my heart is in my throat these days as we wait for our final piece of paperwork to travel to China for our sons, and our …Read More

Parenting Special Needs – Real Life

May 15, 2010 by nohandsbutours Parenting Special Needs 13 Comments

Recently our family had an experience that will forever be etched in our lives. It involves an adult with special needs…..and since we who parent children with special needs are raising children who will grow into adults with special needs, I feel strongly that this must be shared here. I don’t feel I can share …Read More