Coming Home: Sleeping Arrangements
September 30, 2015
Attachment, co-sleeping, cocooning, first year home, hearing loss, Nicole, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
Finishing out September with our last post in our Coming Home series. We’ve covered a lot of ground this month, from siblings, to discipline, to friendships, to finding joy in the struggle. You can find all 14 posts here. So grateful for all the wisdom shared by our regular and guest contributors, it is our …Read More
Coming Home: Balancing Their Biggest Needs
September 29, 2015
Attachment, China trip, Kelly, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
Heartache. There’s a lot of that in adoption—the recognition of hard things that can overwhelm us. The images of families receiving their children for the first time often capture it as deep emotions rise to the surface responding to the juxtaposition of loss and gain, of broken relationships and the birth of new ones. Oh, …Read More
Coming Home: There is a Season
September 28, 2015
Attachment, cocooning, first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
Bringing our little girl home from China was all that we had thought it would be: hard, messy, loud, heart-breaking, joyful, hopeful, exciting, exhausting, and worth it! Adoption is born out of tragedy. It is gut-wrenching, tear-jerking, and HARD. Our babies come from a place filled with unspeakable loss and trauma. Yet, God takes all …Read More
Coming Home: All the Feelings
September 25, 2015
China trip, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
I was once told that your life after adoption can be compared to a child’s mobile hanging over a crib. When the mobile is bumped, it’s path becomes unpredictable and out of balance as it spins recklessly with no sure path. As time passes, the mobile will become stable again and maintain a smooth circular …Read More
Coming Home: Tips for Medical Needs Parents
September 23, 2015
first weeks home, first year home, Medical Momma, Rebecca, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, surgery
You are a newly home medical needs parent, and life might be feeling like triage. Your child needs to be catheterized, tube fed, dilated and medicated. They need therapy, glasses, wheelchairs, oxygen, blood transfusions, walkers, cochlear implants, casts, g-tubes and ostomy bags. They’ll need MRIs, IVs, ultrasounds, sleep studies, anesthesia, echocardiograms, X-rays, EEGs, CT scans, …Read More
Coming Home: A Letter to Friends and Family
September 21, 2015
adoption community, Andrea Y., Attachment, cocooning, first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
To help our friends and family understand attachment and our transition, we sent this letter to friends and family just before traveling. Please feel free to personalize if for your family if you are preparing to bring home a little one too… …… Dear Family and Friends, After so much preparing, hoping and waiting – …Read More
Coming Home: Re-entry
September 17, 2015
first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
Launching a spacecraft into space is one thing. Bringing it back is another. Spacecraft re-entry is tricky business for several reasons. When an object enters the Earth’s atmosphere, it experiences a few forces, including gravity and drag. Gravity will naturally pull an object back to earth. But gravity alone would cause the object to fall …Read More
5 Things I Wish I’d Known 10 Years Ago
September 14, 2015
Attachment, first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, TongguMomma
I used to blog several years ago, but I dropped off the face of the earth when my oldest asked me to cease and desist. Since I want her to still love me when she’s thirty, and since my husband and I don’t want to have to pay for extensive therapy when she’s in her …Read More
A Letter From Us
September 13, 2015
Attachment, first weeks home, first year home, Rebecca, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, siblings
When newly home two years ago with three year old, Eli, and one year old, Evelyn, life felt turned upside down for such a very long time. A few months in, I found myself focusing more heavily on the changes I was feeling and experiencing than on how my two little ones, who had been …Read More
Coming Home: With a Sick Child
September 11, 2015
Amy, Attachment, cocooning, Medical Momma, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, surgery
We all imagine what it will be like when finally the paperwork is complete and we can see the face of our new child and begin to prepare for him or her. Then, after referral (if that is the order for you, it was for us) we make plans, consult specialists, send photos or stuffed …Read More
Coming Home: Cocooning
September 9, 2015
Amy A., Attachment, China trip, cocooning, first weeks home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
You’ve made the exciting decision to adopt. Congratulations! At this stage, you are either waiting to be matched with a child, or you are longing to hold your son or daughter each time you see your child’s precious pictures. The adoption journey is two-fold. First, you paper chase and wait to bring your child home. …Read More
Coming Home: Discipline or Behavior?
September 7, 2015
Attachment, attachment activities, cocooning, discipline, first weeks home, first year home, hoarding, orphanage behaviors, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, Sharon, Trust Based Parenting
Continuing our September Series: Coming Home, today Sharon, mom of six from China, shares her thoughts on discipline vs. behavior. Amy shared on the Joy and the Struggle of the first weeks and months home, and Jenny shared on Helping Siblings Bond. You can find all posts in this series here ……. Our family has been to China …Read More
Coming Home: Helping Siblings Bond
September 5, 2015
first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home, siblings
Lord, this humble house we’d keepSweet with play and calm with sleep.Help us so that we may give Beauty to the lives we live.Let Thy love and let Thy graceShine upon our dwelling place.– Edgar Guest I have that quote framed in our downstairs bathroom. I can’t tell you how many times a week I …Read More
Coming Home: {the Joy and the Struggle}
September 4, 2015
cocooning, first weeks home, first year home, September 2015 Feature - Coming Home
A feeling of peace and anticipation washed over me as we began our decent into Nashville, Friday, March 25, 2011. Our time in China was hard physically and emotionally and we were ready to be home. Due to several flight delays, it was almost midnight when we landed, yet we knew that a small group …Read More