Answers in a Pink Backpack

August 17, 2018 birth family, birth family search, Carrie, Chinese Culture, heritage trip, orphanage, Post-Adoption contact, telling their life story 1 Comments

It’s a strange thing, this not having answers about the beginning. A mother is supposed to know the story of the day her daughter was born and the first days of her life. It’s the natural order of things. And the questions have stacked up in my mind these last few years… Was she left …Read More

Family Found: Our Search for our Daughter’s Birth Family

July 13, 2018 birth family, birth family, birth family search, DNA and genetic testing, orphanage, Post-Adoption contact 5 Comments

This is the story of how we found our daughter YuChen’s birth family 10 years and 5 days after she entered an orphanage in Ankang, Shaanxi province, China. I am trying to do my best to guard the hearts of two families and one very special little girl, so I will carefully share some of …Read More

We Found My Daughter’s Birth Family: What I Wish I Had Known

May 29, 2018 birth family, birth family, birth family search, DNA and genetic testing, Mandy, Post-Adoption contact, telling their life story 10 Comments

Over the past five months, I’ve been reflecting on our young daughter’s successful birth parent search. Were there things I wish I had known or I’m glad we did? Are there regrets I have? This article will be adoptive-parent centric, because it is written from my perspective as an adoptive mom who lived through a …Read More

We Traveled the World for Her Twice: How We Found Our Daughter’s Birth Family

December 29, 2017 birth family, birth family, birth family search, DNA and genetic testing, embracing their story, heritage trip, Mandy, orphanage, Post-Adoption contact, telling their life story 32 Comments

“An adoptee’s curiosity about one’s past is not a rejection of one’s present nor a sign of unhappiness or dysfunction. It’s exploring what should be the adoptee’s already — knowledge of one’s personal history and family members.” – Tara Vanderwoude, Social worker, advocate, educator For Christmas this year, my five-year-old daughter asked for a special …Read More

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