Trust is a funny thing. You kind of don’t notice it, until it is gone… or was never there. I think the sword and shield is the universal symbol for “I don’t trust you yet!” Me: Okay Ping, we have to run into my work for a second, then we will go home. Ping: Okay. …Read More
trust and pretty shoes
February 21, 2012
a father's perspective, Adrian, Attachment, older child adoption
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The Undiagnosed Special Need
December 20, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian
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Well, out little Bing is home, and has been for the past three weeks or so. And he is doing great (at least with me). HI! I’m HOME! And I’m CUTE! For those who follow our Forever Family blog, you will know that Bing as some Special Needs. When we got his referral, it stated that he did …Read More
Sleepless in Beijing
November 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida
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So the wife is currently in China, and I’m still here in Canada.The Wife, BigD (our 2nd eldest son) and our new son Lukai are about 5 days away from coming home.There have been a great many thing which I’ve learned over the last few weeks. Some of them related to adoption, most related to …Read More
I Got This
October 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian
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Refuses to let me help her tie up her gia… Ping: I no can do this!Me: What’s wrong baby?Ping: I no can fix my gia.Me: Well come here, I can fix it.Ping: You know how do it?Me: Yea, I got this.*I tie up Ping’s gia for karate class, and she runs out of the bedroom*Me: …Read More
Ming bai
September 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, foster care, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida
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I love this word in Chinese: 明白, or, if you do not have Chinese fonts installed on your computer, it is “Ming bai”. Little Lukai whom will arrive in Canada on Nov 24th! Now, why do I love it? Because it means “to understand”. Or, to “see clearly”. Literally, I think it means something like …Read More
Why Hello Spinabifida…
August 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida
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Ping: Dad! Dad! DAD! Me: What’s up baby? Ping: Can you take my picture?!Me: Of course! Let me get the camera. Ping: YAY!… a few seconds later … Me: Okay baby, smile for Daddy! Ping: What? No. I no smile. Me: But you gotta smile for the picture. You gotta look cute.Ping: I want you to take a picture of my …Read More
Accident, Mafia Style #2
July 22, 2011
a father's perspective, adopting SN: the process, Adrian
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Another “accident” Me: Uuuuuh, what was that crash?! Wife: Ummmm… I don’t know. Me: What happened? Was it something outside? Wife: Oh, uh, yea. The table broke. Me: The table broke? How? Wife: … uuuuuuhhhhmmmm… Me: *looking outside* I guess the wind caught it and tipped it over? Wife: Yea! That’s it! I saw the whole thing! The wind just picked it up, and …Read More
I am a Coward
June 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida
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Hello, my name is The Yeti…… and I am a Coward. Ping enjoying a horse ride, even with Spina Bifida Now, I’m not ALWAYS a coward. There are many many things in life which I face bravely. I can wrestle with bears wrapped in bacon… but for the life of me, children scare me. Now …Read More
Oh no, they are just like me!
May 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, older child adoption
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Waiting at midnight for StarCraft II to be released… Son #2 (D): Daddy! DAD!!!Me: What? Is something wrong?D: No. I just need to know how to say something.Me: Oh, sure. What are you trying to say?D: Your mother has a smooth forehead.Me: Your mother has a what?D: It’s Klingon!Me: Yes, I know that. It’s also …Read More
I'm Outta here!
April 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, Attachment
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4 out of 5 arguments are started over Barbie Dolls… G: Daddy! DADDY! Ping is trying to take my barbie doll!Me: What? Ping, are you trying to take G’s doll?Ping: No!Me: Really? Because I see her doll in your hand.Ping: No!Me: Ping, I can see that you have G’s doll. Don’t lie to your Daddy.Ping: …Read More
Baby Bing
March 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, incontinence, spina bifida
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For those who follow along with our Forever Family adoption blog, you would have been introduced to a new potential member to our ever growing family. And I do mean potential… very strongly potential… but let us recap some of the past couple of months, and how things have shaken down for a couple of …Read More
How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Chaos
February 21, 2011
a father's perspective, Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida
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Wife: I have to head back to Winnipeg for a couple of weeks.Me: Sure, no problem. Here, let me help you pack the bags for the kids.Wife: Oh no, the kids are staying here.Me: hahahaa… oh, for a second there, I thought you said the kids were staying here.Wife: They are.Me: hahaha… oh, that’s funny. …Read More
Sink or Swim
January 21, 2011
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs
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Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida. Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities. There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More
Catch a Grenade For You
December 21, 2010
a father's perspective, Adrian, older child adoption
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Daughter #1 (G): Daddy, why did that man say Grenade?Me: Huh? What?G: In the song Daddy. Listen. He says Grenade.Me: Okay… let me turn it up… I’d catch a grenade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)Throw my hand on a blade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)I’d jump in front of a train for ya (yeah, yeah …Read More
Parental Disappointment
November 21, 2010
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian
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Doctor: Congratulations! You’ve got a son!Me: Wow! A son!Wife: Oh look at him! He is beautiful! Me: He sure is! Handsome! Rugged! He is going to be a star Athlete!Wife: He can be anything he wants to be…Me: So long as he is Athletic! And rough and rugged like his Dad!Wife: Ummmm… I don’t think …Read More
I prefer "Emotionally Challenged"
October 21, 2010
a father's perspective, adoption realities, Adrian, pre-adoption, referral
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Wife: So, what are you looking forward to most when we get our new baby? Me: Uh… I donno. Wife: Okay, um, what colour do you think we should paint in their room? Me: Uh… I donno. Wife: Okay… what do you think about the new chainsaw? Me: OH! The new Huskvarana 21″ with dual …Read More
chainsaw encouragement
September 25, 2010
a father's perspective, Adrian, guest post
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Wife: You can totally cut down that tree! Me: Really? I donno. Its pretty big. And I’ve never really cut down a tree before. Wife: You can totally do it! Remember when you and your buddies took down the tree at our old place? Me: Yea, we tried to rent a chain saw, but the …Read More
A Way With Da Ladies
September 3, 2010
a father's perspective, Adrian, Attachment, guest post
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Today’s guest post is by our first contributor who isn’t a mama… he is a baba. Adrian is father to four children, his youngest daughter adopted from China, and blogs at Forever Family. ____________________________________________________________________ I know there are some stories of adoption out there, where the bonding between child and parent(s) is instant and wonderful! …Read More
POV on PBS: series of adoption documentaries
August 2, 2010
adoptee perspective
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PBS will be broadcasting a series of four documentaries about adoption in the coming weeks as a part of their POV (Point of View) series, with the first episode airing August 10th. The first will be First Person Plural, which will first be aired on August 10th. It is the story of a woman adopted in the …Read More
