Do you Love me Big?

December 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, spina bifida 2 Comments

This, is my family. They are all pretty cute, but they also look very different. Well, not Miss G and the Wife. They look very much alike. Everyone comments that Miss G is a miniature version of the Wife. And from what I’m told, Senior K walks, talks and behaves very much like myself. But …Read More

Every mom needs a tree

August 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, spina bifida 4 Comments

If you happen to want to adopt internationally, and you live in Ontario Canada, there is a certain course you have to take. It’s called the PRIDE course. And it covers many wonderful topics. The PRIDE curriculum provides information to help prepare all adoptive parents for the responsibilities involved in raising their children and incorporates …Read More

To the Mother in WalMart with the Screaming Child…

July 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, spina bifida 2 Comments

… I’m sorry. It’s a good thing I’m cute! I’m sorry I judged you too quickly. I’m sorry that at the sight of your disheveled hair, clad in your 1972 floral print muumuu, with mismatched socks, I judged you. I’m sorry that while your child lay on the ground, feet flying up in the air, …Read More

Odd family

May 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, spina bifida 2 Comments

Happy Mother’s Day! Um, okay, maybe that’s a little late, but this is really the first time I’ve had to post since Mother’s Day. ComicCon 2012 – what better way to say “Thanks Mom!” I hope Mother’s Day was great for everyone… lots of flowers, and chocolate, and other such things. Our Mother’s Day, well, …Read More

The state of her heart

April 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, spina bifida 6 Comments

So this post is a little unexpected. I’ve got a post about Miss G’s B-Day, and that hopefully will be funny. I’ve got a post about some other stuff, again, hopefully funny. They always look cute when dressed up as a duck But driving home today, Ping had said something that I think I need …Read More

the dreamers

March 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian 0 Comments

Let me tell you about a couple of my friends… Meet Rob. Read about Rob and his family here This is Rob. A good looking fellow. Short hair. Respectable even. Mild mannered. Looks like someone you could drop your kids off with for a day and leave them in safe hands. What might surprise you, …Read More

trust and pretty shoes

February 21, 2012 by nohandsbutours Adrian, Attachment, older child adoption 1 Comments

Trust is a funny thing.  You kind of don’t notice it, until it is gone… or was never there. I think the sword and shield is the universal symbol for “I don’t trust you yet!” Me:  Okay Ping, we have to run into my work for a second, then we will go home. Ping:  Okay. …Read More

The Undiagnosed Special Need

December 20, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian 0 Comments

Well, out little Bing is home, and has been for the past three weeks or so.  And he is doing great (at least with me). HI!  I’m HOME!  And I’m CUTE! For those who follow our Forever Family blog, you will know that Bing as some Special Needs. When we got his referral, it stated …Read More

Sleepless in Beijing

November 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida 0 Comments

So the wife is currently in China, and I’m still here in Canada.The Wife, BigD (our 2nd eldest son) and our new son Lukai are about 5 days away from coming home.There have been a great many thing which I’ve learned over the last few weeks.  Some of them related to adoption, most related to …Read More

I Got This

October 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian 0 Comments

Refuses to let me help her tie up her gia… Ping:  I no can do this!Me:  What’s wrong baby?Ping:  I no can fix my gia.Me:  Well come here, I can fix it.Ping:  You know how do it?Me:  Yea, I got this.*I tie up Ping’s gia for karate class, and she runs out of the bedroom*Me: …Read More

Ming bai

September 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, foster care, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

I love this word in Chinese:  明白, or, if you do not have Chinese fonts installed on your computer, it is “Ming bai”. Little Lukai whom will arrive in Canada on Nov 24th! Now, why do I love it?  Because it means “to understand”.  Or, to “see clearly”.  Literally, I think it means something like …Read More

Why Hello Spinabifida…

August 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

Ping:  Dad!  Dad!  DAD! Me:  What’s up baby? Ping:  Can you take my picture?!Me:  Of course!  Let me get the camera. Ping:  YAY!… a few seconds later … Me:  Okay baby, smile for Daddy! Ping:  What?  No.  I no smile. Me:  But you gotta smile for the picture.  You gotta look cute.Ping:  I want you to take a picture of my …Read More

Accident, Mafia Style #2

July 22, 2011 by nohandsbutours adopting SN: the process, Adrian 0 Comments

Another “accident” Me:  Uuuuuh, what was that crash?! Wife:  Ummmm… I don’t know. Me:  What happened?  Was it something outside? Wife:  Oh, uh, yea.  The table broke. Me:  The table broke?  How? Wife:  … uuuuuuhhhhmmmm… Me:  *looking outside*  I guess the wind caught it and tipped it over? Wife:  Yea!  That’s it!  I saw the whole thing!  The wind just picked it up, and …Read More

I am a Coward

June 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, Parenting Special Needs, spina bifida 0 Comments

Hello, my name is The Yeti…… and I am a Coward. Ping enjoying a horse ride, even with Spina Bifida Now, I’m not ALWAYS a coward.  There are many many things in life which I face bravely.  I can wrestle with bears wrapped in bacon… but for the life of me, children scare me. Now …Read More

Oh no, they are just like me!

May 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption 0 Comments

Waiting at midnight for StarCraft II to be released… Son #2 (D):  Daddy!  DAD!!!Me:  What?  Is something wrong?D:  No.  I just need to know how to say something.Me:  Oh, sure.  What are you trying to say?D:  Your mother has a smooth forehead.Me:  Your mother has a what?D:  It’s Klingon!Me:  Yes, I know that.  It’s also …Read More

I'm Outta here!

April 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, Attachment 0 Comments

4 out of 5 arguments are started over Barbie Dolls… G:  Daddy!  DADDY!  Ping is trying to take my barbie doll!Me:  What?  Ping, are you trying to take G’s doll?Ping:  No!Me:  Really?  Because I see her doll in your hand.Ping:  No!Me:  Ping, I can see that you have G’s doll.  Don’t lie to your Daddy.Ping: …Read More

Baby Bing

March 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, Incontinence, spina bifida 0 Comments

For those who follow along with our Forever Family adoption blog, you would have been introduced to a new potential member to our ever growing family.  And I do mean potential… very strongly potential… but let us recap some of the past couple of months, and how things have shaken down for a couple of …Read More

How I Stopped Worrying and Learned to Love the Chaos

February 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption, spina bifida 0 Comments

Wife:  I have to head back to Winnipeg for a couple of weeks.Me:  Sure, no problem.  Here, let me help you pack the bags for the kids.Wife:  Oh no, the kids are staying here.Me:  hahahaa… oh, for a second there, I thought you said the kids were staying here.Wife:  They are.Me:  hahaha… oh, that’s funny. …Read More

Sink or Swim

January 21, 2011 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, older child adoption, Parenting Special Needs, waiting children 0 Comments

Our daughter Ping has Spina Bifida.  Normally her Special Need doesn’t impact her day to day activities.  There have been the odd emergency trip to the Spina Bifida Clinic… and the numerous check ups, and test, and MRIs, and neurology type things… but other than that… her Spina Bifida has not been on the forefront …Read More

Catch a Grenade For You

December 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours Adrian, older child adoption 0 Comments

Daughter #1 (G):  Daddy, why did that man say Grenade?Me:  Huh?  What?G:  In the song Daddy.  Listen.  He says Grenade.Me:  Okay… let me turn it up… I’d catch a grenade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)Throw my hand on a blade for ya (yeah, yeah, yeah)I’d jump in front of a train for ya (yeah, yeah …Read More

Parental Disappointment

November 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian 0 Comments

Doctor:  Congratulations!  You’ve got a son!Me:  Wow!  A son!Wife:  Oh look at him!  He is beautiful! Me:  He sure is!  Handsome!  Rugged!  He is going to be a star Athlete!Wife:  He can be anything he wants to be…Me:  So long as he is Athletic!  And rough and rugged like his Dad!Wife:  Ummmm… I don’t think …Read More

I prefer "Emotionally Challenged"

October 21, 2010 by nohandsbutours adoption realities, Adrian, pre-adoption 0 Comments

Wife:  So, what are you looking forward to most when we get our new baby?Me:  Uh…  I donno.Wife:  Okay, um, what colour do you think we should paint in their room?Me:  Uh… I donno.Wife:  Okay… what do you think about the new chainsaw?Me:  OH!  The new Huskvarana 21″ with dual clutching system?  With the bigger …Read More

chainsaw encouragement

September 25, 2010 by nohandsbutours Adrian, guest post 0 Comments

Wife: You can totally cut down that tree! Me: Really? I donno. Its pretty big. And I’ve never really cut down a tree before. Wife: You can totally do it! Remember when you and your buddies took down the tree at our old place? Me: Yea, we tried to rent a chain saw, but the …Read More